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Open Question: How did/do Cowboys wear so many layers of clothing without baking alive?

I've noticed that even in the hottest states; Arizona, Nevada, New Mexico, Texas etc.... people still wear several layers - outside of their nice air conditioned buildings and cars. How do they/you do this without cooking yourselves? I mean, if it got that hot in Northern and Mid Europe then people would certainly bake. The extra humidity over here doesn't help though. Is it because of the lack of humidity in the hotter desert states that people can wear many layers? I know that layering helps with cooling but cowboys of old used to wear undergarments, a shirt and jeans, a waistcoat and chaps and maybe even a coat and neckerchief plus a hat. How the heck didn't they cook themselves? Even now, most Americans wear a vest or t-shirt under their shirts. How do you guys do that? Just curious. more

Open Question: What should happen to the characters in my novel?

I've just posted my second to final chapter of Broken Family Portrait, and I need some help with some legal stuff. I've tried posting this in Law and Ethics, since this is mainly about the law, and I needed the opinions of some lawyers and law authority, but got nothing over there, so I'm reposting it in Books and Authors. Anyway, here's how the mystery story begins, at the end of Chapter 17: It was an almost perfect summer. I say "almost" because a shocking tragedy had occurred one month later. It was August 17th, 1996, and Benjamin, Brandon, Radley and I were going to Elliot's house. When we arrived, I rang the doorbell, but there was no answer. I rang twice more, but he still didn't answer. I knew he hadn't gone on vacation with Spencer, because his car was still in the driveway. So I went to the back and knocked three times, and still got nothing. I didn't understand this; he'd called that morning to ask me over. I went back to the front door, and not only did it open, but it looked like the hinges had been ripped off. And, right there in the living room, was Elliot lying face down in a pool of blood. I saw from his torn clothing that he'd been slashed to ribbons! Benjamin and Brandon began to cry and scream instantly. What's worse, I couldn't see Spencer anywhere. Shielding the boys from the horrendous sight in the living room, I took them from room to room in a desperate search, but Spencer wasn't anywhere around. My friend was murdered. My boys' friend was kidnapped. When I realized all of this, that's when I, too, started crying and screaming. http://www.fictionpress.com/s/2597077/17/Broken_Family_Portrait As it progresses, more murders of doctors and special needs parents take place. Eventually, the whodunits are arrested. http://www.fictionpress.com/s/2597077/18/Broken_Family_Portrait Also, as they assaulted Robin Callbeck, the protagonist, the resulting trial also included that. Chapters 21 and 22 describe what happened here: http://www.fictionpress.com/s/2597077/21/Broken_Family_Portrait http://www.fictionpress.com/s/2597077/22/Broken_Family_Portrait My question is, given the outcome of trial, and the fact that Jim and Sylvia Dillinger were charged with murdering two doctors, as well as Elliot Secord, would it be possible that they'd be extradited to the United States for the death penalty? These characters are originally from the Canadian province of Manitoba, and Canada has no death penalty system at current. If this is not possible, then I will have to give them back-to-back life sentences in prison. If it is, then it'll be off to Texas or Florida or wherever to have them sit and fry in ol' Sparky (aka: the electric chair) LOL! I am planning to put the sentencing in the final chapter and have Robin and his family attend. Thanks for your help. more

Resolved Question: Texas Child Support Info Needed!?

Well i am only 16 years old and my parents just got divorced and all that stuff i really dont wanna type why or what happened but alot of bad stuff has happened and lot of issues. So i was talking to my boyfriend's older sister and she said that I can claim my own child support from my dad. so instead of my mom getting the checks i get it. Now before you judge i dont want the money to spend it on stupid stuff. Im basically on my own and i want to save the money up for things i need and stuff. i mean i will split it with my mom to help her out but she says she is getting child support but then she still complains of not having any money when i ask her for money to go to movies or buy clothes and girl stuff. So i wonder where is all the child support is goin and i ask her but she just changes the topic. So if it is true that i can claim my own child support can someone please help me or give me info? And i know laws are diff in diff states. So im located in texas so if anyone knows i will like some help. thanks. more

Voting Question: law/ court questions?

my girlfriend got cought stealing in a store and she got a court citation, she is 18 yrs old and shes 8 weeks pregnant, we live in LAS VEGAS NV, but we are going to move back to texas.... what would happen if she doesnt show up to court? shes scared shes going to spent time in jail while pregnant thats the reason she doesnt wanna go/// I know they will put a warrant for her arrest,, but will the cops come look at our house if we're still here? and will it show up in other states that shes wanted? what are the chances that she will go to jail for stealing 65$ worth of clothing? more

Resolved Question: Why do they do it Constable attacked grandmother violence, humiliation, racial slurs?

AUSTIN (KXAN) - A Travis County deputy constable brutalized, humiliated and yelled racial slurs at a grandmother trying to pick up her children from school at Sims Elementary, alleges a federal lawsuit filed this week in Austin. "He treated me like something less than a human being - an animal," the woman said in a press release issued by the Texas Civil Rights Project, which filed the lawsuit. "I used to bake cookies and take them to my grandchildren's classroom. Now I'm afraid to go back there." Phone calls made by KXAN to the Travis County Constable's office late Thursday had not been returned on Friday. A formal complaint has also been filed against Furrs at the constable's office. The victim, who is not named in the suit for privacy reasons, said Deputy Dick Furrs "thought I was an immigrant" because she couldn't speak or understand English very well. She said he screamed at her throughout the attack to "speak English" or "go back to your country," in addition to other slurs used to refer to illegal immigrants. "He needlessly threw (the grandmother) out of her vehicle, smashed her face o the ground, chipped her teeth, broke her glasses, clubbed her while she was handcuffed, and purposefully exposed her breast in front of onlookers, all the while making racial slurs against her," the lawsuit alleges. The suit says the May 2009 incident happened as the grandmother was following instructions on where to park to pick up her grandchildren, and then reaching for her driver's license from the truck's sunvisor - which she thought Furr had requested. That's when she said he opened the door, yanked her out of the car, and began attacking her on the street in front of teachers, students and the school's principal, Freda Mills, according to the suit. A teacher who witnessed the attack, which witnesses said lasted more than 10 minutes, described trying to help the grandmother and being threatened by Furrs. "(The grandmother) was crying, her lip was bleeding, and her clothes and hair were disheveled," Jon David Saucedo said in a statement filed with the lawsuit. "Her blouse was pulled down, and one of her breasts was exposed ... I started to approach her to help, and the officer reached for his gun and unsnapped the holster and told me to back up." Witnesses asked Furrs to at least correct the grandmother's blouse, but he refused, telling them, "I like it that way," according to the victim's statement and that of three witnesses whose statements were included in the lawsuit. Mills was finally able to convice the constable to let her fix her shirt, the lawsuit says. "I did not understand why the constable was using such aggression and unreasonable force ... because she was not resisting or fighting back," said witness Maria Jaramillo. "Furrs was throwing her around like a rag doll." Jaramillo said she tried to take a photo of the scene, which was happening on public property, with her phone, but that AN OFFICER or Furrs pushed her phone down and ordered her not to take pictures. Texas Civil Rights Project Director Wayne Krause said the case is "a sad example of what is wrong with the Arizona anti-immigration law," referring to a recent law passed in that state that gives local law enforcement the authoritity to enforce federal immigration laws on anyone they suspect to be in the country illegally. "He is an officer who is so ignorant and prejudiced he will ignore the law and common decency to attack somebody he thinks is an immigrant out of malice," Krause said. "Furrs went out of his way to humiliate a helpless grandmother, but disgraced himself and his profession in the process." http://www.kxan.com/dpp/news/crime/suit-claims--constable-attacked-grandmother more

Resolved Question: How do I get a Child Labor Permit?

I'm 14 and want to get a job at Sonic Drive-in or a local grocery store (minimum wage is $7.25 where I live, which is pretty good, and one of my friend's older sister works at the grocery store and I'm friends/neighbors with the person who owns Sonic) My mom is on Medical Disability due to a brain surgery she had 2-3 years ago. Apparently, in the state of Texas, since my mom is on MD I am allowed to get a Child Labor Permit. My mom's busy lately so she told me to look it up and find out how. I have no idea where to start and how to. :( I want to have my own money, plus, since money might be a little tight (my twin brother just got braces... My parents are divorced and my dad only gives a little bit of child support...) so I want to use the money to help my brothers and I buy school supplies, clothes, makeup (for me), and other "luxury" items. I don't want to have to ask my mom for money, 1. because I know she won't give it me, 2. I don't want to pester her about it when I know were a bit tight right now. more

Voting Question: MY HUSBAND WAS DEPORTED AFTER 2 MONTHS APART I WENT TO VISIT. MADE IT WORSE?

LEAVING WAS SO HARD ON THE BOTH OF US, I HAVE NOT BEEN RELEASED FROM MY DOCTOR BUT I MADE THE 8 HOUR TRIP TO MEXICO TO VISIT. I LEFT ON THURSDAY AND HE TRIED TO COME HOME ON FRIDAY AND GOT CAUGHT. I LIVE IN THE COUNTRY MY DRIVE WAY GATE HAS BEEN OPEN 3 OCCASIONS SINCE JUNE, I LIVE ALONE.MY RECOVERY FROM HERNIA SURGERY IS TAKING TO LONG AND OUR DAUGHTER IS GETTING MARRIED IN DECEMBER. I GET THE RUN AROUND WITH USCIS AND MONTHS AND YEARS ARE PASSING BY AND I AM STILL AT THE START LINE. I HAVE YET TO GET CORRECT INFORMATION AND I HAVE TO WAIT MONTHS TO GET PAPERWORK RETURNED STATING I NEED TO SEND IT TO ANOTHER STATE AND NOT THE LOCATION USCIS GAVE ME.I PHYSICALLY NEED MY HUSBAND. PLEASE SOMEONE GIVE ME GOOD ADVICE TO ALL THE HATERS, MY AMERICAN EX SEVERED MY LEG, 2 CONCUSSIONS, HE MAKES TIGER WOODS LOOK GOOD,BROKE MY NOSE AND THREW MY SON ACROSS THE ROOM, MY OTHER HUSBAND MY DAUGHTER CAUGHT HIM WITH HIS GIRL FRIEND WHILE I WAS WORKING OUT OF TOWN, WROTE HOT CHECKS AND CHARGED MOTOR CYCLES ON MY ACCOUNTS. HIDE UNDER BED TO SPY ON ME, CUT UP MY CLOTHES, SLICED MY WATER BED, MY LITTLE MEXICAN IS A BREATH OF FRESH AIR, MAKES ME LAUGH, FEEL GOOD, AND NEVER DID ANYTHING TO HURT ME. HE HURTS HIMSELF WANTING TO BE WITH ME. WE LOVE ONE ANOTHER AND CANT LIVE TOGETHER. PLEASE ANYONE. HATERS NO COMMENT, I HAVE LIVED 2 SUMMERS IN HELL IN RED NECK COUNTRY. I HAVE LEARNED YOU CAN NEVER GO BACK, MOVE FORWARD. NEVER GO BACK HOME........EAST TEXAS IS SO BACKWOODS. THEY ARE VOTING NO TO UNDER GROUND WATER PIPELINES........ more

Voting Question: Christian Dads and Moms who pay or receive Child Support & pay Tithes. Do you pay Tithes on your C.S.?

***** I understand if this is too long and if you don't want to read all of it, it probably means you're not that concerned anyway. Which is fine. I do the same thing at times... I pay child support to my ex for my 2 children [(8 yr old girl & 6 yr boy) (going on 6 years divorced)]. I currently pay and have always paid (since I committed to Tithing) tithe on the child support. Side Notes: (to get an idea of the situation, bc this is not the 1st time someone has asked this question and alot of people want more detail) *The C.S. is and always has been automatically deducted from my check. So it's not like I pay it when I can. I have always paid it and have always been current. *I do see my kids as the orders state, so it's not like I am paying for 2 kids I don't see. *I live in Texas so they take 25% of my check (net) and I pay for their med, dental, & vision insurance as well as half of all their med, dental, & vision care bills. *They have their own rooms, clothes, entertainment, and lives at my house when they stay (they don't pack their bags to come to Daddy's house) *My ex is a Christian, (or devoted church goer) but we weren't very good tithe givers when we were married, so I do not know if she pays tithes or not. We DO NOT have a good enough relationship to discuss this matter with each other. I don't want to turn this into a debate on whether paying tithes is right or wrong, or on gross or net... I have thoroughly researched the bible on this and have come to my own conclusion, that God is not going to punish you either way, but will bless you. So please only answer with your opinion if you have experience on with paying or receiving Child Support and you DO pay your tithes, whether you pay or are receiving child support. *I am well aware of the "First Fruits." *I am a Christian (non-denominational) - meaning, I have faith in our Lord Jesus Christ and I do my best to follow GOD's word and NOT what I'm told by others. BUT, I do enjoy other Christian's interpretations of the bible so that I can get different perspectives on how others interpret the bible for themselves. I do not depend on tithes to get me to heaven, but I do it to support my church. I do it a little different then how they preach to do it, but like I said, I researched this for myself instead of having someone else tell me how to do it. But the bibl more

Resolved Question: Before deporting illegals, shouldnt we treat them to dance classes, bingo, continental breakfasts, etc?

Immigration and Customs Enforcement officials are preparing to roll out a series of changes at several privately owned immigration detention centers, including relaxing some security measures for low-risk detainees and offering art classes, bingo and continental breakfast on the weekends. The changes, detailed in an internal ICE e-mail obtained by the Houston Chronicle, were welcomed by immigrant advocates who have been waiting for the Obama administration to deliver on a promise made in August to overhaul the nation's immigration detention system. The 28 changes identified in the e-mail range from the superficial to the substantive. In addition to “softening the look of the facility” with hanging plants and offering fresh carrot sticks, ICE will allow for the “free movement” of low-risk detainees, expand visiting hours and provide unmonitored phone lines. ICE officials said the changes are part of broader efforts to make the immigration detention system less penal and more humane. But the plans are prompting protests by ICE's union leaders, who say they will jeopardize the safety of agents, guards and detainees and increase the bottom line for taxpayers. Tre Rebstock, president for Local 3332, the ICE union in Houston, likened the changes to creating “an all-inclusive resort” for immigration detainees. “Our biggest concern is that someone is going to get hurt,” he said, taking particular issue with plans to relax restrictions on the movement of low-risk detainees and efforts to reduce and eliminate pat-down searches. The changes outlined in the ICE e-mail are planned for nine detention centers owned and operated by Corrections Corporation of America, including the 900-bed Houston Contract Detention Facility on the city's north side. Some of the changes will be implemented within 30 days; others may take up to six months, said Beth Gibson, ICE's senior counselor to Assistant Secretary John Morton and a leader of the detention reform effort. Other major changes include: • Eliminating lockdowns and lights-out for low-risk detainees. • Allowing visitors to stay as long as they like in a 12-hour period. • Providing a unit manger so detainees have someone to report problems to other than the guard. • Allowing low-risk detainees to wear their own clothing or other non-penal attire. • Providing e-mail access and Internet-based free phone service. Not about punishment Gibson said the improvements are part of ICE's efforts to detain immigrants in the least restrictive manner possible while ensuring they leave the country if ordered to do so. “When people come to our custody, we're detaining them to effect their removal,” Gibson said. “It's about deportation. It's not about punishing people for a crime they committed.” ICE officials have faced pressure from immigrant advocates and some members of Congress to improve the detention conditions for the roughly 400,000 immigrants it houses annually. The agency has relied on a hodgepodge of more than 250 government-run detention centers, private prisons and local jails to accommodate its growing population — with roughly one in four detainees held in Texas. At the CCA facilities that have agreed to ICE's changes, detainees will see more variety in their dining hall menus and have self-serve beverage and fresh vegetable bars. CCA also plans to offer movie nights, bingo, arts and crafts, dance and cooking classes, tutoring and computer training, the e-mail states. http://www.chron.com/disp/story.mpl/metropolitan/7043040.htmlI see no mention of soft serve ice cream machines. I mean, that exclusion is just barbaric more

Resolved Question: I need legal advice please. A few weeks ago, My ex assaulted me infront of our 2year old,?

I am currently 5 months pregnant with our second child. Even though I did not press charges, the texas state pressed them on my behalf and there was a warrant for his arrest, but he paid bond. He has a court date this wed, the case was moved to family violent court, so what will happen with the case? will he go to jail or be on probation? what typically happens? He got mad at me and left, his name is on the lease, not mine, we are not married but have been living together on and off, can he come kick me out? he moved out today to live with his mom until after the case is over with but I'm terrified he will come back, kick me out and cause a scene, he has done that before, he threw my clothes in the front porch and kicked me out.. but he's been telling me I can stay on the apartment since he has a place to go, But he keeps telling me once he goes to court on wednesday he will come back kick me out.. how can I protect myself even though I did not press any charges, I want full custody of the children but I don't have the $ to pay a lawyer since he was the bread winner, I Need advice on what to do and go about this, Just want to move on with my life peacefully something he wont let me do, his family too, they just wont let it go, they keep blaming me for calling the police and telling me it's my fault if he goes to jail. I live in texas thank you..please give me advice that can help me, there's nothing funny about domestic violence, if you can't say something nice then please don't. thank you. more

Resolved Question: where could I work at 14 years old in the state of Texas?

Thats legal. Like a clothing store etc. more

Resolved Question: Any constructive criticism on my story? It is in the rough draft form, thanks(:?

I was being sent away to a boarding school in Texas. Why? My parents are “done with my attitude.” What a lame reason. You would expect someone to have an attitude when my brother died two weeks ago? My parents must win the “Best Parents of the Century” award. I soon found out that finishing my English essays and passing the Algebra tests were the least of my problems at Green Oaks School for Girls. *** “Haley! Come down here, its time to go!” My mom yelled from downstairs, she was impatient, I could tell. I grabbed my suitcase of clothes, and headed for my bedroom door. Just before I walked out, I took one more sweeping look at my childhood room. Who knew the next time I would be back here, in my own bed, in my own house. I was being shipped to a boarding school for girls in Texas named Green Oaks School for Girls. The brochure was nice enough. The school looked like a big old plantation house turned into a school, with a huge wrap around porch on both floors, and a white sign stating the schools name on the front lawn. I was coming from Vermont not looking forward, or packed accordingly, for the Texas heat.I walked down the stairs, slamming my feet with each step to prove that I was pissed about going. My Mom and Dad were waiting at the bottom, looking up at me with reassuring smiles on there face. “You can quit the act, I’m going to hate it” I said, staring at there eyes, going back and forth from Mom to Dad. There smiles dropped, and my Mom rolled her eyes. “Honey, your being a Drama Queen, get over it” she said, grabbing her purse and keys. My Dad was playing the nice part; he grabbed my shoulder and looked at my face, “Honey, you’ll love it.” Then he kissed my forehead and nudged me towards the door, towards my new life, which I would hate. We drove to the airport, and my parents watched as a got on my plain. The school had set up for a senior student to pick me up from the airport and drive me to my new hell-hole of a home. I tried to make the best of the flight, getting some sleep, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to sleep in a bed that wasn’t my own. When I woke up, it was due to the older lady that was about in her sixties and still dressed like twenty nudged me with her elbow to tell me we were about to land. After landing, I walked into the terminal and walked slow. I didn’t want to miss the sign that had my name on it. Finally I found it. The girl holding it was in a school uniform consisting of brown leather loafers, a matching navy blue skirt and blazer with knee high socks, and of course the cliché tie. The blazer had the schools insignia on it, which looked like get this, a green oak. I walked over, and I noticed that the girl was very pretty. Blond curls and blue eyes. Her cheeks had a little red on them. She was Sun kissed tan, and her legs were miles long. She could have been the poster child for any magazine. After I gave her a quick glance up and down, without seeming to be rude, I spoke. “Uh, hi. Im Haley” I said, setting my suitcase down so I could shake her hand. Once I held out my hand for a shake, she dropped the cardboard sign with my name, and hugged me. It was so unexpected and awkward that my arms just hung by my side as she squeezed my body.When she finally released me from the hug, she looked at me with a big smile, showing off her pearly white straight teeth. “Well howdy Haley, I’m Sue Ellen” She said, her southern accent was thick. I knew that I was in Texas now. “Its nice to meet you” I said, putting on a shy smile. I picked up my suitcase again, wanting to get out of the over crowded terminal. Sue Ellen offered to take my suitcase, but I assured her that I was fine. We walked out of the terminal and the Texas heat hit me. I was going to die before I even got into the car. “Oh my, you sure are pale” Sue Ellen said, giving me the up and down as I had just before we met. I also looked down, acting as if I could see what she was talking about. Only to find out that I saw exactly what she was talking about, Sue Ellen was the cute southern tan, while I was a pasty northern white. Sue Ellen giggled. Sue Ellen drove, now and the adding a question like “What do you do for fun?” or “What’s Vermont like?” and I would answer. Even in the car, I was dying. I was so hot, and the air was on full blast. I guess you get used to it, because Sue Ellen didn’t even break a sweat. The car ride other than the few questions was mostly quiet, until we were about ten minuets away from Green Oaks.Sue Ellen turned down the air, so she wouldn’t have to talk loud and immediately I wished that she would have just yelled what she was trying to say. “Uhm, about Green Oaks” She said, hesitating a bit. “Well there’s rules, and you gotta follow them or the teachers will rip your hide.” She said, and me being so northern I thought her English needed fixing. “What do you mean?” I said, and I was sure I had a confused look on my face. She turned to me, and gave me an awkward smile, then turned back to the road. “Well, theres some girls there that think they can uh, contact the devil and spirits and non sense like that ya know?” She said, and I felt my eyes squint even more with confusion. “Uhm, I still don’t understand” I said, some question in my voice. She turned again, now her face was serious. “Well, im just sayin’ the teachers there, they don’t want all that non sense getting’ out there for people to know” She said, worried that I was going to freak out. I was still confused, but I went along with it seeing that she was done talking, so I shook my head as if I understood. Thanks for your sugestions, if it is bluntly mean I will report you more

Resolved Question: What stores in Houston, Texas hire at 15?

So this summer seems to be moving by very slowly. I'm volunteering at the hospital only two days a week and they don't seem to want to increase my hours any time soon. I know that you can work in the State of Texas at 15 for now more than 3 or 4 hours and not after 8pm which I think would be perfect. I just wanted to know what stores in Houston, Texas would hire someone 15 years old? I'd prefer clothing stores I would just prefer not to work somewhere like McDonald's or Burger King, waitressing is no big deal but I just don't want to work at a big fast food chain. Places that sell smoothies or coffee are cool too. Thanks. =] more

Resolved Question: What is your take Mexico says U.S. border agent killed teenager Mexico wants border patrol punished?

Witnesses said they saw the unidentified agent shoot at Sergio Hernandez, aged around 14, on Monday under the bridge crossing between El Paso Texas and Ciudad Juarez, a violent city on the frontlines of Mexico's war against drug cartels. A bystander told Reuters TV that Hernandez was hanging around with friends when the agent shot him. "We energetically condemn the death of a minor ... near the international border crossing in Ciudad Juarez, when a border patrol official shot at a group of migrants who were apparently throwing rocks," the Mexican foreign ministry said. "Using firearms to respond to an attack with rocks is a disproportionate use of force, particularly coming from officials that are specially trained," it said in a statement. But the U.S. Federal Bureau of Investigation, which is leading a multi-agency investigation into the incident, said the agent shot during a confrontation with "suspected illegal aliens" trying to enter the United States. It said two suspects were arrested and the remainder retreated into Mexico, throwing rocks at the U.S. agents. "(The) agent ... gave verbal commands to the remaining subjects to stop and retreat. However, the subjects surrounded the agent and continued to throw rocks at him. The agent then fired his service weapon several times, striking one subject who later died," the FBI said. Mexico is a top U.S. trade partner and Washington says the border between the two countries is the busiest in the world. Hundreds of thousands of Mexicans cross the border illegally into the United States each year to look for work. Many are sent straight home after being caught by U.S. border agents. U.S.-Mexican relations have been tense since Arizona, a border state, approved a crackdown on illegal immigrants. Mexican President Felipe Calderon criticized the crackdown during a recent trip to the United States. Mexico's foreign ministry urged security forces on both sides of the border to reconsider use of lethal force. Washington has beefed up border security forces due to spiraling drug violence in northern Mexico. Lou Patch, a supervisory U.S. border patrol agent in El Paso, said agents may use deadly force when they fear "grievous bodily harm or death to ourselves or another." He said the agent was put on leave. Andrea Simmons, an FBI spokeswoman in El Paso, said the agent "was on the U.S. side of the border and never left." A witness who spoke to Reuters TV said he saw half a dozen youths being chased back into Mexico after they had briefly crossed the dividing line under the bridge. "They were not carrying anything. They weren't carrying weapons, packages, backpacks, only the clothes they were wearing, that's it," the man, who declined to be named, said. "This one (Hernandez) hid behind the wall. He looked out and that's when (he) was shot," he said. "The agent shot at him twice ... He shot at him once, which left him stunned, and then he shot him again. It seems he was hit in the head." The dead teenager's mother told reporters at the scene that she was especially angered the U.S. agent had apparently killed her son on Mexican territory. "I want him punished," she told Mexican television. "He's destroyed my life and left me with nothing." http://www.reuters.com/article/idUSTRE65760020100608?feedType=RSS&feedName=topNewsWho were the Witnesses other illegals who will say anything Mexico tells them ? more

Resolved Question: Who is Benny Hinn married to?

About Us People around the globe know Pastor Benny Hinn as a noted evangelist, teacher, and the author of best-selling books including Prayer That Gets Results, Lamb of God, and Good Morning, Holy Spirit. His TV program This Is Your Day! is among the world’s most-watched Christian programs, seen daily in 200 countries. But there is much more to the story of the man and ministry now impacting the world with the life-saving and miracle-working message of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Beginnings Benny Hinn was born on December 3, 1952, in the port city of Jaffa (part of modern Tel Aviv), Israel, where his family had set up residence as immigrants to Palestine from Greece. In 1968, not long after the Six-Day War, he immigrated with his family to Canada. In February 1972 Benny Hinn’s life took on an entirely new meaning when he surrendered his heart and life to Jesus Christ as high school friends prayed with him. Soon afterward, he was called to minister the Gospel. Benny Hinn is the proud parent of three daughters and a son and grandfather to two grandsons. The ministry-owned television studio is located in Alison Viejo, California. The corporate headquarters for Benny Hinn Ministries / World Healing Center Church is located in Grapevine, Texas. Benny Hinn: Over 30 Years as Statesman, Author, Broadcaster, Bridge Builder, and Evangelist In worldwide ministry more than 30 years, Pastor Benny Hinn has preached the Gospel face to face and through television to more than a billion people. Through Holy Spirit Miracle Crusades, Training for Ministry Conferences, TV broadcasts, the Internet, printed page, and audio-video recordings, this evangelist’s straightforward and uncompromising message of God’s love has inspired hundreds of millions to a personal relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. Pastor Benny’s ministry is also engaged in crisis relief, children’s homes, and feeding programs, as well as hospital and emergency care. During the past year alone, not only did his ministry help provide food, clothing, shelter, education, and religious training for 46,368 children around the globe (including partnerships with 31 different missionary and relief agencies), but it also continues to underwrite the free care expenses of such powerful outreaches as a hospital in Calcutta, India, where over 200,000 patients are treated annually, and My Father’s House children’s homes in Mexico and the Philippines. Click here for pictures of Pastor Benny’s outreach to world leaders. Taking the Saving and Healing Power of Jesus Christ to the World Today, Pastor Benny continues to take the message of God’s saving and healing power to the world. Millions attend his Holy Spirit Miracle Crusades each year. Memorable crusades have included audiences up to 7.3 million (in three services) in India, the largest healing service in recorded history. During recent years, he has been welcomed during his travels by kings, prime ministers, and heads of state, yet his message of the Gospel of Jesus Christ continues to be fervent, motivating him to “go ye into all the world, and preach the gospel to every creature” (Mark 16:15). After more than 30 years in ministry as statesman, author, broadcaster, bridge builder, and evangelist, Pastor Benny Hinn remains committed, more than ever, to preaching the glorious Gospel of Jesus Christ, teaching the unchanging Word of God, and expecting the mighty and miraculous power of the Holy Spirit! more

Resolved Question: How much does an average employee make at Sonic?

My neighbor owns the Sonic Drive-In in my town and we're like, I suppose you can say "friends". He'll give us free food anytime we want (DON'T WORRY- WE DON'T TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT! In fact, we haven't asked him ONCE to let us get something for free) He's considering maybe letting me get a job there!!! I'm 14 years old- before you start saying anything, keep reading. My mom is on Medical Disability and in the state of Texas I am legally allowed to get my Drivers' Permit and have a job, though I cannot get the actual Driver's License until I am 15. Medical Disability does NOT pay that much a month, and I'd rather not discuss the situation. The money we do receive goes straight to bills, our car, food, and bills that weren't paid from the month before. I literally have not gone out shopping since the beginning of last school year, and I'm starting high school once this summer is over... I want to bring in a extra income to help my family with what I suppose you can call "luxury items". I will be helping both of my brothers and I buy new clothes for this school year and buying new makeup for high school. (the makeup is for me, of course lol) I know Sonic waitresses our carhops usually don't get paid too much, and I definitely won't be able to go on a shopping spree after one day, possibly a week, or even a month! I heard you only get paid about $4.00 an hour, but I don't want to ask my employer, I don't want to risk making him have second thoughts or thinking I have too high of expectations. I just need the $$$, and if you think it's dumb because I'm so young, then hey, that's fine, but at least I'm not the kind of teen that will take my parent's money or beg people for it. At least I'm working for it :) more

Voting Question: economic hardship issues?

I've been living in a catch 22 for 7 years. My drivers license was suspended in Texas in 2003 for a no insurance ticket. I let my insurance lapse because I had to take custody of my daughter and couldn't afford insurance AND formula, diapers, new clothes (daughters mother disposed of all my daughters clothing when the state took her for her mother), and even being a single father I wasn't eligible for state assistance. IF I COULD GET MY DRIVERS LICENSE STRAIGHT I would be able to go back to work doing the technician work I did before I lost my license and things would be okay, but HOW??? Texas wants money to get my license back-- way more than I can make without my license, and without my license I can't even find a burger-flipping job because I'm not considered to have reliable transportation from where I live.... I'm willing to even ship off and work on a ship fishing or on a cargo boat, whatever it takes-- to make a few honest bucks to provide for my family and get my act together Any suggestions?? To top it off I got royally screwed out of the earnings this summer by Linda Blair (she decided she didn't want to pay me for working at her foundation last summer-- an excess of $15,000!) and no attorney wants to take the case for unpaid wages against the exorcist actress..... I've exhausted all my ideas, I need some GOOD suggestions! PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! more

Resolved Question: where would the best state in america be to live and work in for a black british girl?

I am thinking to move to america but I was wondering where the best state to live in would be. Im about 25 years old and its quite daunting to leave all you know to move to another country. I am black I have an accent and like wearing british style clothes like polka dot dresses and vintage style tea dresses. Ive heard in some black areas in america you have to dress hood I dont want to stand out like an alien. The idea of New Jersey sounds cool maybe or Texas what do you think. more

Resolved Question: What is the best state in the Southwest to move to if looking for just a minimum wage job to survive off of?

My parents are moving to Maine and I'm not in the picture. It will be pretty difficult to survive in Boston due to high taxes, high rent, not many jobs and I hate the weather here anyways. I always loved the Southwest, especially the desert and the people are friendlier than up here in Mass. I am 28 year old guy and have about 5 thousand saved. My plan is to sell whatever I have and buy a car and leave with just my clothes, find a cheap studio or apartment and then quickly try to find a minimum wage job. Is this realistic? If yes where would be a good place to go? I'm considering West Texas, New Mexico, Arizona, Utah, Nevada and MAYBE California though I doubt I will have any luck there. more

Resolved Question: Been married only 11 months and already want a DIVORCE!!!?

I hate to even talk about this...but I need some serious ADVICE!!!!!! I just turned 27, got married last summer to my college sweetheart. We dated for 4 years (engaged for 2yrs) and finally got married last summer. Before we got married, things were PERFECT in the begining like most relationships... while in college we lived together for a year,then we graduated and I moved back home out of state to Texas and he decided to move with me,so we could be together. We got engaged about 6 months after the move. Well...when he moved down, he had no job... He was unemployed for over a year while living with me and it was too much STRESS on the realtionship ,bc I was PAYING For everything (rent, food, clothes etc) it was bad...and I felt he had no ambition!!! HE was NOT like this in college,,,but things changed when he moved out of state with me...I got tired of taking care of him and myself.. that I broke it off with him...and started seeing other guys...and he moved back to his home state Ohio.. Well after 3 months of being SINGLE, I got lonely and missed him so I decided to make it work again, and offered to move up to his home state (Ohio) so we could be together. To make a long story short...We got married a year later..and things were great..until after I got married I decided to move back to Texas for a good job offer! Well...all hell happened..since then he has been working in Ohio ,but visits me every weekend.,..he is looking for a job here in Texas but no luck yet. He also doesnt want kids ,anytime soon and I do...we fight about it all the time...and its got so bad that he wont even have sex with me! When we do have sex about once a week...I told him I have needs and want it more often,,,but we just fight about that,,,and the fact that he is back and forth (from Ohio to Texas).. Its FRUSTRATING!!! I dont know if we should divorce or seek counseling an work it out! I love him and he loves me...he is a very good , sweet guy...but he is not here for me emotionally or physically like I NEED!!! What should I do? AM I selfish ? I feel like he is the selfish one?*He doesnt want sex like I do...since we got married he is scared to get me pregnant (that is what he tells me) so that is why we fight about sex,and he doesnt want it... its HORRIABLE!!! And Im on the pill, which makes it worse...as to why he still will NOT have sex!!!! :( I feel like I may be forced to go outside the MARRIAGE for some love and care... more

Resolved Question: What's the most efficient and best way to move?

I'm leaving home (got disowned) and so I'm going to start anew in a new state. I'm going from Oregon to Texas. I have books (which weigh tons), clothes, the essentials (you know), etc. They'll be boxed up. I was thinking about having my things shipped by a close friend but it could get quite pricey (especially the books). I'm searching through other people's questions and it seems like uhaul is expensive and also how the heck am I suppose to return it? Once i'm in texas I'm staying there. Is there a way I have my things in texas one way. I don't have a car so driving it there would be impossible. I'll also be tight on money since I'll have no money actually but just credit cards. So buying plastic drawers with wheels from Target or Walmart probably won't happen since I need to save whatever money I have. As to how I'm going to get there, either by train, greyhound, plane -whatever is cheapest and safest. Any tips would be gladly appreciated too! Thanks in advance!i would prefer a way that allows for both myself and my stuff to be moved together. more

Resolved Question: Some of my family members moved and left their stuff six months ago & will not come pick it up help!?

they left vehicles old clothes and other what should the written notice look like before i get rid of their clothes and have their vehicles towed? i need to rid this stuff from my property because im preparing to sell my property. and how long do i have to wait in the state of texas, were in harris county if that is anything that is needed to know.can i sell the stuff or give it to a charity then? more

Resolved Question: Why is Texas school bringing back the paddle?

What do the paddling 'naysayers' think about this school saying the behavior is improving dramatically??? (see whole story on the link) http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/04/15/AR2010041505964.html TEMPLE, TEX. -- In an era when students talk back to teachers, skip class and wear ever-more-risque clothing to school, one central Texas city has hit upon a deceptively simple solution: Bring back the paddle. Most school districts across the country banned paddling of students long ago. Texas sat that trend out. Nearly a quarter of the estimated 225,000 students who received corporal punishment nationwide in 2006, the latest figures available, were from the Lone Star State. But even by Texas standards, Temple is unusual. The city, a compact railroad hub of 60,000 people, banned the practice and then revived it at the demand of parents who longed for the orderly schools of yesteryear. Without paddling, "there were no consequences for kids," said Steve Wright, who runs a construction business and is Temple's school board president. Since paddling was brought back to the city's 14 schools by a unanimous board vote in May, behavior at Temple's single high school has changed dramatically, Wright said, even though only one student in the school system has been paddled. more

Resolved Question: Is this an effective way to move?

I am moving to another state (from California to Texas) in early June. What I’m planning to do is to take all of my most necessary things on the flight with me (like some clothes, laptop etc.). A couple of days before I leave, I want to pack all of my less important things in boxes and ship them to the apartment I will be staying at in the other state. Is this an effective method? Thanks. more

Resolved Question: What is the weather like in London Sept-Dec?

So I live in Texas, the bipolar state :). The weather is hectic, but It only snowed for an hour out of the whole year... so I wanted to know how the weather is in London September-December since I will be studying abroad there. Do I need an actual coat? Does it snow there? Rain? It sounds stupid but its never that cold here. Also it rains quite a lot over here, I believe the same applys? If you would give me a breakdown of clothing I would need I would appreciate it. more

Resolved Question: Places to Buy CUTE, PROFESSIONAL Maternity Clothes?

Hi! I need advice on retail places (I prefer not to buy on the internet) to shop for maternity clothes? I'm young, only in my early 20's. The clothes need to be cute obviously, not matronly. But the main issue is, they need to be pretty and professional. I work in an office full time so I have to look professional. Not necessarily suits, but maybe slacks and pretty blouses, dresses and heels, jackets, etc. I went to Kohls and not only was their maternity section extremely small (about 5 small racks), it was all very plain and not work dress code at all (think baggy cotton cargo capris, all in XL). Help! PS I'm in Dallas, Texas so anyone who knows the area would be appreciated. Although a lot of retail stores are in more than one state so any advice is welcome! Thanks! more

Resolved Question: Conclusion Paragraph?

I'm typing a paper about mexico for english class, I don't know what to put in my Conclusion Paragraph. this is what I wrote "Mexico is rich in culture, history and natural resources. Mexico covers 761,602 sq miles; it’s about 3 times the size of Texas. It shares the northern border with the U.S. and southern border with Guatemala. Mexico is rich in natural resources like oil, natural gas, gold, silver, and coal. Mexico’s history boasts a long line of advance indigenous civilizations whose accomplishments rival those of the Egyptians and early Europeans. Mexico’s population is around 107.5 million; the population rate is going up 1.2 % annually. “Culture Grams.” They wear clothing that is common to the United States. Rural men and professional men in the north wear cowboy boots, hats, and jeans. Women wear dresses or skirts. They often dress up for special occasions. Mexican men greet with a handshake or head nod. Women greet with a kiss on the cheek. Song and dance is integral to Mexican society. Mariachi music originates from Mexico witch has a lot of interracial audience.” Culture Grams.” Mexico City is the capital and the largest. “The City of the Mountains" Web. Teotihuacan is a tourist attraction in Mexico City, it’s a large pyramid. Guadalajara is the second major city in Mexico and it’s the second largest. Mariachi music was born in Guadalajara. Monterrey is the third major city in Mexico and the third largest. Monterrey is one of the most important production and trade center. Parque Natural la Estanzuela is a tourist attraction in Monterrey. It has many different kinds of birds like the red necked Picogordo, Chipe, and the blue crowned Momotos. I learned about the day of the dead in Spanish class, it’s a holiday for people in Mexico to reunite with the dead by prayer. It’s the day after Halloween Nov. 1st. It’s a day where we can show deceased love ones respect and their souls return to their homes. Another activity they have in Mexico is bull fighting. Bull fighting has been the most popular in the country for the last 400 years. “Bullfighting” Web. The holiday of Cinco De Mayo meaning the 5th of may commemorates the victory of the Mexican militia over the French army at the battle of Puebla in 1862. “Cinco De Mayo." Web." what should my conclusion paragraph be? more

Resolved Question: traveling to texas w/10 month old need help?

i am going to texas so my son can see his father. however we have never left the state b4 ..what do i pack to take with me..clothes diapers food wise um toys? someone please helpi know what he needs but i am just stuck like do i take bottles... do i buy his food and stuff out there? .. i guess i am worried i am not gonna pack the right stuff more

Voting Question: getting child support from my x?

I have 2 kids from my previous marriage. We have been divorced for 5 years and he has never once paid child support. I have since remarried and have a son with my current husband. My husband took my girls and support them with no problem. He loves them as his own children. My x hardly even contacts my girls and the only visitation he has is 4 weeks in the summer (he lives in California and i moved to Texas 3 years ago for my husbands work). Since the bad economy hit my husband now travels 4-5 days a week and i am unable to work without putting my kids in very extended daycare. We just lost our house (shortsale) and we moved into an apartment. My husband is starting to get a little peeved at my x, who just bought a house and a new truck and the only person he supports is himself and his non working girlfriend. My x did recently buy some clothing and paid for soccer and health insurance(even though they have been fully insured with my husbands company for years and my x plays the martyr saying he is paying for insurance the last 3 months that we might never use). My x was a very scarry guy for a long time, hence my divorce. Im really scared about going after him for the child support even though it seems like he has calmed down. He said since i moved the kids out of state (with his signed permission and revised visitation schedule) that he shouldnt have to pay anything and my husband should just get over it since my girls call my husband daddy (they asked us if they could call him daddy)...i need some encouragement. I know we need the money all of our savings is gone and we have no college savings and heck, the kids eat a lot. We could really use the extra $990 a month...Am i being a beas coming after him for support after all this time, i feel bad trying to collect money from him...i dont want him to loose his house or anything i just need financial helpi guess i should add that ive worked beyond full time since my kids were born. It kind of hurts that people just attack me because we were young and divorced. I quite my job because it got to the point where my kids were with the babysitter more than us, and the kids were just not doing well with being transferred from babysitter to house etc. When my husband started having to travel out of state 4-5 days a week life just got too insane. My X has never once paid a child support payment over the last 6 years since we separated. The $990 a month was the minimum court ordered payment based on what he made. I asked his permission before we ever truly considered moving out of state. My husband works in corporate tile and the California market tanked so we had to follow the work. My x said he only wanted to see the girls for 4 weeks a year...it was his decision. I offered him more time and i have asked him to visit (although not stay at my house overnight) on numerous occasions more

Resolved Question: can you find clothes like this at a thrift store?

im really into the surfer girl style cause it suits me well since i have an athletic bodyy. even though i dont know how to surf, i can still pull it off cause trust me, if there was a beach anywhere near here, i would be out at the beach everydayy. (: lol anyways can i find cheaper alternatives? cause ppl say pacsun is cheap and its really nott. i need shirts under $10 i loooooooooooooove clothes like this! haha http://www.roxy.com/family/index.jsp?categoryId=2818087&cp=2818165&fbc=1&f=Taxonomy%2FROXY%2F2818087&fbn=Taxonomy%7CTanks&view=all http://www.roxy.com/family/index.jsp?cp=2818165&categoryId=2818081&f=Taxonomy%2FROXY%2F2818081&fbc=1&fbn=Taxonomy%7CS%2FS+Tees http://www.roxy.com/family/index.jsp?cp=2818165&categoryId=2818085&f=Taxonomy%2FROXY%2F2818085&fbc=1&fbn=Taxonomy%7CShirts oo and i live in texas (howdy yall haha) so this is the bipolar state but its mostly hot here so dont worry abt the weatherr.and i dont really like hollister cause the clothes i can afford from there (clearance) is always the same lookin with the word hollister on itt. its not fun and vibrant and colorful! :D more

Resolved Question: Was Thomas Jefferson really a godless COMMUNIST?

You'd sure think so by the so called 'conservatives' that make up the current "Texas State Board Of Education". For this board to 'bump' Tom Jefferson from prominence regarding the framing of our Constitution, is tantamount to bumping the Christ as the Messiah of Christianity! To me, this board just proves that the modern religionist repub so called conservatives are nothing more than left wing power hungry control zealots dressed in sheep's clothing. These modern day repub religionists, in my opinion, are not at all like our Libertarian based founding fathers in ideology. Like Tom & company promoted INDIVIDUAL Liberties including a INDIVIDUAL based belief system., not the terrors of Torquemada enforced religion. Tom Jefferson wanted separation of church & state for he feared a government controlled church such as England had at the time. My question is... do you believe that Tom Jefferson because he was both a Deist & also believed in separation of church & state, should be removed from prominence as the chief architect of our Holy Constitution? http://news.yahoo.com/s/ynews/ynews_ts1253 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thomas_Jefferson more

Resolved Question: What to wear to NEW YORK in April 2010?? Girls please help!!?

Okay so April 4-9 is my spring break for my school we are going to New York, Washington D.C, and Philadelphia. Today (March 2010) the news has said there are blizzards going on there in New York and other east coast states. Is it still going to be snowing. So what should I wear. I have only been to Colorado, Texas, California, and Arizona. I have never been to any of the places we are going for school, let alone on a plane!! I know WOW!! Okay so getting to the point I don't know what to wear to these places (New York, Washington D.C, And Philadelphia) in April/Spring. Please help me in choices on like warm clothes such as sweaters, scarves, big jackets ect., or regular clothes like t-shirt jeans ect., or summer clothes shorts tanks ect. please help me!! I want to be prepared. Thank you! :) more

Resolved Question: I'm scared to death. I want a divorce. My husband is abusive and blames me for being that way. For years I?

For years I believed him. He put me down with insults.. brought up ugly things about my past.. put my body down after I had a baby.. Then the violence started to get worse. Prior to our daughter the fighting would get out of control and was both of our faults. We were kids and stupid. Now he loses his temper and flips out on me. Today actually I confronted him about some email I found to some other woman saying " Did you forget about me?" and I was pissed. Also found some dumb porn on his phone also.. I told him I was done. He took all my clothes and thru them on my bed. Thru a suitcase at me. He kept getting in my face and I pushed a fan at him.. he then ripped me down by my hair and kicked me several times in my shoulder and ribs. I'm so scared but I have to leave him. I have no job.. no education and have been at home raising my baby girl. I DONT WANT HER TO GROW UP SEEING THIS! I am usually happy and carefree when he's gone but when he's around I cant even lift my head with any shred of pride. Im really scared guys. Idk how to do this.. I was just hoping here I might find some reasources and help. I dont want this life for my daughter. I have zero self esteem now and need some serious help to get my head right again. If you know anything I might be able to do.. in the state of Texas PLEASE let me know. I know that this effects my child. I dont want that for her. Please dont post things that won't help me. You can not even imagine my desperation right now. I have no family. No friends here. No place to go. No money (He took it all and has his name only on the bank account.) I scared shitless but need to toughen up. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks guys.. :((Thanks guys and yes I do have proof. Im just scared. I have been out of work for so long and only been at home raising our daughter. I am terrified I wont be able to make it out there and he will try to get custody! He already says he wants joint and if I fight him he will spend every cent he has fighting me in court.... more

Resolved Question: Does anyone have any information on inexpensive shipping a couple of tubs state to state?

I'm moving across the country and need to ship 2 45 gallon rectangular tubs of clothing from Texas to Ohio. I'm kind of on a budget and to ship them USPS is waaay too expensive. I need help, please! Thanks! more

Resolved Question: what do these civil war quotes say to you....?

"What passes as standard American history is really Yankee history written by New Englanders or their puppets to glorify Yankee heroes and ideals." --- Dr. Grady McWhiney "Governor, if I had foreseen the use these people desired to make of their victory, there would have been no surrender at Appomattox, no, sir, not by me. Had I seen these results of subjugation, I would have preferred to die at Appomattox with my brave men, my sword in this right hand." --- General Robert E. Lee, CSA - as told to Texas ex-governor F. W. Stockdale ". . .a union that can only be maintained by swords and bayonets and in which strife and civil war are to take the place of brotherly love and kindness has no charm for me. I shall mourn for my country and for the welfare of mankind. If the union is dissolved and the government disrupted, I shall return to my native state and share the miseries of my people, and save in defence, will draw my sword on none." --- General Robert E. Lee, CSA "My shoes are gone; my clothes are almost gone. I'm weary, I'm sick, I'm hungry. My family have been killed or scattered. And I have suffered all this for my country. I love my country. But if this war is ever over, I'll be damned if I ever love another country." --- Confederate Soldier During Retreat To Appomattox "There are at present many Coloured men in the Confederate Army doing duty not only as cooks, servants and labourers, but real soldiers, having muskets on their shoulders, and bullets in their pockets". --- Frederick Douglas - Autumn Of 1861Here is one more. Asked Of Abraham Lincoln... "Why not let the South go in peace?" Response Of Abraham Lincoln... "I can't let them go. Who would pay for the government?" more

Resolved Question: Should I stay at home with my son, or push on through school?

The main question seems to have an obvious answer, right? Well, it gets a little foggy to me once I start thinking about the details. My son is due to go live with his dad in the UK for 5 years come this summer. I started Cosmetology school last September, thinking that I could do it all. I have the support of my mom (whom we live with), and figured that she could pick up the slack when it came to watching my son, and with daycare and his schooling, I thought it would all work out. Around Thanksgiving I got really sick, and have stayed pretty poorly ever since. Around the same time, my mom found out she has fibromyalgia (she already has a laundry list of other health issues, this one is just the most recent, and most debilitating problem). I've missed a lot of school, and have been able to spend a fair bit of time with my son. I realized yesterday that I'm running out of time to spend with him, that summer is coming up fast, and before I know it, I'll be flying him over to England. He even said to me today that he loves spending time with me, and wishes I could be home all the time. That broke my damn heart. So, I've come up with a "plan" to spend time with my son, and not give up on my career plan, but it involves putting school on the backburner until after I send my son to England. I guess I'm just asking...do you think it's okay for me to take a leave of absence from school so that I can spend as much time with my son as possible before he leaves? He struggles with serious ADHD, and dyslexia, compounded with a slight speech delay. I feel like if I'm home with him, I can finally get things situated with myself (in regards to time management and getting myself into a routine). My mother's health is declining rapidly, and my dad lives in Colorado (he stationed there until he retires this November) and only comes home once a month at the least. Once my son moves to England, and my dad moves home from Colorado (early Fall), I am planning on moving to Texas to live with my boyfriend, but I feel like at the moment I need to take care of my family. My mom needs help (she owns and manages a salon) with mobility (last night I had to help her get her clothes off as she couldn't lift her arms above her head), and I need to spend time with my son before he moves. I feel like I've already missed so much school due to being sick/run down, that it would just be better to take a leave of absence so as not to miss any more school due to being sick...and it'll give me the time I need to get myself healthy, spend lots of quality time with my son (one thing about my school is that we are required to go to school on a Saturday, no excuses unless it's medical or legal, and you have to have a written note stating as much, so I miss Saturday's with my son, he spends his Saturday's in daycare), and help my mom out as much as I can until my dad can take my place...but I guess I'm just looking for some clarification. Should I just stay in school Tuesday-Saturday, and try to fill in the gaps? Or do I take care of my family, and just start back to school once I get transferred to Texas in the fall? more

Resolved Question: Should I break up AFTER 7 YEARS!!!!? Please HELP!!!!!!!!!?

I met my girlfriend in high school 7 years ago (When she was 18 years old), around the second month that we were dating I was told by one of her family members that my girlfriend dated her cousin-husband..As soon as I had an option I ask my girlfriend about it and she started crying and told me that she made a huge mistake when she was 17 years old... she said to me that she got caught with a cell-phone that was given to her by her cousin-husband so that they could send each other messages, I asked Claudia if this guy had ever forced her to do something or if this guy had ever touch her... Claudia's response at the time was NO. Due to her response, I though that this guy had only tried to get her to do things, but that nothing had happen between them, so I decided to move on and forget about it. Problem is that now...After dating for 6 years and living together with Claudia for 5 years (even buying a house together) I asked her more information about what had happened in her past hoping that she would answer me the same way she did 7 years ago, but unfortunately, she said to me that one day when she got off early from high school and called her cousin's husband to hang out...which led them to a hotel room where he had oral sex with her. Apparently, the guy tried to do more things with her, but she stopped him and put her clothes back on. I asked Claudia why she didn't tell me truth 7 years ago, and she replied to me saying that she was afraid, and that at the time she didn't trust me to tell me. I asked her why she didn't seek for help to stop this guy, she said that she tried to so by talking to a preach whose solution was to ask her to move in with him, which hopefully didn't happen. How am I supposed to believe that she is telling me the whole truth? Is she supposed to be blamed for her pass? I would like to move on! How can I get myself to chill out about it Extra info: My girlfriend (Claudia) was sent to the United States from Mexico by her parents with a temporary visa so that she could go to high-school and learn English, At first, she lived with her grandmother ,but due to Claudia's loneliness and depression of being alone and not knowing anyone, she was removed from her grandmother's house, and transferred to her aunt's house who lived in Texas as well. While staying at her aunt's house she met her cousin(Diana) who was married to a guy named Jason who was a policeman at the time. Long story short, Claudia would always go to Diana's house to babysit Diana's and Jason's kids, but while being there she noticed that Diana's husband would always try to seduce her, especially while Diana was either asleep or absent...Claudia would always reject Diana's husband advances, but as time when by Claudia became friends with Jason and started giving in on some of this guy advances. At the time, Jason was 33 years old and Claudia 17. As a result: -Claudia's mom came to Texas to tell the police about what had happen -Jason was asked to resign to his policeman position (He wasn't fired, and doesn't have any criminal charges) so that means that he could get a job as a policeman anywhere else in the country, because he is not registered as a sex offender) -Diana and Jason remain married together -Claudia was removed from Texas and now lives somewhere else where she doesn't have contact with any of this people. -Claudia and myself used to get along very well. -she states that she has moved on I understand that I am NO ONE to judge others, but at the same time, I feel like my girlfriend has taken a huge drop in the way I see her and feel about her since the day she told me the whole truth. 1- How can I stop judging her? Should I even trust her more for being honest with me or should I just stay away from her? 2- From the man's perspective...How would you handle this problem? Do you think its possible to move on? 3- Do you think that people have a tendency to commit the same mistake after doing it once? PLEASE BE POLITE Thank you for your support more

Voting Question: Is she a sexual abuse victim or a bad person?

Voting Question: Was she a VICTIM of sexual abuse? Or not?

How can I save my relationship? PLEASE READ!? I met my girlfriend in high school 7 years ago (When she was 18 years old), around the second month that we were dating I was told by one of her family members that my girlfriend dated her cousin-husband..As soon as I had an option I ask my girlfriend about it and she started crying and told me that she made a huge mistake when she was 17 years old... she said to me that she got caught with a cell-phone that was given to her by her cousin-husband so that they could send each other messages, I asked Claudia if this guy had ever forced her to do something or if this guy had ever touch her... Claudia's response at the time was NO. Due to her response, I though that this guy had only tried to get her to do things, but that nothing had happen between them, so I decided to move on and forget about it. Problem is that now...After dating for 6 years and living together with Claudia for 5 years (even buying a house together) I asked her more information about what had happened in her past hoping that she would answer me the same way she did 7 years ago, but unfortunately, she said to me that one day when she got off early from high school and called her cousin's husband to hang out...which led them to a hotel room where he had oral sex with her. Apparently, the guy tried to do more things with her, but she stopped him and put her clothes back on. I asked Claudia why she didn't tell me truth 7 years ago, and she replied to me saying that she was afraid, and that at the time she didn't trust me to tell me. I asked her why she didn't seek for help to stop this guy, she said that she tried to so by talking to a preach whose solution was to ask her to move in with him, which hopefully didn't happen. How am I supposed to believe that she is telling me the whole truth? Is she supposed to be blamed for her pass? I would like to move on! How can I get myself to chill out about it Extra info: My girlfriend (Claudia) was sent to the United States from Mexico by her parents with a temporary visa so that she could go to high-school and learn English, At first, she lived with her grandmother ,but due to Claudia's loneliness and depression of being alone and not knowing anyone, she was removed from her grandmother's house, and transferred to her aunt's house who lived in Texas as well. While staying at her aunt's house she met her cousin(Diana) who was married to a guy named Jason who was a policeman at the time. Long story short, Claudia would always go to Diana's house to babysit Diana's and Jason's kids, but while being there she noticed that Diana's husband would always try to seduce her, especially while Diana was either asleep or absent...Claudia would always reject Diana's husband advances, but as time when by Claudia became friends with Jason and started giving in on some of this guy advances. At the time, Jason was 33 years old and Claudia 17. As a result: -Claudia's mom came to Texas to tell the police about what had happen -Jason was asked to resign to his policeman position (He wasn't fired, and doesn't have any criminal charges) so that means that he could get a job as a policeman anywhere else in the country, because he is not registered as a sex offender) -Diana and Jason remain married together -Claudia was removed from Texas and now lives somewhere else where she doesn't have contact with any of this people. -Claudia and myself used to get along very well. -she states that she has moved on I understand that I am NO ONE to judge others, but at the same time, I feel like my girlfriend has taken a huge drop in the way I see her and feel about her since the day she told me the whole truth. 1- How can I stop judging her? Should I even trust her more for being honest with me or should I just stay away from her? 2- From the man's perspective...How would you handle this problem? Do you think its possible to move on? 3- Do you think that people have a tendency to commit the same mistake after doing it once? PLEASE BE POLITE Thank you for your support more

Resolved Question: Was she abused? I BLAME HER FOR IT! Should I BREAK UP?

How can I save my relationship? URGENT HELP NEEDED PLEASE READ!!!!!? How can I save my relationship? PLEASE READ!? I met my girlfriend in high school 7 years ago (When she was 18 years old), around the second month that we were dating I was told by one of her family members that my girlfriend dated her cousin-husband..As soon as I had an option I ask my girlfriend about it and she started crying and told me that she made a huge mistake when she was 17 years old... she said to me that she got caught with a cell-phone that was given to her by her cousin-husband so that they could send each other messages, I asked Claudia if this guy had ever forced her to do something or if this guy had ever touch her... Claudia's response at the time was NO. Due to her response, I though that this guy had only tried to get her to do things, but that nothing had happen between them, so I decided to move on and forget about it. Problem is that now...After dating for 6 years and living together with Claudia for 5 years (even buying a house together) I asked her more information about what had happened in her past hoping that she would answer me the same way she did 7 years ago, but unfortunately, she said to me that one day when she got off early from high school and called her cousin's husband to hang out...which led them to a hotel room where he had oral sex with her. Apparently, the guy tried to do more things with her, but she stopped him and put her clothes back on. I asked Claudia why she didn't tell me truth 7 years ago, and she replied to me saying that she was afraid, and that at the time she didn't trust me to tell me. I asked her why she didn't seek for help to stop this guy, she said that she tried to so by talking to a preach whose solution was to ask her to move in with him, which hopefully didn't happen. How am I supposed to believe that she is telling me the whole truth? Is she supposed to be blamed for her pass? I would like to move on! How can I get myself to chill out about it Extra info: My girlfriend (Claudia) was sent to the United States from Mexico by her parents with a temporary visa so that she could go to high-school and learn English, At first, she lived with her grandmother ,but due to Claudia's loneliness and depression of being alone and not knowing anyone, she was removed from her grandmother's house, and transferred to her aunt's house who lived in Texas as well. While staying at her aunt's house she met her cousin(Diana) who was married to a guy named Jason who was a policeman at the time. Long story short, Claudia would always go to Diana's house to babysit Diana's and Jason's kids, but while being there she noticed that Diana's husband would always try to seduce her, especially while Diana was either asleep or absent...Claudia would always reject Diana's husband advances, but as time when by Claudia became friends with Jason and started giving in on some of this guy advances. At the time, Jason was 32 years old and Claudia 17. As a result: -Claudia's mom came to Texas to tell the police about what had happen -Jason was asked to resign to his policeman position (He wasn't fired, and doesn't have any criminal charges) so that means that he could get a job as a policeman anywhere else in the country, because he is not registered as a sex offender) -Diana and Jason remain married together -Claudia was removed from Texas and now lives somewhere else where she doesn't have contact with any of this people. -Claudia and myself used to get along very well. -she states that she has moved on I understand that I am NO ONE to judge others, but at the same time, I feel like my girlfriend has taken a huge drop in the way I see her and feel about her since the day she told me the whole truth. 1- How can I stop judging her? Should I even trust her more for being honest with me or should I just stay away from her? 2- From the man's perspective...How would you handle this problem? Do you think its possible to move on? 3- Do you think that people have a tendency to commit the same mistake after doing it once? PLEASE BE POLITE Thank you for your support more

Resolved Question: How can I save my relationship? PLEASE READ!?

I met my girlfriend in high school 7 years ago (When she was 18 years old), around the second month that we were dating I was told by one of her family members that my girlfriend dated her cousin-husband..As soon as I had an option I ask my girlfriend about it and she started crying and told me that she made a huge mistake when she was 17 years old... she said to me that she got caught with a cell-phone that was given to her by her cousin-husband so that they could send each other messages, I asked Claudia if this guy had ever forced her to do something or if this guy had ever touch her... Claudia's response at the time was NO. Due to her response, I though that this guy had only tried to get her to do things, but that nothing had happen between them, so I decided to move on and forget about it. Problem is that now...After dating for 6 years and living together with Claudia for 5 years (even buying a house together) I asked her more information about what had happened in her past hoping that she would answer me the same way she did 7 years ago, but unfortunately, she said to me that one day when she got off early from high school and called her cousin's husband to hang out...which led them to a hotel room where he had oral sex with her. Apparently, the guy tried to do more things with her, but she stopped him and put her clothes back on. I asked Claudia why she didn't tell me truth 7 years ago, and she replied to me saying that she was afraid, and that at the time she didn't trust me to tell me. I asked her why she didn't seek for help to stop this guy, she said that she tried to so by talking to a preach whose solution was to ask her to move in with him, which hopefully didn't happen. How am I supposed to believe that she is telling me the whole truth? Is she supposed to be blamed for her pass? I would like to move on! How can I get myself to chill out about it Extra info: My girlfriend (Claudia) was sent to the United States from Mexico by her parents with a temporary visa so that she could go to high-school and learn English, At first, she lived with her grandmother ,but due to Claudia's loneliness and depression of being alone and not knowing anyone, she was removed from her grandmother's house, and transferred to her aunt's house who lived in Texas as well. While staying at her aunt's house she met her cousin(Diana) who was married to a guy named Jason who was a policeman at the time. Long story short, Claudia would always go to Diana's house to babysit Diana's and Jason's kids, but while being there she noticed that Diana's husband would always try to seduce her, especially while Diana was either asleep or absent...Claudia would always reject Diana's husband advances, but as time when by Claudia became friends with Jason and started giving in on some of this guy advances. At the time, Jason was 32 years old and Claudia 17. As a result: -Claudia's mom came to Texas to tell the police about what had happen -Jason was asked to resign to his policeman position (He wasn't fired, and doesn't have any criminal charges) so that means that he could get a job as a policeman anywhere else in the country, because he is not registered as a sex offender) -Diana and Jason remain married together -Claudia was removed from Texas and now lives somewhere else where she doesn't have contact with any of this people. -Claudia and myself used to get along very well. -she states that she has moved on I understand that I am NO ONE to judge others, but at the same time, I feel like my girlfriend has taken a huge drop in the way I see her and feel about her since the day she told me the whole truth. 1- How can I stop judging her? Should I even trust her more for being honest with me or should I just stay away from her? 2- From the man's perspective...How would you handle this problem? Do you think its possible to move on? 3- Do you think that people have a tendency to commit the same mistake after doing it once? PLEASE BE POLITE Thank you for your support more

Voting Question: Is it possible to take her seriously? URGENT HELP NEEDED!?

I met my girlfriend in high school 7 years ago (When she was 18 years old), around the second month that we were dating I was told by one of her family members that my girlfriend dated her cousin-husband..As soon as I had an option I ask my girlfriend about it and she started crying and told me that she made a huge mistake when she was 17 years old... she said to me that she got caught with a cell-phone that was given to her by her cousin-husband so that they could send each other messages, I asked Claudia if this guy had ever forced her to do something or if this guy had ever touch her... Claudia's response at the time was NO. Due to her response, I though that this guy had only tried to get her to do things, but that nothing had happen between them, so I decided to move on and forget about it. Problem is that now...After dating for 6 years and living together with Claudia for 5 years (even buying a house together) I asked her more information about what had happened in her past hoping that she would answer me the same way she did 7 years ago, but unfortunately, she said to me that one day when she got off early from high school and called her cousin's husband to hang out...which led them to a hotel room where he had oral sex with her. Apparently, the guy tried to do more things with her, but she stopped him and put her clothes back on. I asked Claudia why she didn't tell me truth 7 years ago, and she replied to me saying that she was afraid, and that at the time she didn't trust me to tell me. I asked her why she didn't seek for help to stop this guy, she said that she tried to so by talking to a preach whose solution was to ask her to move in with him, which hopefully didn't happen. How am I supposed to believe that she is telling me the whole truth? Is she supposed to be blamed for her pass? I would like to move on! How can I get myself to chill out about it Extra info: My girlfriend (Claudia) was sent to the United States from Mexico by her parents with a temporary visa so that she could go to high-school and learn English, At first, she lived with her grandmother ,but due to Claudia's loneliness and depression of being alone and not knowing anyone, she was removed from her grandmother's house, and transferred to her aunt's house who lived in Texas as well. While staying at her aunt's house she met her cousin(Diana) who was married to a guy named Jason who was a policeman at the time. Long story short, Claudia would always go to Diana's house to babysit Diana's and Jason's kids, but while being there she noticed that Diana's husband would always try to seduce her, especially while Diana was either asleep or absent...Claudia would always reject Diana's husband advances, but as time when by Claudia became friends with Jason and started giving in on some of this guy advances. At the time, Jason was 32 years old and Claudia 17. As a result: -Claudia's mom came to Texas to tell the police about what had happen -Jason was asked to resign to his policeman position (He wasn't fired, and doesn't have any criminal charges) so that means that he could get a job as a policeman anywhere else in the country, because he is not registered as a sex offender) -Diana and Jason remain married together -Claudia was removed from Texas and now lives somewhere else where she doesn't have contact with any of this people. -Claudia and myself used to get along very well. -she states that she has moved on I understand that I am NO ONE to judge others, but at the same time, I feel like my girlfriend has taken a huge drop in the way I see her and feel about her since the day she told me the whole truth. 1- How can I stop judging her? Should I even trust her more for being honest with me or should I just stay away from her? 2- From the man's perspective...How would you handle this problem? Do you think its possible to move on? 3- Do you think that people have a tendency to commit the same mistake after doing it once? PLEASE BE POLITE Thank you for your support more

Resolved Question: Should I break up after 6 years? Do you think that she let me down?

I met my girlfriend in high school 7 years ago (When she was 18 years old), around the second month that we were dating I was told by one of her family members that my girlfriend dated her cousin-husband..As soon as I had an option I ask my girlfriend about it and she started crying and told me that she made a huge mistake when she was 17 years old... she said to me that she got caught with a cell-phone that was given to her by her cousin-husband so that they could send each other messages, I asked Claudia if this guy had ever forced her to do something or if this guy had ever touch her... Claudia's response at the time was NO. Due to her response, I though that this guy had only tried to get her to do things, but that nothing had happen between them, so I decided to move on and forget about it. Problem is that now...After dating for 6 years and living together with Claudia for 5 years (even buying a house together) I asked her more information about what had happened in her past hoping that she would answer me the same way she did 7 years ago, but unfortunately, she said to me that one day when she got off early from high school and called her cousin's husband to hang out...which led them to a hotel room where he had oral sex with her. Apparently, the guy tried to do more things with her, but she stopped him and put her clothes back on. I asked Claudia why she didn't tell me truth 7 years ago, and she replied to me saying that she was afraid, and that at the time she didn't trust me to tell me. I asked her why she didn't seek for help to stop this guy, she said that she tried to so by talking to a preach whose solution was to ask her to move in with him, which hopefully didn't happen. How am I supposed to believe that she is telling me the whole truth? Is she supposed to be blamed for her pass? I would like to move on! How can I get myself to chill out about it Extra info: My girlfriend (Claudia) was sent to the United States from Mexico by her parents with a temporary visa so that she could go to high-school and learn English, At first, she lived with her grandmother ,but due to Claudia's loneliness and depression of being alone and not knowing anyone, she was removed from her grandmother's house, and transferred to her aunt's house who lived in Texas as well. While staying at her aunt's house she met her cousin(Diana) who was married to a guy named Jason who was a policeman at the time. Long story short, Claudia would always go to Diana's house to babysit Diana's and Jason's kids, but while being there she noticed that Diana's husband would always try to seduce her, especially while Diana was either asleep or absent...Claudia would always reject Diana's husband advances, but as time when by Claudia became friends with Jason and started giving in on some of this guy advances. At the time, Jason was 32 years old and Claudia 17. As a result: -Claudia's mom came to Texas to tell the police about what had happen -Jason was asked to resign to his policeman position (He wasn't fired, and doesn't have any criminal charges) so that means that he could get a job as a policeman anywhere else in the country, because he is not registered as a sex offender) -Diana and Jason remain married together -Claudia was removed from Texas and now lives somewhere else where she doesn't have contact with any of this people. -Claudia and myself used to get along very well. -she states that she has moved on I understand that I am NO ONE to judge others, but at the same time, I feel like my girlfriend has taken a huge drop in the way I see her and feel about her since the day she told me the whole truth. 1- How can I stop judging her? Should I even trust her more for being honest with me or should I just stay away from her? 2- From the man's perspective...How would you handle this problem? Do you think its possible to move on? 3- Do you think that people have a tendency to commit the same mistake after doing it once? PLEASE BE POLITE Thank you for your support more

Voting Question: Would this bother you? Am I crazy for being worried about it? PLEASE URGENT HELP!?

I met my girlfriend in high school 7 years ago (When she was 18 years old), around the second month that we were dating I was told by one of her family members that my girlfriend dated her cousin-husband..As soon as I had an option I ask my girlfriend about it and she started crying and told me that she made a huge mistake when she was 17 years old... she said to me that she got caught with a cell-phone that was given to her by her cousin-husband so that they could send each other messages, I asked Claudia if this guy had ever forced her to do something or if this guy had ever touch her... Claudia's response at the time was NO. Due to her response, I though that this guy had only tried to get her to do things, but that nothing had happen between them, so I decided to move on and forget about it. Problem is that now...After dating for 6 years and living together with Claudia for 5 years (even buying a house together) I asked her more information about what had happened in her past hoping that she would answer me the same way she did 7 years ago, but unfortunately, she said to me that one day when she got off early from high school and called her cousin's husband to hang out...which led them to a hotel room where he had oral sex with her. Apparently, the guy tried to do more things with her, but she stopped him and put her clothes back on. I asked Claudia why she didn't tell me truth 7 years ago, and she replied to me saying that she was afraid, and that at the time she didn't trust me to tell me. I asked her why she didn't seek for help to stop this guy, she said that she tried to so by talking to a preach whose solution was to ask her to move in with him, which hopefully didn't happen. How am I supposed to believe that she is telling me the whole truth? Is she supposed to be blamed for her pass? I would like to move on! How can I get myself to chill out about it Extra info: My girlfriend (Claudia) was sent to the United States from Mexico by her parents with a temporary visa so that she could go to high-school and learn English, At first, she lived with her grandmother ,but due to Claudia's loneliness and depression of being alone and not knowing anyone, she was removed from her grandmother's house, and transferred to her aunt's house who lived in Texas as well. While staying at her aunt's house she met her cousin(Diana) who was married to a guy named Jason who was a policeman at the time. Long story short, Claudia would always go to Diana's house to babysit Diana's and Jason's kids, but while being there she noticed that Diana's husband would always try to seduce her, especially while Diana was either asleep or absent...Claudia would always reject Diana's husband advances, but as time when by Claudia became friends with Jason and started giving in on some of this guy advances. At the time, Jason was 32 years old and Claudia 17. As a result: -Claudia's mom came to Texas to tell the police about what had happen -Jason was asked to resign to his policeman position (He wasn't fired, and doesn't have any criminal charges) so that means that he could get a job as a policeman anywhere else in the country, because he is not registered as a sex offender) -Diana and Jason remain married together -Claudia was removed from Texas and now lives somewhere else where she doesn't have contact with any of this people. -Claudia and myself used to get along very well. -she states that she has moved on I understand that I am NO ONE to judge others, but at the same time, I feel like my girlfriend has taken a huge drop in the way I see her and feel about her since the day she told me the whole truth. 1- How can I stop judging her? Should I even trust her more for being honest with me or should I just stay away from her? 2- From the man's perspective...How would you handle this problem? Do you think its possible to move on? 3- Do you think that people have a tendency to commit the same mistake after doing it once? PLEASE BE POLITE Thank you for your support more

Voting Question: Would this bother you? Am I crazy for being worried about it?

I met my girlfriend in high school 7 years ago (When she was 18 years old), around the second month that we were dating I was told by one of her family members that my girlfriend dated her cousin-husband..As soon as I had an option I ask my girlfriend about it and she started crying and told me that she made a huge mistake when she was 17 years old... she said to me that she got caught with a cell-phone that was given to her by her cousin-husband so that they could send each other messages, I asked Claudia if this guy had ever forced her to do something or if this guy had ever touch her... Claudia's response at the time was NO. Due to her response, I though that this guy had only tried to get her to do things, but that nothing had happen between them, so I decided to move on and forget about it. Problem is that now...After dating for 6 years and living together with Claudia for 5 years (even buying a house together) I asked her more information about what had happened in her past hoping that she would answer me the same way she did 7 years ago, but unfortunately, she said to me that one day when she got off early from high school and called her cousin's husband to hang out...which led them to a hotel room where he had oral sex with her. Apparently, the guy tried to do more things with her, but she stopped him and put her clothes back on. I asked Claudia why she didn't tell me truth 7 years ago, and she replied to me saying that she was afraid, and that at the time she didn't trust me to tell me. I asked her why she didn't seek for help to stop this guy, she said that she tried to so by talking to a preach whose solution was to ask her to move in with him, which hopefully didn't happen. How am I supposed to believe that she is telling me the whole truth? Is she supposed to be blamed for her pass? I would like to move on! How can I get myself to chill out about it Extra info: My girlfriend (Claudia) was sent to the United States from Mexico by her parents with a temporary visa so that she could go to high-school and learn English, At first, she lived with her grandmother ,but due to Claudia's loneliness and depression of being alone and not knowing anyone, she was removed from her grandmother's house, and transferred to her aunt's house who lived in Texas as well. While staying at her aunt's house she met her cousin(Diana) who was married to a guy named Jason who was a policeman at the time. Long story short, Claudia would always go to Diana's house to babysit Diana's and Jason's kids, but while being there she noticed that Diana's husband would always try to seduce her, especially while Diana was either asleep or absent...Claudia would always reject Diana's husband advances, but as time when by Claudia became friends with Jason and started giving in on some of this guy advances. At the time, Jason was 32 years old and Claudia 17. As a result: -Claudia's mom came to Texas to tell the police about what had happen -Jason was asked to resign to his policeman position (He wasn't fired, and doesn't have any criminal charges) so that means that he could get a job as a policeman anywhere else in the country, because he is not registered as a sex offender) -Diana and Jason remain married together -Claudia was removed from Texas and now lives somewhere else where she doesn't have contact with any of this people. -Claudia and myself used to get along very well. -she states that she has moved on I understand that I am NO ONE to judge others, but at the same time, I feel like my girlfriend has taken a huge drop in the way I see her and feel about her since the day she told me the whole truth. 1- How can I stop judging her? Should I even trust her more for being honest with me or should I just stay away from her? 2- From the man's perspective...How would you handle this problem? Do you think its possible to move on? 3- Do you think that people have a tendency to commit the same mistake after doing it once? PLEASE BE POLITE Thank you for your support more

Voting Question: Is it just me or is Cowboy style coming to different states?

OK I live in northern Utah (as in Ogden), and quite a lot this year (as in school year), a Cowboy style has come into the schools. Example: people are wearing cowboy hats, cowboy boots, cowboy style pants, etc. And at least 50 out of 1500 people in my school are doing it. I think some people moved from Texas or something and brought there cowboy style with them. I mean I have a friend that just moved from Texas over the summer and he isn't a cowboy type person. Anyway, has that happened recently or slowly over time where you live, for the northern states? Years before this Cowboy style wasn't around where I live, now it's everywhere. And all of a sudden it just appeared in school: Cowboy style - of people wearing that clothing. more

Resolved Question: She did something unmoral!!! Should I break up after 6 years?

I met my girlfriend in high school 7 years ago (When she was 18 years old), around the second month that we were dating I was told by one of her family members that my girlfriend dated her cousin-husband..As soon as I had an option I ask my girlfriend about it and she started crying and told me that she made a huge mistake when she was 17 years old... she said to me that she got caught with a cell-phone that was given to her by her cousin-husband so that they could send each other messages, I asked Claudia if this guy had ever forced her to do something or if this guy had ever touch her... Claudia's response at the time was NO. Due to her response, I though that this guy had only tried to get her to do things, but that nothing had happen between them, so I decided to move on and forget about it. Problem is that now...After dating for 6 years and living together with Claudia for 5 years (even buying a house together) I asked her more information about what had happened in her past hoping that she would answer me the same way she did 7 years ago, but unfortunately, she said to me that one day when she got off early from high school and called her cousin's husband to hang out...which led them to a hotel room where he had oral sex with her. Apparently, the guy tried to do more things with her, but she stopped him and put her clothes back on. I asked Claudia why she didn't tell me truth 7 years ago, and she replied to me saying that she was afraid, and that at the time she didn't trust me to tell me. I asked her why she didn't seek for help to stop this guy, she said that she tried to so by talking to a preach whose solution was to ask her to move in with him, which hopefully didn't happen. How am I supposed to believe that she is telling me the whole truth? Is she supposed to be blamed for her pass? I would like to move on! How can I get myself to chill out about it Extra info: My girlfriend (Claudia) was sent to the United States from Mexico by her parents with a temporary visa so that she could go to high-school and learn English, At first, she lived with her grandmother ,but due to Claudia's loneliness and depression of being alone and not knowing anyone, she was removed from her grandmother's house, and transferred to her aunt's house who lived in Texas as well. While staying at her aunt's house she met her cousin(Diana) who was married to a guy named Jason who was a policeman at the time. Long story short, Claudia would always go to Diana's house to babysit Diana's and Jason's kids, but while being there she noticed that Diana's husband would always try to seduce her, especially while Diana was either asleep or absent...Claudia would always reject Diana's husband advances, but as time when by Claudia became friends with Jason and started giving in on some of this guy advances. At the time, Jason was 32 years old and Claudia 17. As a result: -Claudia's mom came to Texas to tell the police about what had happen -Jason was asked to resign to his policeman position (He wasn't fired, and doesn't have any criminal charges) so that means that he could get a job as a policeman anywhere else in the country, because he is not registered as a sex offender) -Diana and Jason remain married together -Claudia was removed from Texas and now lives somewhere else where she doesn't have contact with any of this people. -Claudia and myself used to get along very well. -she states that she has moved on I understand that I am NO ONE to judge others, but at the same time, I feel like my girlfriend has taken a huge drop in the way I see her and feel about her since the day she told me the whole truth. 1- How can I stop judging her? Should I even trust her more for being honest with me or should I just stay away from her? 2- From the man's perspective...How would you handle this problem? Do you think its possible to move on? 3- Do you think that people have a tendency to commit the same mistake after doing it once? PLEASE BE POLITE Thank you for your support! more

Voting Question: I am confused! Should I break up after 6 years?

I met my girlfriend in high school 7 years ago (When she was 18 years old), around the second month that we were dating I was told by one of her family members that my girlfriend dated her cousin-husband..As soon as I had an option I ask my girlfriend about it and she started crying and told me that she made a huge mistake when she was 17 years old... she said to me that she got caught with a cell-phone that was given to her by her cousin-husband so that they could send each other messages, I asked Claudia if this guy had ever forced her to do something or if this guy had ever touch her... Claudia's response at the time was NO. Due to her response, I though that this guy had only tried to get her to do things, but that nothing had happen between them, so I decided to move on and forget about it. Problem is that now...After dating for 6 years and living together with Claudia for 5 years (even buying a house together) I asked her more information about what had happened in her past hoping that she would answer me the same way she did 7 years ago, but unfortunately, she said to me that one day when she got off early from high school and called her cousin's husband to hang out...which led them to a hotel room where he had oral sex with her. Apparently, the guy tried to do more things with her, but she stopped him and put her clothes back on. I asked Claudia why she didn't tell me truth 7 years ago, and she replied to me saying that she was afraid, and that at the time she didn't trust me to tell me. I asked her why she didn't seek for help to stop this guy, she said that she tried to so by talking to a preach whose solution was to ask her to move in with him, which hopefully didn't happen. How am I supposed to believe that she is telling me the whole truth? Is she supposed to be blamed for her pass? I would like to move on! How can I get myself to chill out about it Extra info: My girlfriend (Claudia) was sent to the United States from Mexico by her parents with a temporary visa so that she could go to high-school and learn English, At first, she lived with her grandmother ,but due to Claudia's loneliness and depression of being alone and not knowing anyone, she was removed from her grandmother's house, and transferred to her aunt's house who lived in Texas as well. While staying at her aunt's house she met her cousin(Diana) who was married to a guy named Jason who was a policeman at the time. Long story short, Claudia would always go to Diana's house to babysit Diana's and Jason's kids, but while being there she noticed that Diana's husband would always try to seduce her, especially while Diana was either asleep or absent...Claudia would always reject Diana's husband advances, but as time when by Claudia became friends with Jason and started giving in on some of this guy advances. At the time, Jason was 32 years old and Claudia 17. As a result: -Claudia's mom came to Texas to tell the police about what had happen -Jason was asked to resign to his policeman position (He wasn't fired, and doesn't have any criminal charges) so that means that he could get a job as a policeman anywhere else in the country, because he is not registered as a sex offender) -Diana and Jason remain married together -Claudia was removed from Texas and now lives somewhere else where she doesn't have contact with any of this people. -Claudia and myself used to get along very well. -she states that she has moved on I understand that I am NO ONE to judge others, but at the same time, I feel like my girlfriend has taken a huge drop in the way I see her and feel about her since the day she told me the whole truth. 1- How can I stop judging her? Should I even trust her more for being honest with me or should I just stay away from her? 2- From the man's perspective...How would you handle this problem? Do you think its possible to move on? 3- Do you think that people have a tendency to commit the same mistake after doing it once? PLEASE BE POLITE Thank you for your support! more

Resolved Question: How to modify divorce decree in Texas when I live in Illinois?

It's about 5 years since my divorce and the stipulations are that the community property was to be divided equally. To date, I have only taken my clothes and the car I had at the time. Now, I live out of state and I am also still on the mortgage to the house which my ex lives and is behind on the payments. Basically, what I need to do is modify the my decree to specifically state that the house is to be sold and the equity from the proceeds divided equally. I don't really need the money, but there's no way she could qualify for a refinance that would get my name off so she won't be dragging my credit through the mud. But, I wouldn't mind the 10-15k either. So, anyone know how I go about filing for modification without physically going to Texas? more

Resolved Question: Should I break up OR should this make my relationship stronger? URGENT HELP NEEDED.?

PLEASE READ! I KNOW IS REALLY LONG, BUT I REALLY NEED HELP! I met my girlfriend in high school 7 years ago (When she was 18 years old), around the second month that we were dating I was told by one of her family members that my girlfriend dated her cousin-husband..As soon as I had an option I ask my girlfriend about it and she started crying and told me that she made a huge mistake when she was 17 years old... she said to me that she got caught with a cell-phone that was given to her by her cousin-husband so that they could send each other messages, I asked Claudia if this guy had ever forced her to do something or if this guy had ever touch her... Claudia's response at the time was NO. Due to her response, I though that this guy had only tried to get her to do things, but that nothing had happen between them, so I decided to move on and forget about it. Problem is that now...After dating for 6 years and living together with Claudia for 5 years (even buying a house together) I asked her more information about what had happened in her past hoping that she would answer me the same way she did 7 years ago, but unfortunately, she said to me that one day when she got off early from high school and called her cousin's husband to hang out...which led them to a hotel room where he had oral sex with her. Apparently, the guy tried to do more things with her, but she stopped him and put her clothes back on. I asked Claudia why she didn't tell me truth 7 years ago, and she replied to me saying that she was afraid, and that at the time she didn't trust me to tell me. I asked her why she didn't seek for help to stop this guy, she said that she tried to so by talking to a preach whose solution was to ask her to move in with him, which hopefully didn't happen. How am I supposed to believe that she is telling me the whole truth? Is she supposed to be blamed for her pass? I would like to move on! How can I get myself to chill out about it Extra info: My girlfriend (Claudia) was sent to the United States from Mexico by her parents with a temporary visa so that she could go to high-school and learn English, At first, she lived with her grandmother ,but due to Claudia's loneliness and depression of being alone and not knowing anyone, she was removed from her grandmother's house, and transferred to her aunt's house who lived in Texas as well. While staying at her aunt's house she met her cousin(Diana) who was married to a guy named Jason who was a policeman at the time. Long story short, Claudia would always go to Diana's house to babysit Diana's and Jason's kids, but while being there she noticed that Diana's husband would always try to seduce her, especially while Diana was either asleep or absent...Claudia would always reject Diana's husband advances, but as time when by Claudia became friends with Jason and started giving in on some of this guy advances. At the time, Jason was 32 years old and Claudia 17. As a result: -Claudia's mom came to Texas to tell the police about what had happen -Jason was asked to resign to his policeman position (He wasn't fired, and doesn't have any criminal charges) so that means that he could get a job as a policeman anywhere else in the country, because he is not registered as a sex offender) -Diana and Jason remain married together -Claudia was removed from Texas and now lives somewhere else where she doesn't have contact with any of this people. -Claudia and myself used to get along very well. -she states that she has moved on I understand that I am NO ONE to judge others, but at the same time, I feel like my girlfriend has taken a huge drop in the way I see her and feel about her since the day she told me the whole truth. 1- How can I stop judging her? Should I even trust her more for being honest with me or should I just stay away from her? 2- From the man's perspective...How would you handle this problem? Do you think its possible to move on? 3- Do you think that people have a tendency to commit the same mistake after doing it once? PLEASE BE POLITE, Put yourself on my shoes for once! Thank you for your support! more