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Archive for April 2009 - The Spokesman-Review

When parents talk about getting their babies to sleep through the night, crying it out or co-sleeping are the two options that are often mentioned. A column on Times Online, which is the website for The Times and The Sunday Times newspapers in the ...

Passenger on cruise ship: Wave ordeal terrifying - Tacoma News Tribune

New on high seas: Rooms for solo travelers NEW YOR K â€“ If youâ€™re planning a cruise vacation in 2010, get ready for higher prices, better entertainment, water parks and one of the most innovative concepts to come along in awhile: Rooms ...

Area filmmakers on tap at Lake County Film Fest - Morton Grove Champion

Palatine filmmaker Michael P. Noens is pleased to have two films making their world premieres in the 7th annual Lake County Film Festival, which opens Thursday at the College of Lake County in Grayslake. Noens, one of the founding members of Palatine ...

Patrick brings reelection bid to Wellesley - Abington Mariner

It’s not how most people live,” Patrick said of the idea that students are farming over their summer vacation summers. But, he said, “I haven ... If he’s going to be out there every single day between now and the election showing that he ...

American League Capsules: Rangers OF Hamilton eyes return next week - Brownsville Herald

Hamilton was scratched from both of the team's intrasquad games and Rangers manager Ron Washington said he won't play in the team's exhibition opener Thursday against Kansas City ... as a destination for a family vacation. There's school for his ...

It looks like Brooklyn District Attorney Charles Hynes is on track to ... - Town Hall

This week, Hynes announced that "no criminality has been found" after his investigation of the videotapes made by investigative journalists James O'Keefe and Hannah Giles, which show ACORN employees counseling the pair on getting a mortgage for a ...

Greece demands EU payback amid new austerity cuts - Times Online

The Greek Prime Minister is also due to visit President Sarkozy in Paris on Sunday and President Obama in Washington next Tuesday, in talks also expected to focus on the financial crisis, which has shaken confidence in the euro. The single currency ...

ferrari f430 - autoblog

Fans of classic racing liveries were elated when Aston Martin brought Gulf racing back on its Le Mans challengers. Now we've got another classic scheme on our hands, courtesy of STP. The ... Report: Ferrari to show 599 hybrid concept in Geneva Sam ...

MALSAM, NASCAR TRUCKS HEAD TO ATLANTA FOR ROUND 2 - Racing West

HAMPTON, Georgia — For most people, taking two or three weeks off from work is a vacation. For Northwest native Tayler Malsam and the rest of the drivers in NASCAR’s Camping World Truck Series, that’s just the way the early-season schedule goes ...

Bulletin board - March 4 - Abington Mariner

Upper Cape Cod Regional Technical School’s Practical Nurse Program will administer the required entrance exam on the following dates: Saturday, March 6 - registration deadline is March 1. The entrance examination will be administered at Upper Cape ...

Resolved Question: Where is a good vacation spot in Puerto Rico?

A couple of girlfriends and I want to plan a trip to Puerto Rico for this summer all the girls in this party around mid to late 20's and single so we're looking for nice beaches, good nightlife but a nice hotel also. I was looking in San Juan but I don't know if that's the best option also what is the best time to go there. If you can tell me a better place to go than Puerto Rico that would also be appreciated. thank you more

Resolved Question: I working on a manga ._." Any suggestions on it?

My manga is basically for all ages, since there are basically no mature content -- scratch that, absolutely NO MATURE CONTENT, unless crushes count o_o... Anyways the manga's call Secrets of Us Siblings Characters: Kichi Yamazaki- "Bubbly" intelligent girl, once frowned when she confessed her love to Hiro Saito during graduation. Lives in a home of one older sibling (Hideki) and two younger siblings (Kaori and Ichigo.) She also is taken care of her single mom. Hiro Saito- Cold heartened boy according to Kichi (after she confessed to him) , he has an older brother named Makoto. His father is keeping a secret from him since 5th grade and told him during summer vacation of 10th grade. Rin Suzuki- Rin S. is Kichi's best friend, her family comes from wealthy ancestors. Even if she is 100% tomboy she never wears the same outfit twice. PLOT: Kichi Yamazaki confessed her love to Hiro Suzuki, he then tells her his true feelings. . . he likes someone else. Before Kichi can become heart broken she lies and said that her friends dared her to say that she than runs away without a single teardrop. After waking up to a flashback from that day, she is more aware of getting heartbroken more than ever, she make a plan simple enough to accomplish or is it? She will have to try and avoid him for the rest of the year. The goes on and on I have the basics but still ahve to add more details to it. Lets just say Hiro's Dad's secret involves Hiro's mom's never ending business trip. more

Resolved Question: How can i convince my parents to go on Vacation?

Okay, I know this sounds silly, but how do i convince my parents to take my family on vacation to Paris, France. We go on vacation every single summer, just to the beach nothing TOO special. I have wanted to visit France for quite some time. But I dont want my parent to laugh in my face. I wouldn't know how to approach them about the topic. All I know is that I would love to spend two weeks down there with my mom, dad, and brother. I know, who doesn't? But still, I would love some advice. Thanks so much in advance! more

Voting Question: Can you help me plan a trip to Rio De Janeiro?

I have wanted to visit Rio for quite some time now. I have only heard good things. I have done some research, but I'm still unsure of how I should plan things out. When is Carnaval? And what is the price difference between a planning a normal vacation to Rio vs. planning one during Carnaval? I'd be interested in seeing the Christ the Redeemer Statue, Sugar Loaf, the Botanical Gardens, the various museums, etc. What else should I look to see/do while I'm there? How much would hang gliding and jet-skiing cost over there? I'm a single 25-year old male, so my friends and I would be interested in partying too. What's the bar/club scene like? Haha, Club Help was supposed to be a famous spot to check out, but I heard it closed down. Carnaval is supposed to be the most festive/best time to go, but it's also supposed to be a lot more expensive. They say December-March is the peak summer season, and that May-October is a cheaper, but colder off season. When is the best time to go and how much money should I set aside for say a 2-week trip, airfare included? Also, is it possible to get round trip tickets for less than $1,000 during certain times? I never seem to find these online specials I hear about. Everytime I look over flight times it's way more than $1,000. Thanks for your help/input. more

Resolved Question: Just throwing this out there, but..?

Does anyone really enjoy mainstream music? I mean, when I worked in my summer vacations, I worked in a factory where they were just playing the radio all day long. Everyone complained about how they just kept on playing the same songs.. over and over and over again! The funny thing is: the songs weren't exactly great, they had ridiculous lyrics and pretty much the only positive thing I can come up with about the songs is that they had a catchy chorus. Is that what people want nowadays? I find music to be the single most important thing in my life, and I can't even imagine living without it. Or, in this case, live with the music others chose for me! Like the latest 'pop diva'. I'm not trying to offend anyone here, but are lyrics like 'I want your disease' (Lady Gaga) really.. deep, meaningful and thought through? I can't stand it! But everyone adores her. She's 'new', 'refreshing' and a 'freak'. Why do people love her for being a freak? Goths and such are laughed at, everywhere in the world, but Lady Gaga gets more and more fans simply because she's different. Or are it the catchy choruses that people adore..? I can't imagine this either, because nowadays a monkey can press a button to generate a music beat, scream some mumbojumbo into a microphone, let someone throw an auto tune over it, and call it a hit. A far cry from talented people that have learned to play instruments with years and years of practice. People that have learned to sing, write marvelous texts, and send out brilliant thoughts into the world. Isn't it? It simply does not make any sense for me at all. Now, I know people won't like the artists that I adore either, but come on! There have to be more artists out there than the regular overused BS that's on the radio, right? I honestly think you are really missing out on life when, day after day, you listen to commercialized radio. On the way to work, on the way back home, while washing the dishes etc. Just take a weekend to explore different kinds of music! You might find yourself liking something you had always despised, and be happy with it. Understand other people's music choice better etc. Just throwing this out there, but does anyone feel the same about this? more

Voting Question: My life is so boring right now and I hate it!?

When I was younger I enjoyed christmas and the days and playing in the backyard and the summers and going on vacation and playing with my friends and going home with people after school and playing with dolls and my imaginary mind etc etc etcccc. Everything about life was so good! And soo fun! It's like the whole atmosphere was better! Well now (I'm 14) and my life has been turning into a blur. It seems like there's nothing fun about life. I live too far away from any kind of family (were talking 17+ hours here for ALL my family) I live with my step-dad, my mom, and my two half brothers. So the last time I saw my dad was when I was 7 years old :( every single day of my life.....I get up with a fight for school (cuz I HATE getting up, all I wanna do is sleep) I go to school, I laugh and have fun with all my friends, things are fun and things are miserable (school work and dumb teachers and crap) I come home, I eat myself to death cuz I'm so freaking bored. I get on the computer.....and then I do that the rest of the night. Every single day, all day that's my routine and I'm so sick of this. My family is truelly falling apart. We don't usually have family moment where we laugh and enjoy ourselves, were usually all mad at each other. I'm beginning to hate life. And I'm also turning into a monster. I'm becoming a spoiled uptight brat and this isn't me....I know it isn't. I'm trying to find the sweet funny and bubbly little girl I used to be. Known for my smile....and it's gone. I must be depressed or something. All my friends are talking about how they did this and that and their busy this weekend and they just had this crazy fun time with their best friend and I sit there and think......why can't my life be like that? Everyone else's life is so interesting and fun and mine is boring. I am never busy, every single time my friends call me I am ALWAYS available. I am never ever ever the one to have to go first (on the phone or on IM on facebook) I just really have no life and idk what to do. I also don't know what it's like to have a best friend that ur inseperable and u do everything together and u would stick up for them and they call u first etc. I mean I have that somewhat but it's not like the strong bonds u hear from others or read about or see on tv. Please help me? I'm sorry if I sound like a snot, I'm just sad:(I am in highschool....lol and I am ALWAYS the one calling all of my friends (very rarely do I get a call from one of them) I have a lot of friends to. more

Resolved Question: Would you question your wife going on vacation with another man?

My wife and I dated and lived together for 3 years, and have been married for 3 years and have a 2 year old child. We're both in our early to mid 30s- my wife is 34 and I'm 32. I've taken about 3 golf trips per year, and golf at least once every 2 weeks, while my wife watches our child. My wife recently told me she wanted to take a trip to get away for a week- as I do. However, she is a teacher, so she's limited to the days she can take during the year (she teaches throughout the year). She is planning a 5 day vacation with her ex boyfriend. She has told me that she wouldn't go on the vacation (she hasn't scheduled it yet, just planning it) if I didn't trust her. The two are both looking for nice, affordable condos on the beach that they can split down the middle and split the cost- this is supposed to be a cheap vacation getaway to the beach for her- same as when I go on my golf trips. She doesn't have any close girlfriends that she would take a trip with, nor does she have family members that can get away during spring break, or for that matter, 5 days on the beach. We're scheduled to take an expensive 10 day vacation with my parents and my wife and child in late summer, but my wife says she needs a break soon. My wife has been life long friends with this guy, dated him on and off again, and then dated him seriously for about 2 years right before we were married, They have remained in close contact with each other because they have been friends for such a long time. I haven't objected to their friendship-they talked while we were dating, engaged and he lives hundreds of miles away from us now; however, he has gone through a divorce and is single right now. They have stayed in touch mainly through Facebook, but do text and call each other sometimes. I'm going to let her go and trust her. Am I a fool? I've never questioned my wife's fidelity or love to me... more

Voting Question: Mother is afraid to go through divorce?

My mom has been separated from our father for almost two years. She left him for fear of herself as well as her children. He has a history of alcoholism and physical abuse. Now, she wants him to provide child support since he hasn't sent much money in these past two years. I understand that without court interference he isn't obliged to, but four children are a financial handful for a single mother living with her mom. She is afraid of our father gaining visitation rights and being able to take them out of state. Our father lives in Ga and we're upstate in Ny. My mother does not want him to take my siblings during summer vacations and holidays while she doesn't get to spend any time like that with them. My father has two strikes against him that I am aware of. One, when he got violent with me while I was in middle school. And two, when we left mom had physical abuse recorded with the police in Ga before we fled. He went to jail for a month after this and was sent to anger management and such. There is also talk within the family about my father abusing his siblings as well as his own mother, but i'm not too sure about how that would hold up in any court. Would this series of past events affect him gaining any sort of visitation rights? He followed the courts orders to go to AA and anger management. But, he was sent to these programs after the first incident and we see how that turned out. Sorry about the jumbled thoughts its just really late and mom is concerned about this. I just want to get any information on this. I'll greatly appreciate it.Haha see I told you its late I just didn't get down to it. The question is should my mom divorce my father instead of just going to child support? And, is there anything keeping him from getting out of state visitation rights based on past situations? more

Resolved Question: Is my boyfriend's best friend too involved in our lives?

My boyfriend's best friend is a woman he met a few years ago while stationed w/the military. She is married w/a son and her husband. He was married at the time (is now divorced). He says they talk about everything and she is the reason he made it through the divorce and she wil be in his life forever. They spent almost everyday talking/texting all day long, having dinner, helping w/chores, playing games over the internet. When he moved back this summer he got very upset when I asked that there be 1 day of no texting since we haven't lived in the same state for yrs and I wanted to be a bit selfish and not have to compete for his attention w/txt msgs from her all day long. He did it, but I know when he got the chance to call her and I left for work the phone was off the hook. He tells me there is and never was anything going on, that they both have significant others and would never want each other "that way". He doesn't talk to her that much when I am around but as soon as I am gone or suppose to be I've seen msgs that ask if I am gone yet or to call when I leave. Her husband does not like him so she only calls my bf when she is out of the house. He says her husband doesn't understand the emotional stuff when I tell him it isn't his job to fill in. They say that they can "feel" each other, that she knows exactly when we are "getting busy" and will try to give him sex tips, or they talk about issues that are personal to me, that I feel should stay between myself and my bf. She is constantly sending pics of the times that they spent 2gether, needs to know when he leaves and arrives from anywhere even when we were on vacation she would ask 3-4times a day to let her know that we were safe. Or he will ask me to call her to tell her he is ok. She is making things for us to put in his house, asking for explanations of my status updates on IM, he has an e-mail account which I know about that is just for her to send him msgs, says she misses him all the time and bawled for wks after he left, they have even decided that she would be his "best chick" when we get married and have picked out her dress and he hasn't even proposed yet. I just feel she is trying way too hard to be involved and/or stay involved in his life when she has her own family/husband to focus on. I told him he doesn't have to get rid of her just that it bothers me that they are so open to each other about everything in our lives and that it's too much emotional involvement. He swears he loves me, wants to marry me & doesn't want her ever like he does me. I am more of a private person than he is and he just tells me that's the kind of person he is. I'm not asking him to get rid of a friend just realize that it makes me uncomfortable to have another woman SO emotionally attached to him. To be honest I don't really want a million things around our house reminding him of another woman. Not sure what to do, 'cuz 1/2 the time we end up in a fight over her. I don't understand why she needs to know every single little detail of our lives now that she is 1000miles away and he and I are trying to start our life together ( we have been talking about getting married in the next year. He says it will hurt her feelings too much if I say anything to her. Any suggestions????? more

Voting Question: Should I risk loosing a decent marriage for the LOVE of my life?!? (A lot to read but I need the advice)?

My husband and I married 3 months after I found out I was pregnant. We had been dating just over a year when we found out and although my gut told me not to take that step (marriage) he was in the States on a student visa and suggested that it would be a good idea that way he could become a resident and we could be a family. As sweet as he was about the whole thing, I knew even then, as much as I did love him, I wasn't IN LOVE with him. The truth was, and still is...I'm in love with my "first love." We grew up together, both our mothers were single parents putting their kids through private school and who happened to live blocks away and so our families often did things together and go places during summer vacation or just to get out of town on the weekends. Even now, almost 20 yrs later, I can remember being 7 yrs old and just praying that someday I would marry him. As we all got older, our families slowly grew a part. I would occassionally run into him in the halls of our high school or random places in our town. We would say hi, have a small chat, and that would be it, but to me, it meant so much more. He knew our chats meant more to me, but he was too nice to say anything about that. He knew I had a thing for him, but never made a move. About 5 yrs later during my sophomore yr of college, out of the blue, he contacted me. He was going to be in town (he had served about 3 yrs in Iraq at the time) and he wanted to "hang out." I had a boyfriend of 4 weeks at the time (who ended up being my husband) but I met with him anyway. I wasn't the only person invited, but that didn't bother me. After taking a few shots of whatever the bartender gave me, I got the nerve to call him over. It was like a scene out of a movie, we looked into each others eyes, and knew what we wanted. I grabbed for him and he pulled me in. We didn't care that we're in middle of bathroom of a resturant. We didn't care that people were walking past us. When we finally pulled away, we both realized and admitted that we were involved with other people. I could of told him that long before I kissed him (and I did) by the quarter sized hicky he had on his neck. He said he cared about me but that since he was still on active duty, he would be in town for long and that he didn't want to be in a serious relationship. I didn't care what he had to say. I had finally kissed him. Later that night I spent the night at my boyfriends, and while in his arms, HE called me, more drunk then when I left him, wanting to know if I made it home ok. I whispered not to wake my guy up, worried that he would hear or catch on to what happened. I couldn't stop smiling though. A week later, while at a Fraternity party, I received a text from HIM, all it said was "I love you." I called him right away, he was drunk and I could hear a girls laugh and voices in the background. He was at a bar, possibly with the girl who gave him that hickey, but I didn't care, he told me he loved me, even if he "drunk texted." He told me he loved me, that he cared for me for as long as I cared for him but that he was afraid. He said that while in Iraq he carried a photo of us his mother took on the day of his "Bon Voyage" party before he was deployed. I told him exactly how I felt, and for how long I felt the way I did. He said if I were to break up with my boyfriend, he would leave his girlfriend, and we could be together. That converastion was everything I ever wanted to hear him say, and the one thing he asked me to do, I didn't do it. I don't know why, I still don't know why. Weeks later we talked and agreed that it WOULD be best that for the time being, we didn't take a chance on our love. That the timing of things wasn't right since he would be leaving again soon. The next time I would talk to him would be almost 14 months later at my wedding. Ironically we arrived at the church at the same time. He came up to me and we hugged. He dressed in a suit that almost made him look like the groom, and for the rest of that day until now, I wish he had been. While getting ready in the bridal room, I looked on to see him and I so badly wanted to slip him a note reading "I still love you. Runaway with me." Had he slipped me a note like that, I would have. I can honestly say I would have. When I said my vows, I thought of him. When we kissed as husband and wife, I thought of him. And when we shared our first dance, I though of him. The song was acutally meant for him, "A Love That Will Last." I cried while dancing to it-I was so angry that I had let it gone this far. I hadn't seen HIM since my wedding day. And actually about 8 months after my wedding I was told he was engaged. And recently, after finding him on Facebook, I've noticed he's still engaged, over a year later. I requested his friendship and within 24 hours he accepted it. It's been weeks since, and neither of us have contacted the other, no comments on each others page, no messages, no more

Resolved Question: How many times a week do you see your horse?

I see my horse every single day-rain or shine, -20 or 90, sick or not, riding or just going to see him, 8 pg research paper or finals week. every day. well i'm the only one at my farm who goes everyday. one other lady goes like5 days a week (b/c her horse is medicated), another comes out almost everyday in the summer, but maybe twice a month in the winter, and the rest are just scattered. some haven't been to see their horses in the 9 months i've had mine. so now i'm on vacation, and i miss him like crazy. you have no idea. i feel silly, since it's only been 2 days, but i'm used to seeing him everyday. i felt silly putting up 3 different contact numbers (mine, mom's, brother who lives here), my vet's number, and my farriers number, saying as i'm only gone 3 full days. especially since most people never come, you'd think i was leaving for months. i'm sure everyone else thinks i'm crazy, but he's my boy. i just want to make sure he's okay while i'm gone, i'm so used to checking up on him. :( so anyways, this just made me think. how often do you see your horse? oh and while we're at it, any tips for surviving the next 24 hours w/o him?? LOL more

Resolved Question: How do I convince my mom to let me go to DC?

I am in high school and I at the end of every year, there is a trip where you get to go somewhere and stay there for 3 days or so. This years trip costs $455 and I wanna go. My mom payed the first installment and then canceld it because I "missed" an orientation. Im not saying that the orientation isnt important or anything but this trip means the world to me. And its the last time I get to seee my friends because then its summer vacation. How the !@#$ do I convince her to let me go. ( she is really really really strict about not letting me. What a ****************************) So please help me. I feel sooooo embembarrassedght now because EVERY SINGLE PERSON is going and I am the only not not going........yet (with the help of you guys) I was crying all night because of this and now when eveevery single person is talking about, I have to sit out like a dumb @$$ because my mom is a ********* *** *** * ** ******** ****** *********!!!!! Can someone give me some advice or guidance? thanx =) more

Voting Question: My girlfriend broke up w/ me 2 day after christmas!!!!!! i am so depressed.....................…?

we have been together for 4 yrs. we live in nebraska. she's 25 yrs old and i'm 27 yrs old. back when we first met she would let her ex use her car and she would buy him stuff because he wasnt working nor was he taking care of his kids. he wasnt paying child support at all. she told me that she hated him and that he was no good but she was letting him use her car and she knew he was selling dope. she assured me she didnt want to be w/ him.she has 2 kids ( 6 yrs old & 4 yrs old) that are not mine. her baby's father is locked up for drugs and is on parole in 2011. i really thought we were going to have a future together. we rented a house together in january of 2009. at that time we were both excited and we both were happy about it. we went on a summer vacation w/ the kids to california via roadtrip. by all accounts we were building on a dream of both of ours. up until mid october we went everywhere together me and her. we went to football games, parties etc always me and her. she never once complained, never once said anything to me. then it seemed like to me after she went to a doctor and started losing weight and started hanging out w/ her new so called friends, it seemed like she changed. at first i didnt notice it. then one night she told me she going w/ her friend to a single moms thing at a local church. ok i didnt worry. then she comes back at like 4am telling me that she stopped at one of her guy friend's house (who i know) and fell asleep there and woke up and didnt know it was that late and she said she just left. then in november she said she was spending the night at her friends house and that we were going to spend the whole day together the next day. again i didnt worry, so 11am came the next day ans she wasnt home and i texted her insteading of calling her. she texted me back saying she would be home in alittle bit. then alittle bit turned into 2 hours. i was upset. i went for a walk so that the kids wouldnt see me upset. their grandma was watching the kids at that point. i came back in the house and texted her some more but more line of b.s. now i am in a state of paranoia. i'm upset and pissed but i keep my emotions in check. then at 430pm i get a text from her saying she'll be home in 1 hour and that her mom needed to go somewhere in 30 minutes and she wanted me to watch the kids. i said i wouldnt watch her kids until she came home and i asked her where she was. she couldnt tell me where she was. finally i did watch her kids and she came home at 6pm. we went into a private room and talked alone and i asked her" what if i told u we would spend the whole day together the next day and i pulled the same thing u did to me what would u do?" she said she would say nothing. that was b.s. i know her and she would flip out on me. also one day she left her profile up ona particular website on the computer so i looked at it and i found disturbing texts to guys and some revealing pictures of her on her homepage. she even texted one guy that were werent even together. i shouldve seen the handwriting on the wall then. i was upset. long story short we go through thanksgiving and we go through around christmas where she is having misgivings about our relationship. she said some of her issue dealt w/ some problems we had in 2008 & she thought ive changed and i thought we got past that. i asked her why did u rent this house w/ me if u had problems w/ me? she responded by telling me she was happy w/ me. she said doesnt know if she wants to be w/ me anymore but she said she also doesnt want to hurt my feelings. she said she wants to be single for awhile to find out if she wants to be w/ me or not. needless to say i was floored. i have been angry, sad, and depressed for a week. this was the worst christmas and new years ive had. i invested 4 yrs in this relationship. i worked when i was sick so sick i shouldve stayed in bed so that her kids would have the things they have and pay the bills and food to eat. i moved 1000 miles across the country just to be w/ her and now she wants to end it. i sked if she wanted to go to counseling but she said no. i feel ive been used to help take care of her kids and to let her ex off the hook and that she broke up w/ me now because she knew she was getting that $7000 tax refund for having kids because earlier she didnt have much money. what should i do?? i'm still on the lease i'm still living here. its so hard. more

Voting Question: Is it possible for 2 people are meant to be after finding each other over and over again?

Back story: I moved into town after spending my whole life elsewhere when I met someone. We hit it off right away but the timing was bad. I just got over a 3 1/2 year relationship and wasn't 100% ready to be in a relationship. Several months later, we met again at a party and once again the chemistry that was there the first time we met was there. At that time, I was ready to be in a relationship but it seems like he wasn't. Once again we went our separate ways. Another serveral months had passed and he found me again through my co-worker. During our conversation, he told me that he was back with his then girlfriend and thought it wouldn't be fair to me. But this time, I was dating someone and didn't want to mess things up. So once again, we went our separate ways. Then over the summer, he contact me while I was on vacation. At that point, I was single again but while I wanted to be with him, I wasn't ready. Now fast forward to yesterday and this time we met while I was getting some coffee. Since we had some time, we were able to catch up. He's still single and has his life together (something that didn't happen 2 years earlier) and I've been single for a while. With all those chance meetings in the past 2+ years, is it a sign that is saying "just be together already"? I just don't wanna be disappointed that he and I lose touch yet again like the many times before. During all those times we met, we got to know each other more and more. more

Voting Question: What do I do since my girlfriend found inappropriate instant messages on my computer?

Okay, here's the deal. I am a freshman in college and I have been with a good number of girls. Girlfriends, friends with benefits, hook ups, the whole deal. But I have never loved anyone. Except this one girl, that I have been obsessed with since I first met her when I was twelve years old. All I have done for the past few years is think about her. She's beautiful, but she never wanted to be more than just friends with me. This past summer however, she revealed to me that she has strong feelings for me. We had one of the most amazing nights ever that day. But I cannot be her boyfriend because I am not Christian. Her parents are very religious and she has been brought up that way. I get along with her family very well, and they invite me over all the time, but they do not know that her and I love each other. They would never allow her to be with me because of the fact that I am not Christian, no matter how "good" they might think I am. Anyways, it has been eight months since the first night we kissed, and we have been behaving as if we were a couple. We go on dates, we hold hands, we kiss, we are absolutely obsessed with one another. I trust her and she trusts me. I could not be happier and neither could she. We love being together. But again, her parents think we are just best friends. The problem is that every now and then, when things are going absolutely perfect and the two of us are on top of the world, she reminds me that we may never be together. That because I am not Christian we will never be a couple. Her parents would never accept me as more that just her friend. When she reminds me of this, I break down. I go home and I cry, which I NEVER do, and I throw up. I can't sleep. And every now and then, I will go online and send instant messages to people. I will enter chatrooms and send random people really flirtatious text messages. Everybody ignores them. Nobody has ever replied to a single one. I feel like a creep, and then I go to bed feeling like the most pathetic man on Earth. I have never told her about these desperate messages in the middle of the night. The other day she borrowed my laptop to take to work. She found the messages which I had completely forgotten about because it's not like I did that every night, just three or four times over the past eight months. You can imagine how betrayed she feels. She even found a flirtatious conversation I had with my ex-girlfriend that I had on one of those nights. I have never PHYSICALLY done anything with anybody else while we've been "together", it's just these few instant messages. I think it's finally over. I feel it. She does not trust me. And she does not want to speak to me. I return to school in a few days, which is 2,000 miles away from here. I NEED to see her before then. I can't move away feeling like it is over and not see her again until summer vacation. What do I do? Have I completely destroyed my chances with the girl of my dreams?These are some really great answers. I just want to add that I would never lie to her parents about my beliefs. I am not a very religious person but I do believe in God, just not in the Christian God. And I could never tell her parents otherwise. They would not believe me if I said I was Christian anyways. They know that I am not. Also, she herself wants a Christian boyfriend. Not just because of her parents, but because she herself wants a Christian boyfriend. I started praying a few months ago to see if maybe her God can hear me.I spoke to her the very next day after she confronted me about the instant messages. I cried in front of her for the first time. Never in my life have I cried in front of another person. The tears were pouring down from my face. It was embarrassing. She didn't mind and has always told me that it is okay to cry. I told her why I wrote the messages, and that nothing ever came out of them. She told me that she looks at me and all she sees is a liar now. We have texted each other and talked on the phone since then, but she keeps saying that she is not going to go out of her way to see me before I leave. She has a job and tons of school work since the semester just started at her university. I don't know what to do or say. I can't lose her. I feel so stupid asking for help here, but I don't know where else to go. How can I fix what I have done? Do I deserve a second chance? more

Resolved Question: What can I do about my daughter?

Our daughter, now 24 yo, was a troubled teen. She gave us a hard time, especially when she was 14 and 15 years old. Disrespectful, joined bad crowds and was very jealous of her lil sister, 2 years younger then her. She used to ne mean to her, so jealous she was. But without any reason, we never played favorites. Once she was really bad, even put her lil sister in danger, though she didn't really mean to harm her. She ended up getting a really harsh punishment, for a whole summer she was grounded from everything, couldn't enjoy single days of her school vacation and had to do a lot of extra chores. She apologized, said she was really sorry, asked for forgiveness and trust, but we were hard on her, said she had to face the consequences of her actions, didn't deserve our trust and would have to learn and prove herself the hard way. We still loved her, but we were firm, at that time we were really angry. She got devastated., but we carried out with her punishment. Fortunately, she changed, actually understood she had messed up and became her sister's best friend. She made us proud, but could never see us as loving parents any more. She never messed up again, but we lots our daughter. Respectful, but distant. We tried to reconnect with her, but it wasn't possible. We tried to talk, explain that at that time we had to take those measures, but it didn't work. Once she told us she couldn't forget those days and we'd always see us as the guys who punished her. She agreed she had messed up, but she suffered so much that to her we'd always mean law and punishment, not love. And she thought that, anyway, we'd been to harsh, though she messed up and deserved a punishment, we should still love her and punish with love. Today she's doing great, is graduated in Biology, has a good job, a great young woman. But, unfortunately, wrote us of her life. The last time we talked to her she told us we bring about those bad memories, it's impossible for her to be with us without reliving those days. What do you think about this situation? Does she have the right to write her parents off? Is this OK? What can we do? How can we live with this sad situation? more

Resolved Question: How to deal with our daughter?

Resolved Question: How can I convince my parents to let me go on a vacation this summer with friends/boyfriend?

My boyfriend and his friends (other couples/singles) are seniors but they aren't into partying and stuff. We want to take a quiet vacation to the beach to hang out without parents. We're paying for everything ourselves and sharing rooms. How can I get my parents to trust me enough to go? Honestly, nothing bad will be going on. We're not those kind of teens. more

Voting Question: Short passage--would like advice on perspective?

This is what I have so far of my first chapter. I'm not used to first person, though, so I'd like opinions on how my voice is and what I can do to refine it. ( /word/ is italics, since they don't show up on Y!A) When I was thirteen, my dad took me to a dinner for the families of his colleagues. He wore a tuxedo—not too different from his usual suits, except for the red bow tie and fabric wrapped around his waist. I remember my mom ruffling his hair and claiming he looked like a penguin. She was in a sparkly, spaghetti-strapped black dress and sleek heels, her hair in strategic curls and her makeup soft and conservative. I’d worn a dress myself, black like my mom’s with a white sweater around my shoulders and tiny heels, a strand of pearls around my neck and fake diamonds in my ears. Everyone at the dinner looked the same: men in tuxedos, women in fancy dresses clinging to their husbands’ arms as they moved around the room in an intricate dance. My dad insisted on greeting every single person—then introducing my mom, /this is my wife, Leigh,/ and me, /and our lovely daughter, Devon./ And I’d look into their eyes, confident, just as my mom taught me. I’d shake their hands the way she taught me, too, a firm grasp and a solid shake. And they’d laugh, /quite a grip, this one. She must take after you, Bob./ He’d laugh, too. I learned three things that night. One, you’re always on display. Always. Every single motion, every word, you’re always being analyzed. No matter what. Two, my dad never told his peers who my mom was. Every time he introduced us, she was always Leigh. After the tenth person, I finally realized they thought she was a stay-at-home mom. I always wondered what Dr. Leigh Evanston-Cooke, Ph.D., Ph.D. thought of that, but I never asked. Three, everything is politics. I never forgot that night. It stands out in every social encounter I’ve had since—and luckily. I went from slightly nerdy social outcast in middle school to running in some of the tightest circles in high school. Which was how I found myself at Majority Leader Alexis’s end-of-summer pool party, chatting lightly, while Majority Whip Rebecca glared at us over the Minority Leader’s shoulder. It was a perfect reflection of the Senate, if the lawmakers were teenage girls in bikinis and designer sunglasses. The mental image made me smile. “What is it?” Alexis asked, stopping in the middle of a story about her family’s trip to Greece the month before. “Oh, sorry,” I said, smiling as sincerely as I could. She knew it was false. “I was just caught up in your description of the islands. I’ve always wanted to see Greece, but never had the time. You know how it is.” She nodded, although I was sure she had no idea. Coordinating the General Assembly’s recesses with two different school schedules wasn’t easy. “Maybe next summer.” “You know, my cousin has a house there,” she responded. “We’ll probably go next summer, too. I’ll ask if you can come.” Both of us knew it wouldn’t happen. Carefully, I steered the conversation away from exotic vacation destinations and onto the coming year. Just as swiftly, Alexis started complaining about her English teacher. I sipped my drink and pretended to listen.To answer some questions: The working title is Ferryman (because I'm a pretentious mythology dork). It's a deconstruction of young adult paranormal romance with a strong mystery tilt. It isn't published, and I only started work on it a week ago. I am hoping to find an agent when I've finished and edited and workshopped. Thank you for your kind words! :) more

Resolved Question: my girlfriend broke up w/ me 2 day after christmas!!!!!! i am so depressed..............................?

we have been together for 4 yrs. we live in nebraska. she's 25 yrs old and i'm 27 yrs old. back when we first met she would let her ex use her car and she would buy him stuff because he wasnt working nor was he taking care of his kids. he wasnt paying child support at all. she told me that she hated him and that he was no good but she was letting him use her car and she knew he was selling dope. she assured me she didnt want to be w/ him.she has 2 kids ( 6 yrs old & 4 yrs old) that are not mine. her baby's father is locked up for drugs and is on aprole in 2011. i really thought we were going to have a future together. we rented a house together in january of 2009. at that time we were both excited and we both were happy about it. we went on a summer vacation w/ the kids to california via roadtrip. by all accounts we were building on a dream of both of ours. up until mid october we went everywhere together me and her. we went to football games, parties etc always me and her. she never once complained, never once said anything to me. then it seemed like to me after she went to a doctor and started losing weight and started hanging out w/ her new so called friends, it seemed like she changed. at first i didnt notice it. then one night she told me she going w/ her friend to a single moms thing at a local church. ok i didnt worry. then she comes back at like 4am telling me that she stopped at one of her guy friend's house (who i know) and fell asleep there and woke up and didnt know it was that late and she said she just left. then in november she said she was spending the night at her friends house and that we were going to spend the whole day together the next day. again i didnt worry, so 11am came the next day ans she wasnt home and i texted her insteading of calling her. she texted me back saying she would be home in alittle bit. then alittle bit turned into 2 hours. i was upset. i went for a walk so that the kids wouldnt see me upset. their grandma was watching the kids at that point. i came back in the house and texted her some more but more line of b.s. now i am in a state of paranoia. i'm upset and pissed but i keep my emotions in check. then at 430pm i get a text from her saying she'll be home in 1 hour and that her mom needed to go somewhere in 30 minutes and she wanted me to watch the kids. i said i wouldnt watch her kids until she came home and i asked her where she was. she couldnt tell me where she was. finally i did watch her kids and she came home at 6pm. we went into a private room and talked alone and i asked her" what if i told u we would spend the whole day together the next day and i pulled the same thing u did to me what would u do?" she said she would say nothing. that was b.s. i know her and she would flip out on me. also one day she left her profile up ona particular website on the computer so i looked at it and i found disturbing texts to guys and some revealing pictures of her on her homepage. she even texted one guy that were werent even together. i shouldve seen the handwriting on the wall then. i was upset. long story short we go through thanksgiving and we go through around christmas where she is having misgivings about our relationship. she said some of her issue dealt w/ some problems we had in 2008 & she thought ive changed and i thought we got past that. i asked her why did u rent this house w/ me if u had problems w/ me? she responded by telling me she was happy w/ me. she said doesnt know if she wants to be w/ me anymore but she said she also doesnt want to hurt my feelings. she said she wants to be single for awhile to find out if she wants to be w/ me or not. needless to say i was floored. i have been angry, sad, and depressed for a week. this was the worst christmas and new years ive had. i invested 4 yrs in this relationship. i worked when i was sick so sick i shouldve stayed in bed so that her kids would have the things they have and pay the bills and food to eat. i moved 1000 miles across the country just to be w/ her and now she wants to end it. i sked if she wanted to go to counseling but she said no. i feel ive been used to help take care of her kids and to let her ex off the hook and that she broke up w/ me now because she knew she was getting that $7000 tax refund for having kids because earlier she didnt have much money. what should i do?? i'm still on the lease i'm still living here. its so hard. more

Resolved Question: grants for high school seniors???....?

I am a high school senior and am unable to get a job because of my anxiety disorder. I have a single parent that is trying to help me come up with $5000 to go to japan for two weeks this summer vacation with my high school. we only have two hundred saved up so far after saving all year of 2009 and the first payment is due soon of $875 so I was wondering if there are any grants that I can get that could help me to pay for this. We can't get loans or anything because of stupid credit scores and I'm not in college yet so all the scholarships i looked up won't work for me and the ones that will work are already past the deadline. I have sent in letters to the lafayette breakfast optimist club, the rotary club, and the lafayette lions club but they havn't responded yet....please help me!!! more

Resolved Question: i need your help understanding what to do .?

i am a single parent who has not had a vacation in a very long time don't i have ever had one as an adult . anyway i have two kids one 12 the other 6 the six year old live's with me and the other with his grandma . the thing is they cry and and swear i don't love them that i hate them when i just suggest going somewhere or me doing something for my own entertainment without them my youngest is not so bad but the older one that don't live with me looks devastated when i tell him i want to go alone he breaks down and crys and tells my other child that i hate him and that the younger one is so lucky . i don't know how to deal with this i treat them both the same and include them in everything i can . my problem at the Moment is that this coming summer i want to take a week to myself go somewhere . and would like to not involve my kids i have already got a sitter and have told my kids and the oldest has already started to complain . i would like you opinion on how to ease there minds so they can understand that i need to get out sometimes too . helpi responce to one of the answers i have recevied . i have taken my kids out to amusmentparks for weekends and camping and movies , fourwheeling in my blazer many many things i have given them for entertainment . . so have you got any other sugestions as to how to deal with it as i don't want them to hold it against me . more

Resolved Question: Looking for suggestions trying question again to fix what I said?

We have been married for 5 years. I have 2 kids from before we married (10, 7). My husband is the greatest man in the world and love him with all my heart. He treats my kids like they are his kids and has done so since the beginning. The kids real father was a abusive and gladly have not heard of seen him since before the youngest was born. Ok this happened almost 10 months ago. While at a cook out I was talking with some friends and made a few comments that probably shouldn't have. I could blame it on being a bit drunk but still in hind sight was not something should have ever said. The worst part was that my husband overheard my comments and thats what has really made our life a mess. The comment was about my husbands size and how I missed that part of some exboyfriends I had before particularly the father of my children. The fact that I had even sometimes fantasized about them while having sex with my husband. Now have to say, in his behave, that mentioned his great oral skills but that didn't seem to make things any better either. I know should have never made the comments in the first place but someone brought up conversation about size and fantasies and I just let my mouth get ahead of my brain. When my husband heard it he left the party immediately I ended up having to find a ride home that night. He also moved into the guest room for a couple weeks. One night, a couple weeks later,I came home to find our bed was gone and 2 singles were in our bedroom. Which is where we have been sleeping since. He in his bed and me in mine. I have tried everything can think of to make things better. When ever try to talk to him about it just ends in a big yelling match. He is still great to the kids and we talk about everything else as before but no intimacy. We still went on vacation to Disney this summer all of us and had a great time but nothing intimate even though we had seperate connecting room from kids. Also we still have date night twice a week and have good times out but no touching intimtacy of anykind. I have dressed sexy, tried clmibing in bed with him, etc and nothing seems to fix the problem. Have even asked him to go with me to counciling and he refuses. I love him the kids love him can not see myself without him but living with no intimacy or sex is driving me nuts. He has told me since I dont seem to do it for me then why bother. Also that if am that unhappy that I can just move out, he had the house before we married. What really hurts even more is that prior to that party we were talking about having a baby together and as can tell thats not going to happen. I love him so much and can tell he loves me and the kids but I have destroyed his ego and can not seem to fix it more

Voting Question: Help have run out of ideas to fix what I said?

Resolved Question: How to deal with Holidays and unwanted visitors - kind of long, advice needed?

I'm currently in a college that's on the other coast from where my mother lives, so I very rarely get to see her. Lately, she's been dating a new man. Every time she comes to me see, ever since starting to see this man, he's always with her. Sometimes, I just want to be with my mother by ourselves. I've seen him every single holiday since last summer - Father's Day, Forth of July, Labor Day, Columbus Day, Thanksgiving. I had to beg my mother for us to spend my birthday with just me and her as he wanted to show up then too. This man's personality is actually pretty clingy, he calls her all the time and he cries if she threatens to break up with him (which is often - they're relationship reminds me of teens in high school). He also has several mental disorder and strange personality quirks which just makes it very difficult to be around him. For example, The last time he came to my apartment, he picked up a box of Rit Dye (which I had opened earlier, and I knew it was open so I laid it down a certain way) and started shaking it. Dye came out everywhere. I told him I knew it was open, and to please just lay it back down. Then, he starts shaking it even more so that he can show me the dye and then shakes the second box of dye everywhere. It ended up permanently staining the marble countertop of my apartment and he made zero effort to clean it up, he said he would do it later -- and never did. I now have to pay for counter and he hasn't even offered to help with that either. Sometimes it feels like I'm around a child, I would expect a child to do the above. Because of the above, it's extremely exhausting being with him. I'm always worried about what he's going to destroy next. He's very hyper, is incapable of paying attention, has severe anxiety, depression, paranoia, he requires constant reassurance -- these are just what I know about him. I don't know if there's more. But his personality can be very draining to be around. He's also quite a rude guest. When he and my mother visits, he treats MY apartment like HIS house. I'm the one paying the bills for it. He constantly says how he feels at home, puts his feet (shoes and all) on my glass coffee table, he once sat on my coffee table - and since it's on the flimsy side, I was mentally freaking out - he doesn't take his shoes off, and he walks around like it's his place. In the fall, he invited himself, his daughter, two of her friends, and a bunch of other people over to my apartment in a different state, to spend the night, and have me be their tour guide of the city. He invited them, I didn't know these people - these strangers spent three nights in my apartment and requested I revolve my schedule around them to take them around the city. I spoke to my mother about this and she said to just stay in my bedroom when he's around. Which I still think is not entirely fair since it's my apartment,, I shouldn't have to hide in my room - I also am genuinely trying not to be rude to him and thought that it may be offensive, but I did need a break from him..So I relented. He then proceeds to enter my bedroom, without knocking, over and over and over and over. Now I'm coming home for Christmas, and again he's going to be there for Christmas and New Years, he's staying the full week. I asked my mother if, just this once, we could have a holiday with just she and I. She sent me a text saying I'm being selfish and how everything is always about me. Which actually hurt my feelings because I've been trying very hard to not be selfish and to like this man. But it's too much, too soon. I don't need to be around him constantly. They're already planning their spring and summer vacations with him, and his daughters, and my mother. I'm not able to go since I have to work and have summer courses. So now it feels like I'm not even apart of this family anymore. Am I really selfish for wanting to spend some alone time with my mother for Christmas? I genuinely would like to know so I can take a look myself and my own actions if need be. I don't want to be a bad person but I'm having trouble accepting this. Even on my birthday, she spent most of the day on the phone and texting him for hours non-stop. I'm not exaggerating, it was about four hours straight on the phone. This is actually normal for them. Also, this is my first time coming back home in two years. I don't mind that she's dating him, she's dated other men in the past, and he is nice, I do believe his intentions are good - but nobody has ever been forced upon me so greatly before. Could anyone offer some advice? I honestly don't mean to come across a spoiled brat, I don't know what to do. My mother and I have always been extremely close, and this is driving a wedge into our relationship. We're no longer speaking at the moment. more

Voting Question: How do I get my ex boyfriend back?

Okay, I am now a Freshman in high school, and had my first boyfriend in 7th grade. He was actually my first REAL boyfriend. Before we started dating, we were really good friends. Then we started dating, and it was amazing :) He was a great boyfriend. He was very protective, and I liked that. He really did care a lot about me. I cared, and still do care so much about him. But, anyways.. We started dating the april of 2008. Then, over the summer, I went on vacation to a different state. I came back, and we were still dating and all, but we just kind of drifted apart, i guess you could say. School started in 8th grade, and it didn't even feel like we were dating. We didn't go on dates anymore, and he came to my house once with his brother in November I think. We talked and all, and did things that boyfriend and girlfriends do, but I don't really know what happened. Finally, it was in February when he played a really REALLY bad joke on me. We were at lunch, and his bestfriend comes up to me and says, "______ says it's OVER! You just got DUMPEDDD!" Immediately, I broke down. Then, going to my next period, I found out that he was "JOKING". A few periods passed until I would be able to see him again. He comes up to me, tries to hug me, and I flip out on him. He just walks away. And that night I did not want to talk to him. The next day, I was still upset and cried practically the whole day! (Oh, It was a few days before Valentine's day too) So, I came home that day and I texted him asking him if he still wanted his Valentine's day present. He texted me back saying "idk". So, I texted him back and wanted to know if we were still even dating or not. He then said, "idk", again. Then the next day he told his friends he was happy to be single, and had asked out another girl while I was texting him the night before. I was a wreck the whole day. :( That very same day, there was a dance. He was texting me during the dance apologizing, telling me his brother dared him to, and that he's sorry etc. I told him I would think about it, and the next morning, (VALENTINE'S DAY!) I finally forgave him. He took me to the movies. So for the next few weeks were invincible. :) We were THE perfect couple :) He really was THE best boyfriend. He walked me to, and from school, talked to my step dad about "breaking my heart". But, things turned sour a few weeks back into the relationship. He was really just pissing me off for the past few days by that time. He was hanging out with other girls, but I don't know what it was. So, I broke up with him. We didn't talk for a few weeks, but started talking much more afterward. So toward the end of the school year, he began liking me again, but dated other girls and the relationships quickly ended. Then, over the summer we started talking. He took the initiative to talk to me about his current girlfriend. He was saying that she didn't really feel right for him, and that he didn't know what to do. Then a few days later, he had broken up with her. I didn't think he would do that! So, I dated him for a THIRD time for the rest of the summer. But, high school came around. And he broke up with me the first day :( I really don't know what happened?! But, I still do care about him. And one time, he was really sick, and i felt like crying I remember. And whenever he had those girlfriends after we broke up for the second time, I remember feeling horrible for putting him through something like that. I am seriously really caring and passionate about him. How do I let him know?! How do I get him back?!! more

Resolved Question: What is your favorite factoid about Israel?

I'm compiling a list of great Israel facts to present to the next Israel class. You see I, along with other students are my university, went to Israel this past summer and will now be sending off the next set of students. So anything you can add would be greatly appreciated, though here is my list. 1) Israel was the only country to enter the 21st century with a net gain in its number of trees. 2) The glue on the back of the Israeli stamp is kosher/halal 3) From the secular point of view, Israel is the holiest country on earth. Containing the holiest sites for christianity and judaism, and the third holiest site in Islam. 4) Israel has more museums per capita than any other country. 5) Haoman Jerusalem has been rated one of the top night clubs in the world. 6) The Israeli army is the only army in the world that does not kill captured terrorist but rather treats them as ordinary prisoners. 7) The Israeli army is the only army in the world that takes their soldiers on as many vacations, day trips, religious events and cultural events. 8) Israel has more charitable organizations that help the palestians that any single arab nation surrounding Israel. more

Resolved Question: Fluent Spanish speakers,can you translate this radio ad?

NOTE: My Spanish teacher does not teach at all! She just hands us a buttload of work to do and goes on her computer for the whole period. And, she expects us to finish it all during the whole period and makes us turn it in. She doesn't let us take our textbooks home; in fact, she makes us leave it in class because she thinks that if we take it home, we would forget to bring it when necessary -_____- All of the sudden on Friday, she gave us this radio ad that we have to translate in Spanish. Like WTF? She didn't even teach us the lesson required to accomplish this. So I asked every single person I know in the class if they know what to do, and they unfortunately said no. Btw, I am in Spanish 3-4. My class and I haven't learned anything in that class yet. Ugh, I hate my teacher so much... Radio Ad: Escape to the summer resort in Latin America, where you can have it all without ever leaving it. We offer all of the amazing activities and service that you are looking for in a destination vacation. Get comfortable in our hotel featuring 150 luxurious guest rooms along with 11 imperial suites. Our rooms and suites have wonderful views of our pools and beautiful golf courses. For breakfast, lunch or dinner, stop by our buffet and enjoy our food ranging from sushi to baby back ribs. Check out our relaxing room where you can enjoy television in high definition, play video games, and surf the internet on our iMacs. For activities, we provide the best mountain climbing, water skiing, windsurfing, deep-sea fishing, sky diving, and much more. While doing that, we make sure that our guests are safe while doing the activities. Our activities have been recognized as number one by CNN news Latin America. If you plan to go to our summer resort, then pack up your shirts,bathing suits,shorts,hats,tank tops and sunscreen! Call 1-800-888-6666 to make your reservations. more

Resolved Question: Where is a great place for young women to go on vacation in the US?

I'm a young, single woman planning a summer vacation with 2-3 friends. Where would you suggest we go? It has to be fairly cheap, and we have to limit it to the US. What do you suggest?? Let me know what your favorite vacations have been!! more

Resolved Question: Will I EVER meet this girl?

Okay, so I met this girl gamer on XBOX. She is like the KOOLEST person ever. She is thoughtful, helpful, interesting and enjoyable to play with. We first met exactly one year and three months ago. This past summer, her and I played XBOX almost religiously. I would say, on average six hours, every single day. Except, when she went on vacation to Miami. Two weeks :( At first, she was just another teammate. But lately, we have gotten to know each other too much, and now she has me craving to meet her in person. Do you think it's even possible, for me to even see her? more

Resolved Question: Is it ridiculous to want to divorce your husband because he hunts every single weekend for 3 months straight?

by the way, he also took an entire week off (vacation time) from work last week to hunt and only 1 day during the summer to go to the beach with us on the weekend (his wife and daughter). it seems ridiculous for me to want a divorce but I am so unbelievable unhappy with him every time hunting season begins that I have dreams about asking him for a divorce. we've been married 4 years next month and he did NOT hunt when we dated so I had no idea how obsessed he was with it. more

Resolved Question: How can I get a girl to like me? It was always the boys >.<..?

Last year, I was the most quiet girl in class, down-to-earth person, I was never concerned about my looks like how I had a platoon of pimples on my face, haha, yeah.. and some people see me as a tomboy, well 'cuz I act boyish too. I became self-concious about how I look and act. So when it was summer vacation, I took care of my face and decided to change my hairstyle. That time, I already knew that I was a les, so I thought to myself that maybe this year, I might have a luck with the girls. So like after 2 and a half months, my face was clearer, fairer and smoother.. and I look like a GIRL. Ok bla bla bla.. so it was the 1st day of school and I noticed that a lot of people are looking at me now. Sooo after a few months, I became one of the noisiest girls in class cuz I was kinda influenced by my seatmates and my other noisy buddies. Hmm.. a lot of boys confessed that they like me but it didn't move me at all, there wasn't any spark but when a girl tells me that I'm beautiful, I blush or when they tell me that they'd go bi for me, even though it was a joke, I still blush like hell. My crush even shouted "Jill! you've changed! I think I love you now!". It's difficult cuz the guys are htiing on me now and I don't like it. There was this guy who even told me that last year, he thought I was wierd, but now I changed big time. I flirted with my crush but she told me that even though she was straight, it was fine with her. It was always the guys.. there wasn't even a single girl who confessed that they like me.. btw.. 'crush' is such a childish word, hahai'm a girl looking for a girl.. why would i want a guy to like me?? more

Resolved Question: Should i confront the person i thought was my friend?

Well the situation right now is that she apparently hates me. This started a week before summer vacation because i became a vegetarian. i decide to turn my life around because i want to make a change and she actually helped me realize it without knowing it. when school started she began acting like a bitch to me and telling me things out of nowhere and i thought that was weird until one day she completely stopped talking to me and started avoiding my presence. i was whatever about it because her an i have always had a love and hate relationship. we confirmed this after knowing each other for 6 years but i guess she was never the friend i thought she was. last year i used to make sarcastic jokes about her being a vegetarian but every single time we got out of that class, which was the only one that i did that in, i apologized adn always said "sorry **** you know how i ma right, i was just bored" and she always said it was fine and i thought that because we had known each other for a long time she would realize that i was telling the truth and that i had no reason to do anything bad to her. we got close for a while and she used to tell me about all her problems and how she wanted to move school because she hated it and had no friends, and i always comforted her and tried to stop her from leaving us for her other friends and she agreed but i guess it wasn't because of me. For all this she is calling me a hypocrite and i truly didn't care because if i hate myself then there is no reason for others not to hate but it really hurt that she would think that and that even though i thought that she would not take things seriously because she knew me she would turn up with this shit.why would she ever do that? i trusted her and confided in her and now it has all changed, i don't trust my friends any more and i don't have any best or close friends any more. there's a wall in between us. i sincerely told my friends that it was her decision to stop talking to me and that i respected it. i often times spoke of her as if she was still a friend, i never once thought about hating her for what she did and i never wanted to make our friends chose so i was always just ignoring the fact that she hates, i even made new friends because i wanted my other friends to spend time with her without her avoiding them because i was with them so yeah 2 days ago my friend told me that she was telling all my other friends that i was a hypocrite and that you couldn't trust me and it fucking pissed me off because she was not acting mature at all. why is she seriously acting like a bitch? she keeps making them chose, making me look like a jerk, acting all happy when i'm sad and trying to leave me out of conversations when we are close by. i really want to tell her to stop talking shit about this but i'm not sure if i should tell her or just ignore it and let it slowly hurt me from the inside and let the trust i once had in all my friends fade away. :( OH did i mention that she is telling my friends too that i was the cause of her depression, the reason that she said she wanted to move schools and that my competitiveness was getting to her. more

Resolved Question: something dark on my soul maybe?

hi how are you? I'm a 25 year old male. I have had a bit of a ruff life but never did anything very bad. at about 20 turned my self into something. for about 4 years things went well for me. and as always i did my best to be a good person. until one day. last summer I'm getting ready to go on vacation. driving there a few things happened to make me miss my flight. It was a 3 hour drive to the air port, so i got my fiancee (who love me very much and i loved) to drive me there. because i missed my flight i had to pay for new tickets leaving me broke and to wait in the air port for 12 hours. of corse being broke now, i couldn't drive back home to come back. the first sine that something was happening was my flight numbers. one was 213 and i am unsure about the other it had six-six-6 in it I'm sure. after a day on vacation my loved one who couldn't live with out calls me up and told me she met up with an old friend and got drunk and cheated on me while in the city. i took the news hard ruined my vacation. about 2 weeks latter im getting ready to go home. at 3-am Im in the airport doors for my 4 o-clock flight. at about 9-am the tell us to re-book our flights, because the plain was not coming. after rebooking and being 2 days late to be home my plans again where ruined. Me and my other had agreed to put the (mistake) behind us. however she decided to leave me for dead, said she needs to b single. so.. if your still with me lmao. being heart broken and almost killing my self i leave my job, i was going to anyway. and got another job that i like along with a high class car. half a year latter im getting happy again. i find a girl and move 4 hours away from my old town. so here i am good girl, and in the middle of the oil field. At this time the chances of me getting a job that pays $40+ an hour and giving me a chance to fallow my dreams are great... no better then great. But thats the time the economy collapsed. And i was unable to find a job anywhere. I kept trying I kept doing my best. A while latter i have a chance again but... they came and took my car. After awhile again, i managed to get another car not a great one i payed $1000 for it. but... it was A z24, My teenage dream car. about 6 weeks after some one spit in my face at a red light causing m to run into them, doing alot of damage to my car (witch was in great condition) and getting m a careless driving ticket. so again there i was with the bad end of the stick. but i manage to find a good job. they ask for a drivers abstract where i find out that in 2 weeks i will loose my drivers for 28 days due to loss of demerits. because of that ticket. so i was able to work for a week but lost my job when i was un able to get a work only clause to my drivers. again im without nothing. about 5 or 6 weeks latter i am offered another job. I need a Criminal record check. but Didn't get the job because of a charge i got when i was 18 for telling a cop my name was John Doe. so... a few weeks latter i have another job 2 days into it my car breaks down, and i loose that job. with out a job or a car i was ready for the street. However my grandfather buys me a new car with the clause i pay him back. Great a new car thats good for 10 years. but i still have no job. Now not a thing goes right for me. it's been just over a year. im still not working and if it wasn't for my girlfriend i don't know what i would do. Im not sure what happened to me. I am not a bad person and im sure i don't ow karma this much. What could have happened to me? and is there a way to reverse it? thank you and have a great day. more

Resolved Question: Is he really worth waiting for?

Alright well obviously its about a guy, I have no idea what to do about him. Need some help. Alright well Iv known this guy named D. for almost a year now. At first we were just friends in our old science class, we never really talked at all and than one day he texts me, getting my number from my best friend ( they use to date). We started talking in January, just getting to know each other, simple things like what we like and dislike. Sometime during March he asked if I liked anybody. I told him I like him, and he said he liked me too. I thought he was gonna ask me out after that, but a week after I told him I liked him, he goes and asks this other girl out. I of course asked him why he wanted to know who I liked if he was just gonna ask someone else out. He said he asked her out cause he had known her longer, which is true, so it was pretty understandable why he asked her out. We still talked a lot still after that, being good friends. They eventually had to break up cause the girls dad didn't want her dating. He started acting like he did when we first started talking, acting like he liked me. He would continually ask if I still liked him, I would tell him yes cause I still did. At one point I was thinking about asking him out, but that really didn't turn out well in my favor. He found out about it and told my best friend that I shouldn ask him out, and wait till after our break my school was having, His reason he wanted me to wait to ask was cause he didn't want me to ask and not be able to see me during break. I said alright makes sense. An yet during break I found out that he already asked somebody else out, and that they were going out when I was planning on asking him. I was mad at first cause all he seemed to do was pick somebody else even though he said he liked me. But yeah him and that new girl dated for a while, but she was a total bitch, I never knew why he liked her. They dated off and on for like 6 times. He never understood why he liked her too. This whole thing lasted till about the start of summer vacation. We were both in different states all of break, him in atlanta and me in my home state and Tennesseee visiting my dad. We talked the whole time during break, liking each other more and more. He said he wanted to be with me when we got back home, but when we got back that didn't happen. He said he wasn't over his ex and that he wasn't sure how he felt about me anymore cause we kinda didn't talk for a couple of days cause my phone was having problems. We stopped talking after he said he wasn'tn sure about his feelings for me, I didn't want to get my hopes up again. A little after a week he IM's me, asking how im doing and apologizing. We talked about things between me and him for a while, saying how he felt bad and that he would understand if I already have a bf. I still liked him after all he has done, I dont know why though. I told him that I would wait for him to get over his ex cause he said he realized he still liked me and wants to be with me. Its been about 4 months since he IM me. We still talk all the time, flirting, being friends and yet I wonder why am I waiting. I mean if he liked me wouldn he ask me out by now? My best friend( the one that dated him) said once that he just likes being single and being able to flirt and im starting to think she is right cause about 2 weeks ago he texts me apologizing cause he kissed one of his friends when they were hanging out, he said it was a 'just in the moment' kinda thing and that he didn't mean for it to happen. Now my best friend is trying to hook me up with one of her good guy friends cause she is tired of him making me wait. This new guy seems like he could treat me right and my best friend thinks we would be really good together. I really need some help, please. Should I wait for this guy to make up his mind he wants me or should I go for the one my friend is trying to hook me up with?? more

Resolved Question: does he see me that way? mixed singnals? PLEASE help me i need it.?

okay so i am a freshmen. I met this guy in 8th grade, and we car pooled and our parents became good friends, so we saw each other a lot. well by the end of the year, we were naturally very good friends. over the summer, i saw him like every single day i was no on vacation (always just the two of us). you can imagine that we are very comfortable with each other. he is one of my best friends. I have always liked him. He knows that. well i told him that i still like him about two weeks ago, and he said nothing. I asked him about 4 days later who he liked, and he didnt really answer. he just said that he has seen girls, but nothing serious. the thing is, he gives me signes sometimes. like he was my date to homecoming, and a few days ago we were watching tv and he let me lay my head on his shoulder, and when he saw me at a football game he ran up and huged me and told me he had been looking for me. and when we go up to his room, we just lay on his bed together. along with all that, he also does some stuff thats is totaly and cmpletley just frineds. why is he giving me mixed singnals? what does this mean? more

Resolved Question: Please read the whole question and help me out. PLEASE!?

This girl and I we're like best friends. We used to talk to each other every single day. I remember since the middle of june in our summer vacation to october, we talked for hours every single day, we used to get along like bread and butter, and we're perfectly compatible. I told her I liked her, but didn't ask her out because she had just broken up with this other guy. At first she didn't believe me later we just stopped talking about it. Although the topic came up many times. 1 month later after some other holiday for one month in september, in october something happened. She didn't talk to me as much, and I stopped too. My friend who was sitting beside her kept on asking whether anything was gonna happen between us, At fist she said she didn't know, later she said not gonna happen. After I heard that I didn't talk to her for like 2 weeks, cause it was really awkward for me.Weird thing is she didn't talk to me either. As if she was ignoring me. Later her friend helped me out and we started talking again a bit. She asked me a few days later whether I still liked her or not. I stalled, adn later lied saying I don't. This girl is like really dum she doesen't get when a guy is lying to her and I used to advise her about these these things. We were so close, sharing everything with each other. But now she's avoiding me. I fell in love with her, but I don't know what the **** is wrong. Before she used to tell me how I had the qualities she wanted in a boy friend. But now she's falling for this other guy who is a jerk and is tricking her. She's gonna move to another school january. So I have very little time to do anything with my tests coming up in december. So what should I do? I really am in love with her. Even the stupid star sign thigy's say that we're meant to be together. I'm a scorpio she's a pisces. I don't care how long it takes. I'm willing to wait. Even if it happens llike with Ross and Rachel in F.R.I.E.N.D.S I'll love her for the next 10 years if I have to. I know we'll be perfect together. But I'm like a straight A's getting, all around good guy, but good looking, and she's one of the most popular and prettiest girls in school. And tru love is supposed to have a happy ending right. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT I CAN DO? BTW I cant really date anyone now. And she's like this super rich girl, but i'm average (I knw I posted this question twice befor but no one really helped out) more

Resolved Question: What should I do? Please help.?

This girl and I we're like best friends. We used to talk to each other every single day. I remember since the middle of june in our summer vacation to october, we talked for hours every single day, we used to get along like bread and butter, and we're perfectly compatible. I told her I liked her, but didn't ask her out because she had just broken up with this other guy. At first she didn't believe me later we just stopped talking about it. Although the topic came up many times. 1 month later after some other holiday for one month in september, in october something happened. She didn't talk to me as much, and I stopped too. My friend who was sitting beside her kept on asking whether anything was gonna happen between us, At fist she said she didn't know, later she said not gonna happen. After I heard that I didn't talk to her for like 2 weeks, cause it was really awkward for me.Weird thing is she didn't talk to me either. As if she was ignoring me. Later her friend helped me out and we started talking again a bit. She asked me a few days later whether I still liked her or not. I stalled, adn later lied saying I don't. This girl is like really dum she doesen't get when a guy is lying to her and I used to advise her about these these things. We were so close, sharing everything with each other. But now she's avoiding me. I fell in love with her, but I don't know what the fuck is wrong. Before she used to tell me how I had the qualities she wanted in a boy friend. But now she's falling for this other guy who is a jerk and is tricking her. She's gonna move to another school january. So I have very little time to do anything with my tests coming up in december. So what should I do? I really am in love with her. But she doesn't listen to me anymore. :( more

Resolved Question: How should I handle a boyfriend who constantly defends his mother and picks her over me consistently?

Of course he denies it, but ever since a specifically bad incident this summer. Okay here's the story: I was promised to be invited to a family vacation, which was not a surprise since I had known him 4+ years and been officially dating him 1+ years already and very often traveled with them to errands out of town.(He had also joined me and my family to a weekend trip to my cousin's wedding- stayed in the hotel room with my dad and brother) We were very close and had spent so much of our lives together, yet when his sister decided she was too good to spend time with me his family just let it happen... because I obviously don't mean enough to them... As if it wasn't insulting enough that I had been friends with his sister for many many years, even 6 years of band together, 9ish years of sports... To add insult to injury she wasn't told to suck it up... I didn't get to go. Of course my boyfriend went... which I thought wrong in itself... Not to mention his mother went INTO HIS DIRTY LAUNDRY TO FIND A LETTER I HAD WROTE HIM EXPRESSING MY DISCONTENT at the situation... and showed 3+ of her friends, her daughters her daughters' friends... wow huh. NEVER once apologized. ANYWAYS I didn't see his family once in 5 months but had to swallow my pride and go on an outing when they visited him this past weekend... It was terrible and awkward. But HE thought things were suddenly fixed?!!?! I don't know. I'm just asking advice on how to get him to see the error of his ways, he communicates with her every single day. I feel like he doesn't care how badly I was hurt. I feel like he would pick her feelings over mine any day. I feel like he can't stand up for me... Help... I love him and have sacrificed everything for this guy. My future is planned with him being a centerpiece.... more

Resolved Question: Hi All, I am married, having a 8 year old daughter, me and wife are living like seperated in the same house.?

I have been married for the past 9 years and we have an 8 year old daughter. We are from india but lives in Denmark now. I and my wife do not go well together. She is very bossy, very arrogant; often have nasty arguments and verbal fights me in front of my daughter or even in the street or in the public. I have never seen a woman with so much pride and selfishness in my life. When she becomes really angry she even throw things in the room, shout very loud without even considering the neighbors. In the beginning I tried to adjust with her hoping that things are going to get better. But there was no change in her behavior. In fact it got more worst over the years. She just wants everything in her own way. Just for an example to show her attitude and behavior I am writing the following that happened recently. I want to visit my parents and friend in India every year. My wife doesn't want to come to india and visit her parents or relatives. Every time when I talk about going to india for a vacation she always find so many excuses. This year summer finally she agreed to go to india for exactly 30 days. I went to book the tickets to india. I get a cheaper ticket, if I am ready to travel on monday evening. But she was not ready to travel on that particular day, because if we travel on that day the total days of holiday becomes 31 days compared to her agreed 30 days vacation. She was not at all ready to travel on that monday. In the end I had to buy expensive tickets for the three of us. Even though she is working, she was not ready to pay for her ticket though. This kind of behavior, I cannot tolerate. I don't want to talk to her anymore because always it ends in arguments and fights. I don’t want my daughter to see all these. I just want to give my daughter all my love and care. We live in the same house but in different rooms for the past more than 6 years. I just live with her just because of my daughter. My daughter loves both of us. But often I think for going for a divorce. But when I think about my daughter, I think I will wait for some more years. My wife also loves our daughter very much, that I know. Emotionally I don't have anybody to share all my feelings. I haven't told about these to any of my friends so far. They all think we have a good family. Recently I met a woman at work, who is almost two years older than me. She is Danish and single. She looks is very calm, very pleasant, doesn't have any show-off kind of nature, works very hard, no gossiping, etc. We take the bus to work from the same place and that way we started talking each other almost every day. At first it was casual talking between us and then after a while we started talking about our personal stuff and feelings, etc. First I started liking this girl and now I think I started loving her. I love to talk to her and see her whenever it is possible. I think she also likes me. Until I met this woman, I thought I will never have another girl in life. It was not because I don’t like to have somebody to love, but just after thinking about my daughter. But now I am in a situation where I am on the verge of falling in love with this Danish woman. I have never shown any indication about this to her so far. I am confused now. At one side I have my daughter; a wife with whom I can’t adjust with or love anymore; me and wife are not separated officially even though we live like separated; now this new woman with whom I afraid I fall in love. I am really sad, depressed and confused now. Am I crossing the lines here? Am I really cheating since I am not officially separated from my wife? Please give me your opinions. Thank you very must for reading this. more

Resolved Question: I'm depressed. What should I do?

Alright so I don't know of anyone will read this and can help me, I'm hoping so. I'm beginning to think I'm depressed. I'm currently 18. I've been feeling like I just want to leave where I am and never come back. I'm just sick of the people here. The rudeness. People that I come upon are usually immature and so self-centered. It's like, you don't do anything to those kinds of people and they just want to look down on you to make themselves feel better. I want to go somewhere and see new faces and personalities. This past summer, I went on vacation to a beautiful beach and just didn't want to leave. The people were so nice and not judging. I could just walk down the street with my hair up and ugly without anyone giving a weird look. I do realize that live in the city, and that there's bound to be rude people here. Also, I've lost a best friend, my ONLY best friend that I told everything to and whom i could trust. That all ended because of a terrible mistake I made 3 years ago, and I regret it every single day of my life and it's making me so depressed. I cry when I think about it because I know I will never make up for what I did. Yes it's that bad, I left my 3rd year of high school because I couldn't even take it. I can't even forgive myself. There's actually a lot more factors that's making me feel this way. It goes deeper..but I just feel alone. I mean, Yeah. I do have friends but there's times where I feel like nobody cares. I can't open up to them. I try to talk to my family but they don't understand. I feel like I'm in a dark place, you know? It's a horrible feeling. I just need a sign that things will be okay in the end. I just feel lost. What should I do? Is there a way where I can be helped? I don't want to feel like this anymore. more

Resolved Question: How do I know if my friend is faking cancer?

I hate to sound skeptical.. I have a friend who has a history of lying and disappearing for years at a time. About a year ago she told us that she had been diagnosed with ovarian cancer. She said they caught it early and the doctors told her everything should be fine. She is a 25 yr old single mother, if that helps. A few months ago, she got a group of us together and told us that her cancer had progressed to stage 4 and it is now terminal, she had been given less than a year. She said the doctors told her that chemo/radiation would only make things work and that she should just focus on her diet and try to get her iron levels up. Then she said she was going to be going to see a doctor out of state who may be able to help, and if they could she would be moving there. Well, long story short, she left without telling anyone, not even her closest friends. Come to find out, she left in such a hurry because her parents think she's faking the cancer and wouldn't let her live with them anymore. Now, her parents are not exactly stand up citizens themselves, so its hard to know how seriously to take them. But with all of this going on people are starting to get suspicious. She is enrolling in school in her new state, she is planning vacations for next summer... am I a bad friend for wondering? more

Resolved Question: PTSD? (sorry kinda long)?

It;s ok if you don't want to read this, but I feel like I can't talk about it with anyone. Like, I remeber this whole day extremely clear and it will just replay over and over in my mind, and it makes me wanna cry, like I'm doing now. I'm 14. This summer i went on a 2 week vacation with my friend and her family. I've never been away from my mom and dad for that long so I was really nervous. Well it was sooo fun and I loved it. 1 week later, me and my friend were sitting in our room just talking and having fun, and my mom called. She asked how I was doing and I told her how great it was here and how much fun I was having... and then she told me. "We had something really bad happen last night..." and I started balling right when she said that. "hfjdfds djfhdsjfhs died last night..." My friend kept asking why I was crying and I just went in the bathroom and locked myself in. That person was 18 years old, just graduated, and was my best friends older brother. I don't exaggerate when I say we've been best friends forever, becuase she was the very first friend I ever had and I was hers, and I've known her brother my whole life. He died in a car accident. Right when I hung up my friend texted me who knows her family really well and we talked and cryed. But I swear a miracole happened. My Aunt, Uncle, and cousins who I don't see very much just happened to be vacationing there at the same time I was and they were leaving this Monday. It's sunday when I found out and we already planned to meet up and go out to lunch since I don't see them very often. I called them and thye picked me up early. They offered to take me home Monday since they were leaving too, and I did so. I left half way through my vacation to be there for my friend and there family. I spent 3 days back home, went to the funeral, and spent every waking hour with her. My dad bought me a plane ticket and I flew alone (WHICH IS SHOCKING CONSIDERING I'M TERRIFIED OF FLYING) and I flew back to vacation where they picked me up from te airport. But now everytime someone brings him up, I just break out. I feel like every little thing reminds me of him and I'm afraid to talk to my best friend about it becuase I don't know if she's comfortable talking about it. It's been 3 months ater this has happened but I just still feel like a wreck. I refuse to drive down the road he died on. Is this like PTSD? or am I just crazy? I don't know why but it's like that whole few days where video taped in my head, like I remeber every single detail about them, and I cry everytime I think of it, which is very often. Thanks for reading if you did, you don't have to reply, I just wanted to get it out. more

Voting Question: Should I travel to another continent to see him?

Hey people, So I've fallen head over heels for this guy. We met when I went home for my vacation. We really like each other but it was very difficult to develop anything as the quality time we did have together was very scarce. The only thing I can hold unto was the warmest cuddle and the sweetest kiss he gave me on the neck. Since I came back we have talked every single day and I want to go and see him soon. The main problem is if I was to go, I couldn't tell my parents. There would be immediate dismissal. But my biggest fear is 1) Something happening to me during the journey and my mum not knowing where I am. 2) My mum finding out even if nothing goes wrong and the rift it would create. We both know that if anything goes wrong we'd both be in shit as he is a close family friend to my family back home. But I miss him so much and I just want to spend the quality time together that we never got to in the summer. He really wants me to come, but is troubled by the amount of stress it might cause me. I don't know what to do. Should I go and not tell them? Should I just not go to protect what MAY happen? I know if I tell them I'm not going.I'm 21 years old. more

Voting Question: What am i doing wrong in relationships?

I have been with the same person for almost 5 years. He told me that we would get engaged last year, as time went by i realized it was not going to happen and confronted him on it. He said he had been lieing for the past 2 years and he was not ready and had done no preparations at all. I was so hurt mostly by the lieing that we broke up. in that time i met another guy who would tell me when i was around that he wanted me and then when we were apart would tell me he just wanted my company some times and still calls at 2 am to see if i will come over...i don't any more but i still have some strange attraction to him. I realized that he was a bad guy and my old BF came back and said he was so sorry, he realized he wanted to make a life with me. took me to the store and told me to pick out a ring. He said by the end of the summer we would be engaged. Seeing as the guy is my best friend and i love him , i put the other guy in the infatuation/ booty call category. Well it was just another lie vacation came, no ring, no preparation , he just did not want me single because one day as he put it he will want to be with me and does not want me to find someone else because he knows he can make me happy. Am i just dealing with two different kinds of players? should i just walk away from all of it? Or is this what dating and relationships are like?we are all around the age where people get married, i would hay about half my friends are married or are engaged. As to the badness of guy number 2 he is older then me tells me that there must be some reason i keep coming up in his mind and he is drawn to me but then he says that he is not the kind to settle down, knows that i have feelings for him knows that i want a relationship and that i wont mess around outside of one. (i like my body and i respect my being, being with someone actually means something to me) more

Resolved Question: Barely anyone is answering my question, PLEASE, I REALLY NEED ADVICE?

--PLEASE READ IT, DON'T BE LAZY--- I'm putting this in surveys and polls because it's not getting attention in another category. This will be long, but not terribly boring I hope. I hope you can read it all. Me and my Fiance' live like 5 states away from my family....recently my Fiance' got a great job working for 1 single guy making a program for a bunch of gated communities, he goes to work everyday and works in this guys RV making this program. This summer we normally would take a trip to meet my family, but we didn't.....because his partner (aka HIS BOSS) needed him to stay and help him with this program (the community that wants it is setting deadlines and it must be done by a certain time). I was insanely bummed because we go every year and go camping, but not this year......... Now I want to go during Halloween, he asked his work partner, and he said it was a bad time for him because he needs my Fiance' to help him with the program still because it isn't finished. I find this to be absolutely ridiculous and unfair, we didn't get a summer vacation, and he won't even let him go for Halloween. I feel like this dude is dictating our lives. He got this job over half a year ago and all it's been is WORK WORK WORK, MONDAY THRU FRIDAY, 9am to whenever they decide they are done (which can be up until 10pm!). I am so sick of this and I have been seeing very little of my Fiance' and NONE of my family......he says I just don't understand and they really need to get this program finished so he can stop working so much....but I see no end in sight, and I really miss my family......when I bring up visiting them without him he gets insanely sad and doesn't want me to leave him....... I don't know what to do..........Lol, I guess polls and survey's is just full of immature people, I should have known.Betty B, it sounds like you don't love your family. Last time I visited was April, and I miss them like mad...they can't visit me, it's too inconvenient. more

Resolved Question: Am I being unreasonable? Please help me......?

This will be long, but not terribly boring I hope. I hope you can read it all. Me and my Fiance' live like 5 states away from my family....recently my Fiance' got a great job working for 1 single guy making a program for a bunch of gated communities, he goes to work everyday and works in this guys RV making this program. This summer we normally would take a trip to meet my family, but we didn't.....because his partner (aka HIS BOSS) needed him to stay and help him with this program (the community that wants it is setting deadlines and it must be done by a certain time). I was insanely bummed because we go every year and go camping, but not this year......... Now I want to go during Halloween, he asked his work partner, and he said it was a bad time for him because he needs my Fiance' to help him with the program still because it isn't finished. I find this to be absolutely ridiculous and unfair, we didn't get a summer vacation, and he won't even let him go for Halloween. I feel like this dude is dictating our lives. He got this job over half a year ago and all it's been is WORK WORK WORK, MONDAY THRU FRIDAY, 9am to whenever they decide they are done (which can be up until 10pm!). I am so sick of this and I have been seeing very little of my Fiance' and NONE of my family......he says I just don't understand and they really need to get this program finished so he can stop working so much....but I see no end in sight, and I really miss my family......when I bring up visiting them without him he gets insanely sad and doesn't want me to leave him....... I don't know what to do..........What do you mean, Sonya? I am asking too much of him to visit my family a couple times a year?The last time I visited my family was for my birthday in April :\I told you that when mention going without him he gets very sad and doesn't want me to leave, he misses my family too.....I don't know what to do. more

Resolved Question: Is this a sign she was STILL lying to me or that I'm just crazy and it's all in my head?

A little background. Fiance and I in our early thirties. Young son in the picture. Our relationship had been going sour due to a variety of stresses and pressures etc., we went on vacation back at the end of May, got back had a couple of blow-ups...she moved out. I hacked her email right before she moved out and discovered her speaking with a girlfriend about a conversation with an ex and her language implied she was sexually interested. Turned out they had been speaking back and forth here and there since April behind my back "as friends." I called her on it. She said I had to believe there was nothing going on there and her sexual comments were just at the end and they were the comments of a vulnerable woman but nothing ever happened, or was going to happen, and the big picture was US. it's what they call an emotional affair i believe, though she won't accept that either. We made up various times over the summer only to fight again. i asked a couple of times: are u seeing anyone or interested in anyone else? to which she would say NO, and that if anything was going to happen the focus was US. I wanted a commitment from her because I knew we were both single and anything could happen. The roller coaster continued. We haven't been intimate with eachother since the break-up aside from kissing,hugging, etc. The other night I spent the night and that f-in curiosity of mine kicked in and I looked in her phone's emails. Found a mail from earlier in the week to her girlfriend in which she said: I'm still in love with (Me). I can't deny it. We had that major fight this weekend and a small one yesterday and in the solitude of Sunday with (Our son) and the rain, I accepted the negatives I bring into all of my relationships, this one included. (Me) is already claiming his so it's nice to hear him speak, now I wait for his actions. Watching (Our son)on Sunday play made me realize that (Me) and I were a good couple on our good days and that the family we were creating was a beautiful one. (The EX's name), the name, is an illusion, a fantasy, and I need to stop living like a 17 yr old girl with stars in my eyes and see what's before me before it's too late. (So and So, another man), or insert name of hot ass here, is another form of ego stroking illusion. (Me) is looking good, swaggering more confidently and he's asked me to date him, to allow him to court me and I've said Yes! Soooo, my FB relationship status may be changing from Single to Working on #$%#@ My Baby Daddy Again! I'm feeling conflicted. I owned up that morning to what I did and we were about to end it for good but instead the three of us went out and had an amazing day. after sleeping on it i woke up this morning and walked out the door with the intention of never looking back. she's saying i'm misinterpreting things LIKE ALWAYS and only taking fragments of conversations. that there was never any interest and she was referring to WHAT IF discussions with her girlfriends...like school girls. i'm like FANTASY??? nothing adds up. we're finally talking about couples therapy. am i making a mistake, and how? should i run?to the last response...no i have not dated, nor had any interest in dating. i'm all about her. even when she was telling me to "leave her alone" and "go get f-ed by someone." more

Resolved Question: Am I doing the right thing and is there anything I should do?

Okay during the summer I met my dream girl every single part and I mean it. She and I can talk for hours on end and still not run out of things to say and by some little moment we do we both start making animal noises yes we're weird like that. Well a couple of weeks ago I asked her to be my girlfriend and she said she really likes me just not right now because she still has to get over her last boyfriend and just give her some time. I am giving her time. I see her everyday at school and I'm not the one who comes to her she comes to me. We still talk on the phone for hours and chat on the computer for hours. She makes me happy. I'm planning to ask he again either during Christmas Vacation or Valentines Day. We're in 10th grade and she and I have so many things in common almost everything. Right down to how we eat our candy corn. Everything I thought i was the only one who did it she did it too. She and I always like to be with each other. So am I doing the right thing right now. She has a very low opinion on herself because her last boyfriend dumped her and made her feel like it was all her fault. She always thinks she's ugly and annoying, yet i tell her she's beautiful and fine the way she is. PS a week ago some other guy tried asking her out and she said now. Also yesterday she and I had a conversation on where to have sex at her house. The other guy is still trying, but I don't think he's a problem. He does everything I know she hates. But he still makes me nervous though because you never know. Oh and the sex thing is just a joke between me and her we weren't serious. also that guy is being super clingy to her. Going wherever she goes interrupting me when I talk to her. He's very annoying. And he's asked her out twice now. And she keeps saying no. He tries to hold her hand and she pulls away. Should I do something about this if this goes on? more

Resolved Question: Do you think 0bama has a way around Health Care like this - Vive Le French Care?

Health Care in France is Often Held Up as a Model the U.S. Might Follow Yet the French Have Their Own Problems that Show There's No Such Thing as a Free Lunch — or a Free Doctor's Visit By INVESTOR'S BUSINESS DAILY | Posted Wednesday, August 26, 2009 4:20 PM PT Call it the grass-is-greener syndrome. Advocates of national health care, acknowledging the flaws in ObamaCare yet despising the current U.S. system that has the best medicines, the best medical equipment and the shortest waiting lists, have turned their eyes lovingly to places like France. As City Journal contributing editor Guy Sorman notes, the French would also love to have the low-cost, high-service system some Americans gush about. Unfortunately, they don't. France's system isn't that cheap and is financed by high taxes on labor that have heavy economic consequences. Sorman notes that a Frenchman making a monthly salary of 3,000 euros has 350 of them deducted for health insurance. Then the employer throws in an additional 1,200 euros. This raises the cost of labor to prohibitive levels and puts a brake on economic growth. This helps explain why French unemployment hovers around 10%. France imposes an additional tax levy to cover the constant deficits that national health insurance runs. The French Parliament raises this levy, which applies to all forms of income, every year. Altogether, Sorman writes, "25% of French national income goes toward what's called Social Security, which includes health care and basic retirement pensions for all." Drugs developed in America at enormous expense do cost less in France, which decides what drugs are to be used and at what prices. American patients in effect subsidize the French, who take the same pills at half the price because American pharmaceutical companies don't want to lose the French market. French taxpayers fund a state health insurer, Assurance Maladie. Assurance Maladie has run in the red since 1989, and this year's shortfall is expected to be 9.4 billion euros ($13.5 billion) and 15 billion euros in 2010, about 10% of its budget. Regardless of the cost, does the French system produce better outcomes? Not always. Infant mortality rates are often cited as a reason socialized medicine and single-payer systems are better than what we have here. But according to Dr. Linda Halderman, a policy adviser in the California State Senate, these comparisons are bogus. Official World Health Organization statistics show the U.S. lagging behind France in infant mortality rates — 6.7 per 1,000 live births vs. 3.8 for France. Halderman notes that in the U.S., any infant born that shows any sign of life for any length of time is considered a live birth. In France — in fact, in most of the European Union — any baby born before 26 weeks' gestation is not considered alive and therefore doesn't "count" in reported infant mortality rates. France reimburses its doctors at a far lower rate than U.S. physicians would accept. As David Gratzer, a physician and senior fellow at the Manhattan Institute, wrote in the summer 2007 issue of City Journal: "In France, the supply of doctors is so limited that during an August 2003 heat wave — when many doctors were on vacation and hospitals were stretched beyond capacity — 15,000 elderly citizens died." After the tragedy, the French parliament released a harshly worded report blaming the deaths on a complex health system, widespread failure among agencies and health services to coordinate efforts, and chronically insufficient care for the elderly. It's hard to imagine that happening here, where hospitals have enough air-conditioned beds and doctors that aren't on vacation. Fact is, most Americans like their health care. There are ways to provide expanded coverage at lower cost, such as pushing individually owned health savings accounts, malpractice reform and allowing insurance to be bought across state lines. We needn't be forced to sacrifice quality for cost. Nor do we need to look to the French for a better solution. They don't have one. http://www.ibdeditorials.com/IBDArticles.aspx?id=336178343967257 more