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Royal Shell Vacations Acquires Cashiers Resort Rentals

Royal Shell, just having closed on its second acquisition this month in Cashiers, North Carolina, underscores its commitment ... reputation of putting customers first.” List vacation rentals & home swaps from Seattle on http://www.bobzio.com for ...

North Carolina gets ready for 'Hunger Games' fans

RALEIGH, N.C. • Fans of "The Hunger Games" are already turning up in North Carolina, seeking out places where the movie ... which was the setting for District 12, home of the three main characters, Katniss, Peeta and Gale. Although the mill burned ...

Taxes from A to Z: V Is For Vacation Home

V is for Vacation Home. Spring Break is coming up in a few weeks and we’re lucky enough to be able to spend time with my parents in coastal North Carolina where I grew up. Every year that we go down there, I convince myself that I want a vacation home.

North Carolina-South Carolina State Line Redrawn

About two-thirds was in South Carolina, but he picked the spot for his home in North Carolina. Or at least he thought he did. The problems for Berlinger and the other property owners began before the United States was even a country, when the ...

Hunger Games: Movie expected to give a big boost to North Carolina tourism

... called North America is a fictional world that fans of The Hunger Games know as Panem and that residents of North Carolina know as their home state. The southern Appalachian mountain range, the thick forests and the modern architecture of North ...

Rare emeralds donated to North Carolina museum

RALEIGH, N.C. (AP) — Rare emeralds that spent as much as 300 million years buried 20 feet below ground in western North Carolina will stay in their home state in a public place for all to view. Three uncut emeralds — one weighing 1,225 carats — and ...

North Carolina Poised to Benefit From Hunger Games Interest

Buzz has already begun about the film's rural scenery: Much of the movie was shot in the rolling hills of North Carolina, and the Huffington Post ... heroine Katniss Everdeen's home, while the city of Charlotte posed as the all-powerful Capitol of Panem.

Hunger Games fans flocking to North Carolina, tourism industry to cash-in

FANS of The Hunger Games are already turning up in North Carolina, seeking out places where the movie ... which was the setting for District 12, home of the three main characters, Katniss, Peeta and Gale. Although the mill burned down in 1977, the 20 ...

North Carolina prepares to satisfy 'Hunger' of movie fans

RALEIGH, N.C. ---- Fans of "The Hunger Games" are already turning up in North Carolina, seeking out places where the movie ... which was the setting for District 12, home of the three main characters, Katniss, Peeta and Gale. Although the mill burned ...

Voting Question: Would you date me? No Pictures just facts about my personality.?

My name is Audre, and I'm a Sports Medicine Doctor. I work around with a lot of college basketball teams like the Carolina Tar Heels, Duke Blue Devils, Virginia Cavaliers, Virginia Tech Hokies and Wake Forest University. I am 25, blonde, blue eyes, 5'7, 132 pounds, and Miss Virginia runner up 2009. I live in a house in Raleigh, North Carolina, but almost never home because I travel a lot. My ex used to abuse me but we dated for 5 years, and I broke up with him before medical school. I haven't dated since. I like to run in my free time, and visit my vacation condo in Cancun, Mexico. I love to cook, but I can't bake a thing. I've been told I'm hilarious, just because I'm so goofy. I am a former cheerleader of 16 years, so I'm pretty fit, and flexible. I don't smoke. And only drink on special occasions. Would you date me? more

Resolved Question: I have not been to School in over a year but I am 23 years old and I already graduated is this truancy?

My parents have let me stay at home for over a year now, and are letting me stay at home from School and I already graduated and not only that, they are letting me not go to college until I am ready. I don't have a job yet and I am 23 years old and I stay at home while my parents are at work. I am taking some time off. I am also going on vacation tomorrow to escape N Carolina. I decided to go home and leave for home a month earlier than all of the other students left a month ahead of time, but I went to School in New York but I live in North Carolina. Is this against the law? more

Resolved Question: why are african americans in charleston south carolina in low wage positions only?

I am working for a family on vacation in Charleston south Carolina. I am from the north. I noticed all the people staying here are of European decent. But all the workers are African american. I don't understand why I haven't seen any black people in a suite and tie or even asian Americans. This is disturbing to me, could anyone tell me why this area seems so segregated? Everyone I've met has been very very nice, I just am not used to this atmosphere. At home there are all kinds of people in every field of work. Is this due to a historical difference? Am I seeing this from the wrong perspective? more

Resolved Question: Leaving to go on vacation tomorrow (eating tips)?

Tomorrow I am leaving from my home in N. Florida to go to North Carolina!! I am so excited! Going to see some friends and enjoy the cool weather, lol! However, since I will be dining out most meals, I need to know what I should eat since I am trying to lose weight! For exercise, I will be hiking trails! more

Resolved Question: Mini Vacation plan ideas?

Mini Vacation Plan ?? So in this mini vacation story there are 4 people involved.... Characters 1. Bob (19) 2. Sally (20) 3. Joe(21) 4. Erica(19) So bob and sally are siblings who lives in Georgia. And Joe and Erica are cousins. Joe lives in Oklahoma and Erica lives in North Carolina... Bob and Erica like each other, sally and joe like other... both of the pairs practically know about the other pair. And all 4 of them have been friends since they were kids. But then life kinda came in between and sent bob and sally in the same north... joe in south and erica in west.... so they have not seen each other in ages. well it turns out all four of them want to meet up... but their families don't know about all this so they wanna keep it that way especially because they come from a different cultural background where this is kinda not accepted... So they are not sure what to do... Bob and Erica were talking one day when they came up with a brilliant plan that Bob and Sally tell their parents they are going out for couple of days to meet up with some friends in a state where Joe use to live.... ( Not to mention Sally only knows she is going to Florida with her brother she doesn't know why she is going but the idea is that Joe will convince her and then she will know why she is going) Joe tells his family that he is just going back to his hometown to visit some of his friends Erica tells her family that she is going to the main campus of her school to take some classes there for her college for a short winter term... P.S. They are all planing to meet in florida... Bob and Erica are going to drive there while the other two are going fly in Now here are the potential problems and we need help with those problems Problem number 1. Sally is likely to never agree with this Problem number 2 Erica might not be allowed to take "classes" at the main campus and stay away from home for however long..... Problem number 3 all four of them are possibly going to be out of the the house for the same or similar amount of time and what if their parents communicated in that time... and said that yeah my son or daughter is at so and so pplace for however many days more

Resolved Question: HELP!!!! Where is an amazing cabin for a couple in North Carolina that isn't too expensive?

My boyfriend and I want to go on an romantic vacation to the Mountains. We live in South Carolina and my parents won't let me go too far away. We/ I want a cabin that over looks the mountains, has a hot tub, a nice fireplace in the bed room, very secluded, and a big log cabin. I know it might sound crazy but I won't it to be perfect. It is for out two year anniversary. I picky and want to make it amazing. But it can't be too expensive. Also, we only want to stay for a weekend. We can't find something that is close too home. We found something in Bryson City, NC but it is too far away. We want to go in November. Please help us to make our two years PERFECT!! Thanks dearly! :) more

Resolved Question: Hurricane Irene question?

My family and I had plans to stay on the Outer Banks, North Carolina in a large vacation home Saturday night - the next Saturday. But now Hurricane Irene poses a threat to that. We got the insurance on the home which says that if they have to totallly cancel our trip then we get paid, but if they open it before 3 days is up we don't. So, my question is, what's a good plan in this situation? We were going to grab a hotel somewhere kind of around that Carolinas/Virginia area such as Delaware on Saturday and then see how bad the damage is. Then if it wasn't bad we could still scoot down to the Outer Banks and get some of our time in. And then if it is bad there but not so bad in maybe Virginia we could book a hotel there. Or if it's bad all up the coast, just head west. (I live in upsate New York.) And please DON'T SAY 'just stay home' 'cause we won't do that. more

Resolved Question: Outer Banks North Carolina vacation rentals?

I have narrowed it down to 3 homes to stay at for vacation next summer. Has anyone stayed in either of these. Hearts of the sea...........Orange moon................Screamin Mimi....................These are off the Twiddy site. They are all pet friendly..if you have any suggestions on places out there that are pet friendly and under 1300 a week let me know. more

Resolved Question: Does Raleigh North Carolina dislike northern NYkers?

I vacationed down there, and loved it...made alot of friends and was approached by alot of warm folks.... Now being from NYC and italian , i decieded to relocate and set up a biz... I called up and went to realestate agents there (about 4 already) and the didnt return my calls, missed my appointments, showed me no info for homes or websites,,,and seem very distant while i am asking info its like pulling teeth with them . They are very disinterested in making a sale to me. Is this how these people are down here? The civil war is over..... more

Resolved Question: why does my mom do this?

ok so today my mom told me to cut up the meat she was gonna make and i didn't want to. i told her i will cut it up but then i wont help u anymore for the rest of the day cuz i was gonna go onto the internet. she said she was just gonna end up cutting the internet cuz my sis and i got "too lazy" because of it. (we've had it for years). then i said : "so r u going to put the internet back up when my brother comes back (he's away cuz he's doing something for the marines). then she said yes. i mean wtf. i said: "how come u would put it back up when he comes home?!" why dint u tell him to help u" (around the house)then she was like: ":because he's a man" i mean what the hell is a the difference between a man and a woman these days! shes so old fashioned!it pisses me off hat shes like that. i also remember one time shes said to my dad: "i think im going to cut the internet, anyways -----insert name(brother) isn't here so threes no use to still have it working."that day she also said me and my sister didn't use the internet for any good. TWF?!?!?!?!?!? shes saying it like my brother searched up school work and crap. he was just on facebook all day. and she just left it on for him, it pisses me off so much!!!!!!!!! he doesn't even pay for his own cellphone bill while he's over there in North carolina. nd when he Came back for vacations a month ago he got a parking ticket and my mom paid it for him! why does she spoil him so much when i dont even have a cellphone. and she always brings food to him at the table he never has to serve himself, BUT I DO!!!! then i ask her why and she says cuz im a woman. again idk why she spoils him. he has cussed her out, smoked weed, and told her he hated her. so i dont understand at all. also he's so lazy he never does anything. even if its something as simple as thrpowing out the trash. ughhhh what should i do to stop this sexism in my house? and dont tell me moms treat their sons better and dads treat theri daughter better, cuz my dad ant treating me anymore special he does my brother im 14 and hes 20 also dont say my brother is risking his life everyday cuz hes not even in the waralso ive helped her with chores all summer longIM NOT A SPOILED BRAT I USUALLY HELP HER ALL DAY WITH STUFF BUT SINCE I GOT PISSED I TOLD HER I WASNT GONNA HELP HER FOR THE REST OF THE A DAY more

Resolved Question: What to do when your really homesick?? :(?

I'm 13. My parents are divorced and my mom is in the army. She is stationed in North Carolina for the army but my younger brother and I live with our dad in Pennsylvania to go to school. We are staying with our mom all of summer vacation. It's really nice to spend time with my mom but I'm really homesick! I really miss my friends, my older brother who isn't here, I miss my grandparents, and my dog, and my cousins, and most of all my daddy! It's 3am and I can't sleep, I keep think about going home! I just really, really miss everything! I'm going home in two weeks but that seems like forever right now because all I want to do is go home and see everybody! How should deal with this homesickness? How do you deal when it happens to you? Thanks! more

Resolved Question: What to do when your super homesick?? :(?

Voting Question: I'm afraid my girlfriend isn't being honest with me and I don't know what to do?

I have been dating my girlfriend for six months now and it has been nothing less than wonderful. I met her through a mutual from the same hometown as her who now lives by me. She came down to visit our mutual friend one weekend and he brought her over to my apartment. There was an instant connection between us and we hit it off all night. When she returned home we continued to talk and get to know each other for several months before she finally gave into me asking her to be my girlfriend. Not too long after, I found out that just two weeks before I met her she moved back home from her ex boyfriend of four year's apartment in North Carolina. Though I hated the thought of me being the rebound boyfriend that stepped in to comfort the recently broken hearted girl, I was too emotionally attached to her at that point to end the relationship. I believe I may have even told her that I loved her for the first time. For the longest time, i tried hard not to bring up the story of what happened between her and.her ex but inevitably, the subject popped up from time to time. All she she would say about him was that he couldn't give up smoking and drinking when it was very obvious that it was ruining their relationship. She also said they just didn't really have anything in common and they wanted.completely different things in life so it would have never worked. My questioning ended there until weeks or months later she would mention his name or curse something that he did or said at one point. When I asked if.they still communicate, she said no. So once again, I let it go. Then, just last month she told me she had a dream about their breakup out of nowhere which I'll admit, caught me a little off guard. I asked her again if she had been talking to him and once again she said no, he had attempted to start conversation with her on Facebook but she just ignored him. She came down to spend her paid vacation time with me last week which I found to be extremely sweet. We had an amazing time together and I enjoyed every second of her company. She headed back to Cleveland this morning and I miss her already. However.... I got on my computer to check my email and Facebook messages to find that she forgot to sign out of her Facebook account. The very first message in her inbox: her ex. I opened it and to my surprise, I found close to 300 messages between the two of them dating back about a month ago. Around the time she started mentioning his name and having dreams about him. As I scrolled through the seemingly endless list of messages, one little phrase jumped off the screen more than any other. "I miss you too, Alex". As I continued to read, I stumbled on to something I know will always remain in the back of my mind... She admitted to wanting to see him and they plan on meeting up when he comes home for the holiday. I feel sick. Hurt and betrayed. I gave her everything I had and would continue do anything and everything in the world for her. I honestly thought she was the one, the one person I truly wanted to spend the rest of my life with. And now, I just don't know. Please tell me I'm just over reacting and I have nothing to worry about! I can't stand the thought of losing her. more

Voting Question: Friends who think I'm an idiot... how to deal with it?

It hurts so much... A little background information. I'm teaching EFL in Mexico right now, but I'm on vacation in USA but will return to Mexico in a week. I chatted online with a friend and he kept insisting that I not return to mexico and that I stay in USA and train for something here. I love my family, most of whom are here, but I HATE North Carolina (no offense if you're from there), the state where I have lived most of my life. I'm originally from Florida and have fond memories of my home state, but we moved to North Carolina when I was a young teenager and I was miserable from day one. Not a day went by that I didn't cry because I was unhappy in North Carolina and I dreamed of escaping... I studied abroad in Mexico and fell in love with Mexico and with the notion of traveling and seeing the world. I hate the idea of being chained down to a place and closing the book on adventures. I want to see the world and travel... I hate the thought of settling down. Furthermore I KNOW I don't belong in North Carolina and I would become fat and depressed here, all over again... and I think: I don't wanna be miserable. I became fat and depressed, and my life hit the toilet, when my family moved to North Carolina... I'll go away somewhere to study or teach and everything is great but I always wind up in North Carolina, only to become fat and depressed all over, and I want to leave North Carolina for good. This place crushes my soul and I have nothing but a series of sad memories. My friend keeps saying that I should at least stay in the USA but I hate the thought of being stuck somewhere like North Dakota (no offense to anyone from there!)... I don't think it would be any better than North Carolina... I would be just as far away from my loved ones, and I can't stand freezing cold weather... I want sunshine and Latin culture. I am furious at my friend, he tried to talk me out of going back to Mexico even though my mind is made up... I know what I'm doing and I told him that I'm not gonna change my mind but I am hurt because my friend seems to think I'm an idiot... he doesn't think I'm smart enough to make my own decisions. How do I make my friend see that I am smart enough to do just that? I'm not an idiot, but I come across that way... why? more

Resolved Question: Help me find some properties? I need suggestions!?

I'm looking to buy a house, I want one in North Car... and in TN. Thing is I'm scared of flooding, and tornadoes... is there any parts in these two states that hardly have these problems or none of these problems at all? Price isn't exactly a option. I'm not looking for a mansion! I'm also looking for a nice house with a pool, and maybe some place where I can have a small garden, and a spaciousness back yard! I'm a country girl! I don't really want to live in the city. I LOVE Townsend TN, and I LOVE Gatlinburg, Pigeonforge! Thing is I've been looking at houses for sale but I cant find nothing that can be a home, I'm not looking for some summer vacation spot, I want somewhere I can settle my roots! And I don't know to much about North Carolina I've never been there, but its a place of interest due to the family I've moved into.. Will you please give me some suggestions on some properties and locations? I also need to know of other states in the South that might fit my needs. more

Resolved Question: Should I let her go or pursue her?

I just returned from a week long vacation at a beach in North Carolina. Last night, which was my final night there, I met this incredible Romanian woman. She and many other foreigners were residing a few houses down from my house, so last night my friend came over with his new foreign girlfriend and the Romanian chick. The four of us walked down to the beach for a moonlit stroll on the beach. The moon was full and there was a nice breeze. Anyway, from the moment my friend brought this woman over, we were talking one-on-one for the entire two hours we hanged out. She seemed very interested in my life and I was in return. Mostly we talked about our future plans as well as her experience in America so far. The whole time I thought she was either 19 or 20, but when I asked her age she replied 24 and that she already graduated from college. She was around 5'8", gorgeous, brunette, energetic, incredibly nice, and with a very prety voice & accent. Before I knew it, she had to go home and get to sleep as she had work early the next morning. As she was saying goodbye, I was so extremely disappointed that I only managed to get out a "It was nice meeting you" from a distance. Anyway, I'm 18 years old and leaving for college 4 hours away in a month. The beach I was at is only a 2-3 hour drive from my house. I didn't get her Facebook or phone number regrettably, and I am now considering going back to see her. I would rather be rejected than live on dissatisfied with all the rude local girls I usually run into. I am worried I'll never feel this way about another girl. Maybe my standards are just getting higher? I've had girlfriends my age before and they are all complete retards compared to this chick. What do you think I should do?Edit: I forgot to add that she will only be in America for 3 months. She is down for the summer to work and get experience. Also, I have a summer job that I do every morning for a few hours 7 days a week.And my friend was in the same house as me, as we were on vacation together. When I refer to his girlfriend, I really mean this other foreign chick that he hooked up with. She happens to be in the same house as the Romanian chick and will be for the next 3 months.UPDATE: So here's where my situation is now. Someone I know living in the same house as the girl I like will ask her for her phone number for me. She will say something like 'so-and-so wants your phone number and/or or email.' This will happen tonight unless I call this off. My friend also found her Facebook and I have yet to add her. I am thinking I will add her after she is asked for her phone number. The reason I am not leaning towards driving down there to ask for her contact details in person is that she works 3 jobs and it would be hard finding her. Also, it could be odd just showing up at her workplace and asking for her contact info. Hopefully I can get her phone number first and then arrange a time to hang out with her (if she wants to).Edit: Nevermind that update. I went ahead and added her on Facebook. Then I can ask for her number directly and go from there. Still let me know your thoughts if you have any. All advice is appreciated.UPDATE: If anyone still cares, I have added her on Facebook, but she still hasn't accepted me. I sort of doubt she even has a laptop with her, considering I just found out (through a friend) that she doesn't have a cell phone that works in the U.S.. All I can do now is call their house phone and ask to speak with her, or just go there and hope I can find her. I'm definitely leanings towards calling, but I'm just not sure what to say yet. I'm a little nervous about it. more

Resolved Question: Confusinggg DirecTV Question?

My family and I have a full time home in Florida, and a vacation home in North Carolina. We have directv at home in florida, 5 receivers and 1 HD satelite dish. In north carolina, we currently have tvs but no tv service. So, heres the deal--- if we buy an HD satelite, the SAME exact model we have at home in florida, and install it on the house in north carolina, and bring maybe 2 receivers with us when we go up for vacation in NC, will they work up there? I mean, if its the SAME exact dish up there, and the power is shut off back home in FL, it should work, shouldnt it? more

Resolved Question: Is he going to break up with me?

Last night my boyfriend called me and was like im just calling to say goodnight. I reminded him that he said we would skype. So he said if i wanted to we would. he said we would get on at midnight. So i waited. he didnt get on until 1. but i didnt say anything. ill admit i was pmsing a little bit, but this was when we were on the phone. So he IMed me on skype ans said: what is ur problem? I apologized for being bitchy. He never replied. So i said: dont be mad. He never replied to that either. Around 1:30 he signed off. So i sent him a text asking why he signed off. As soon as I sent it, I got All of these messages at once from him: Skype in 2mins Go online wtf? Im online call my cell Did you just hang up on me? what did i do? Really?!? I hope you know what your doing. The last one bothers me the most. I NEVER GOT A CALL FROM HIM SO I COULDNT HANG UP! So after i got those messages, i tried calling a few times. he didnt answer, so i sent him these: What are you talking about?! Your not online and you never called me so i couldnt hang up on you! I just got 7 texts from you at once! wtf? i didnt even do anything wrong. answer your phone Please answer this is killing me. I dont even know what i did. I was on skype, it said you went offline, i asked you why and then i get like 7 texts from you. he never replied to those last night. And when i woke up this morning, he hadnt said anything to me or tried calling. So i sent him this text: ok baby listen. I did something that upset you. Whatever it was, im sorry. If you think i ignored you, i didnt. If i answered and hung up, i didnt mean to. I would never do something like that.You know i always want to talk. Im sorry i was moody. I said sorry on skype. Im thinking our phones messed up. That would explain why i got all your messages at once. please dont be mad :( I love you <3 He still hasnt replied to that. Heres a little background: Hes 33 and im 18. He went on vacation to North Carolina for a month to see his mom. Hes coming home tomorrow night and im suppost to sleep over. Hes told me how beautiful north carolina is and how bad he wants to stay there. He said im the only reason hes coming home. Hes always telling me im beautiful. He even told me he loves me. His behavior last night was FAR from normal. I know he was having a bad day somewhat, but it had nothing to do with me. Hes had bad days before and usually doesnt take them out on me. heres a couple sweet texts hes sent me: I cant wait to see you! Im going to hold you all night! Send me a pic of my truck and you please! i miss you both so much! Im sad for many reasons. I know i will be happy once we are together, I miss you too much! its scary! Im afraid to open my heart again. But i already have so please dont hurt me. I know you wouldnt on purpose, but as you know, shit happens. I pledge myself to you and only you. I just need to knpow that when things get hard your not going to cut and run. That was all yesterday. He was saying all that. those messages are the only thing giving me hope. Oh, and weve been through so much together. Me being pregnant, him having HPV. And being apart for a month. All at the very beginning of our relationship. So if we can get through that and were still together, why would he break up with me over something this stupid? It just doesnt seem possible. WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THIS SITUATION? IS HE GOING TO BREAK UP WITH ME OR AM I JUST PMSING AND OVERREACTING? BE HONEST!!!!! IM HURTING SO BAD. I CANT STAND WAITING FOR HIM TO CALL ME TODAY. THANK YOU FOR TAKING THE TIME TO READ THIS. 10 POINTS FOR BEST ANSWER :) more

Resolved Question: I hate myself and my life what can I do ?

My whole life no one has really cared about my feelings . I know some people may exaggerate but its totally true. No one cared and I have never felt like anyone loves me . I know that a few ppl do care but not enough to care about me emotionally . Iv always tried to turn to guys for that but still I give way too much and they run over me and play me . Every guy iv been with has had a baby by some one else . My whole family has done nothing but hurt me they've all betrayed each and everyone of them . Iv done everything for them but since my dad and my grandmom ruthie died I just dont know what love feels like . My maternal grandparents they raised me but im 28 now and I dont feel clos to them . I dont even call my step grandmom by a parental name . I used to call her mommom then I started calling her.mom but now that im older and realized how she treated me I don't call her anything . I just say "hey its me" when I call . I have been spending the past like five years begging her to love me . She betrayed me so manner times but it was the kind of betrayal that you only read about or see in the movies . They all abused me even my grandpop . He was so mean to me growing up . He push me down the steps and dragged me in the kitchen and made me sit there in front of him and eat all of my food . I would be like balling crying and he nor my grandmom didn't care he did it that time just because I put my food in the microwave and went upstairs ! My mom my sister and my brother they make up lies about me viscous horrible lies that have no truth to them . My grandpop had me livin like I was in a dungeon. In my room wit no tv no going outside . I even had to pee in a cup and wait until he left to pour it in the bathroom. This was my summer vacations as a child . My other paternal grandmom ruthie would call for me to come for the summer family reunion with all of, my cousins but I never knew and id have to go to north carolina where there were absolutely no children. I was there with 70 year olds alone with no friends. Iv always had severe depression even as a small child it was an accomplishment for me not to sob and cry on a daily basis. I would ask my grandpop to help me with my homework and if I didn't know.it he would smack me in my face over an over and over and my grandmom didn't care she just acted like it wasn't happening. My mom twin used to be very very mean to me too . I really loved her but she didn't love me . She used to push me down in scolding hot water & make me take a bath . It was so hot that it felt cold . She helped to fuck me up emotionally too . When I was nine she locked me out the house in a really bad neighborhood and the cops bought me home . Then when I got home they called my mom and she beat ME she damn knocked me out bc she beat me in the face with the heal of her shoe. And my sister was, laughing but I didn't do anything wrong . She was always so mean to me like my whole life and I told them I told my grandparents everytime but they never confronted her . My grandpop NEVER EVER talked to me ., like never even when I tried . He was so mean to me he talked at me not to me and it all caused me to act up in school . It hurt my social skills. I developed a few mental disorders from this . And im the only.one dealing with it . My grandpop was mean to me but if guys' mistreated me he said nothing . but they all buy me things . All of them but my mom twin didn't know if she loved me or if she wanted to kill me . She would try to fight me when I was like 8 or 9 and like up until I wasn't scared of her no more . Like she was 30 & I was 9 or so and she would try to fight me over aaliyah CD. my grandmom didn't care . Then they would buy me things to make up but never hug me NEVER tell me they loved me . I would try to hug my grandmom and every time she push me away . I want to have kids and marry into a family who really and truly loves me . Thats all I want . Money is great but I want love bc I never had it . I beg my grandmom to let me live someplace else bc I did have a childhood I NEVER was allowed to go outside like never even when my friends would come I wasn't allowed and even when I did go out it was only down the street and for only a few hours. My aunt and my mom were cruel to me but I just wanted to go outside I didn't care how they treated . My.mom wouldn't feed me and once I had to steal from one of my friends just for a bag of chips bc she fed my sisters and brother but not me . Idk what to do bc now, my grandmom is telling me to leave the house im in bc its hers. She put me out the car in the middle of the hood just bc I would roll the window down and she didn't want to be late picking up my neighbor. She love my neighbors more than me . Id be having an anxiety attack an I used to get them really really really bad an if they call her she leave me lying on the floor . I can go on and on .. I graduated from collegIv tried to commit suicide over 10 times to escape my.depression but obviously it didn't work . Now I smoke weed but I hate it . I don't wanna get high anymore .but its the only.way to escape my reality. Iv been to counseling an medication is no. option. I just.wanna know.how to let go and move on .how can I trust someone ? All I want is real.love and affection bc I never had that from my family . I loved them ..I really really loved them all but they didn't love me . Now my grandparents seem.sort of bad for my past but its just not enough for me to get over it . I don't really want my kids around them when I have them . I would never treat anyone like this like never bc its too hurtful and the pain is longstanding. My grandmom can b.very insensitive and she says things that has pushed me to suicide. Sometimes I don't wanna live I feel that way alot. I self mutilated I burned my arms and I wear long sleeves. How do ppl.get past these kind of calamities. I haven't done anything to causI DID GRADUATE FROM A FOUR YEAR COLLEGE Nd I was cum laude bc I bury myself in my school.work @ROWDY to avoid what was going on around me more

Resolved Question: Stepsister with BPD, stepmom enabling her. How do I cope?

My stepsister, Hannah, was diagnosed with BPD 5 years ago. My parents have been married for 16 years now and every year they've been married our lives have been wrought with drama. I am the oldest of 4 kids, 28, Hannah is 26, my sister is 25 and my stepbrother is 25. My sister, step brother and I all work hard, have happy, healthy lives and great relationships with each other and our parents.None of us have been close with Hannah for years, especially me. I cut Hannah out of my life last time she was home because she tried to blame her drugs (pot and cocaine) that my parents found on me. They went on vacation and they asked me to watch their dogs because Hannah had an episode and had to move home from North Carolina and be hospitalized. Why they let Hannah stay at their house unsupervised I don’t know, but my father knew the drugs weren’t mine (I’ve never done drugs nor have my parents ever suspected me of doing drugs) but my step mother believed Hannah. I suggested we both be drug tested and Hannah protested saying her medication would make her fail a drug test. My step mother suggested the whole thing be dropped.It was and Hannah didn’t get in trouble of course. Hannah moved back to North Caroline a week after incident even though she wasn’t cleared by her doctors. From hospitalizations, being fired from jobs, evicted from apartments, doing drugs, dating drug dealers and abusive men, violent outbursts, telling outrageous lies, begging for money, verbally abusing people, we've experienced it all. She even called in the middle of the night once to ask my parents how to bail her boyfriend out of jail because he stole her car and crashed it while drunk. Every time something happens where Hannah needs help my step mother swears she's not getting any free handouts. And every time my step mother goes back on her word and lets Hannah come and go as she pleases and Hannah does whatever she wants. Hannah broke the news to my parents that she was 16 weeks pregnant a month ago and she's keeping the baby. She's been doing drugs and drinking for the majority of her pregnancy, but says she's stopped now. That news and the fact that she has no job lead to Hannah moving back 2 weeks ago. I recently got married in Vegas with just my husband and me. Our families knew and said they wanted to throw us a party. My father is all about throwing us the best party ever, which my husband and I are extremely grateful, but I am afraid it's going to be a disaster. My step mother was really into the party planning details until Hannah came home. I recently just ask my step mother if any of her family would like to come to the party and she said "I'm too busy to think about that right now. Hannah is......" and she went off into some rant about Hannah. One of the deals about Hannah moving home was she would only be allowed to stay at my parents house for a month. When I asked my step mother about Hannah looking at a shelter for pregnant women that my parents recommended for her my step mother's response was "Well that's only for people that really need it. Hannah can just stay with us!" I’m really not surprised, but I wish the outcome were different. I’m considering telling my family that we don’t want a party, because I know Hannah will be upset she’s not getting all the attention and my step mother will turn it into a “let’s all pay attention to Hannah because she’s not feeling good about herself” fest. I try to maintain the hope for the best prepare for the worst, but I'm feeling lost. I’m also tired of putting my life on hold for Hannah. I’m happy, and I’m grateful for my life, but if my parents want to celebrate my marriage it would be nice to not have to worry about how Hannah is feeling for one minute of this party. My step mother asked my step brother to go pick Hannah up in North Caroline when she needed to move home. It was his birthday weekend and his friends planned a huge party for him. He canceled the party and went to pick Hannah up because my step mother said “She’s your sister and she needs someone to pick her up.”I understand wanting to support your child, especially with a mental disability like my stepsisters, but I feel like my stepmother is enabling her to the point where Hannah isn't really getting the help she needs. I also feel like she doesn’t realize that she’s hurting the rest of our family by putting Hannah first without considering us before hand. My father doesn't approve of how my step mother handles Hannah so he just stays out of it.It's painful to watch and I don't know what to do. Does anyone have any advice for how I deal with this situation? I want my family to be happy but clearly we’re missing something here. What can I do on my end to help my family?Thanks for the responses so far. I really appreciate the feed back. If I could choose two best answers I would :). more

Resolved Question: My sisters didn't include me, am i over reacting?

Ok so here it is.... I found out on saturday that my two sisters are going on vacation in July with their families, but i wasn't invited... Heres how the hurt all came about... Saturday me and my mom were at my sisters house and she got off the phone all excited and said " wanna see our vacation house?" we were like YA and i asked if i was invited to go.. she didn't say anything.. she gets on line and shows the picture ( its a beach house in North Carolina, we live in Ohio) and i asked again if i was invited, she still didn't say anything...My mom then said "well is Leigh invited" and my sister said " i dont know... i dont know how much room we have" and mom said whos all going and she said her family and my other sisters family... the house is a 4 bedroom and my one sister has 2 boys plus a husband, and mu other one has 2 kids and a new boyfriend with 2 girls. So i know the bedrooms would be taken up, but im sure there are couches at the beach house.... ok So my feelings were VERY hurt because they didnt even ask me. First robyn told mom that i didnt ask to go, i didnt even know they were planning it ( last i heard was at Christmas we were dicussing a house boat at lake cumberland) and then they said that they were full in their cars so i wouldn't be able to ride with anyone on the way down, when i have a new car and would drive myself....there were others things that they said but to me they're all excuses as to y they dont want me there.. There is something else you should know... I have medical issues, have had heart attacks and bypass surgery been going on for 7 years now, but i do smoke. Started back up 3 1/2 years ago cause im fed up with my health issues ( that's another post:) and they said they didnt want me to smoke in their cars or the house... first if the cars were full how could i smoke in them and two im not rude.. i dont smoke in either one of their house so i wouldnt smoke down there!...OK sorry so i think about death A LOT and want to be with my family. I have no kids, had to have a hysterectomy, and my niece and nephews are the apple of my eye. I got a divorce 3 1/2 years ago and moved home to be with them. MY FAMILY IS SO IMPORTANT TO ME!! so when this happened it was like a kick in the stomach. I thought it was mean and cruel not to include me in their plans.. They did tell mom that they thought it was going to be just them and "their families". Am i not a part of that? I think they dont want me there cause then they would feel obligated to include me in ther plans. So AM I OVER REACTING? Am i being petty, or do i have the right to hurt, cause i REALLY do? Its like i dont mean anything to them. Im trying really hard to get over this, but when you think your sisters love you and then they kinda sweep you under the rug when it suites them, it HURTS I would NEVER do this to them!...PLEASE TELL ME WHAT I SHOULD DO??? im so lost right now.. i feel so alone Thank you for listening to me ramble and for your time... LEBEI should add that my neice and nephews are 14, 17, 17, and 18 years old so they arent babies... thanks for the info so far:)I just want to thank everyone for your input on my situation. I hear what everyone has said and i take it all to heart. I understand what you all say about my smoking and i will work on that issue. Thanks again, but my decision pretty much is, im done with them... LEBE more

Voting Question: First Family Vaca..help me budget!?

My Husband and I are planning our very 1st Family Vacation! ( YES ) We live in Michigan and will be traveling to North Carolina to visit my Father in law. We have 2 children, one is 5 and the other is 3, its a 16 hour drive strait through. My Father in law is paying for a car rental and the gas to and from home. We will be staying with him during our 5 days their. We have already decided to pack a cooler for the trip with minimal going out to eat. So we really need money for the activities and things bought while on the trip, and our food. Any advise of figuring out how much needs to be saved would be appreciated! more

Resolved Question: I'm on summer Vacation and don't know what to do.. Help?

It's been summer for a week already... And of course like every 'tween' (I'm 13) I'm bored. Most of my friends are either on vacations or out with their moms or something. Both of my parents are at work during the day, and my mom doesn't come home till 3:30pm. What could I do? I live in North Carolina and I have a pool and trampoline in my backyard. Those do get boring after awhile... Any suggestions??? Thanks in advanced. :) more

Resolved Question: How can I control my fear of tornadoes?

Ever since I can remember I've been terrified of tornadoes. Storms don't scare me, it's just the possibility of severe weather creating a tornado. When I was younger the fear was so bad I wouldn't go outside if there were more than a few clouds in the sky. My family and I are going on vacation to the Outer Banks, North Carolina in a couple days and of course being away from home I'm scared to death of bad storms because there's a possibility. I don't want to sit in the hotel room all day glued to the Weather Channel like I usually am. Is there any way to get over my fear? I'm so sick of the panic attacks and the control over my life this fear has. I just want to enjoy my vacation and my life. Advice? Thanks. more

Voting Question: Family Problems: Please Help?

Here is the story: Since March my parents have been arguing. There was even talk of divorce for a while. During this time we were also trying to get things ready so we can move to North Carolina. Things got better around May, but now they are worse. My dad last night said that he was the problem and so he was going to leave. He was going to move to North Carolina by himself and no one can go with him. Obviously that hurt..a lot. So we all went to bed upset and crying. This morning he told my mom he was leaving today. He couldn't because we have no gas money, but he said he was leaving. He said things like "I am going to leave so you guys won't have health insurance and a house. Then you will have to stay with me and go to North Carolina." (this was to my mom) 3 minutes later he said to my mom" Things are gonna get better, we will get through this." Since then he as been talking about the whole family leaving by August 1st. That only give us one month to fix up the house, sell it, and find a new home/jobs. My mom is going to college and she wants to get her 2 year degree before she quits. My sister has a new school to go to. He is being very impulsive and not listening. I don't know what to say or think or do. I think we should wait until the end of the year(2011) and move then. I think my dad should use his paid vacation days and go to North Carolina by himself to find a job and look at houses, but not quit his job and stay forever at the moment. How do I tell him that? more

Resolved Question: Tell me if im wrong or right.?

I have a guy bestfriend, Im very close with his family ive been on vacations with them i basically go every where with them. I hangout with him and his family every friday we have been bestfriends for about a year and half. 2 weeks ago I was at his house and we walked downstairs cause we were getting ready to walk outside and he went in the kitchen and i went to the front door and opened it but i didnt go outside then i closed it and hid near the bathroom cause i wanted to scare him. Then his mom did not know i was still in the house and what i heard her say is "did she leave" my bestfriend says no and what i heard his mom say is Fuck why is she here, he says she didnt say that but im pretty sure thats what she said, but then when i texted him later on when i got home he said she never said that and that he mom cares about me so i believed him and we made up and that was two fridays ago then yesterday (friday) i went out with them again to his aunts house and target and some other places then when we got finished shopping at target we went to his aunts car to help her put her food away so while my bestfriend and his cousin were sitting in the car waiting his mom and aunt are talking while there putting the food in the trunk and im just standing in the door of the car talking to my bestfriend but i think his aunt and mom did not know i was out of the car. I hear his aunt say "you shouldnt let her go to North carolina with you guys" then his mom says "i know but her mom already said yes." (im suppose to go to NC with them in august to see my bestfriends other aunt and uncle that moved there last summer cause im very close to his other aunt and uncle too like i said i know his whole family and they all love me so i dont understand why this would happen two weeks in a row that i hear his mom saying something bad about me, she even said im like her daughter. When i told my bestfriend all about this last night he said she didnt say that cause he said he asked her. Unless something wrong with my ears how could this of happened two weeks in a row. more

Resolved Question: What should I pack for a lengthy vacation?

I am going on a vacation to North Carolina. I am leaving on June 18th and returning on July 4th. Due to the high cost of baggage, I am bringing one carry on sized suitcase, and my purse. I dress pretty casually usually wearing things like short shorts and t-shirts. I want to know two things I guess, what should I pack, and how should I make the most out of the room in my suitcase that I have. I have access to a washer and a dryer, so cleaning cloths is no problem. we are spending a week of the vacation camping in the appellation mountains, I don't have to bring a sleeping bag or anything but I do need to pack accordingly for that. We will be spending some time on the beach at our beach houses, but we will also spend time in the city at our home. my suitcase has two front pockets and one large middle pocket, and can't weigh more than 40 lbs. I would like a list that I can easily cross things off of, and that includes all necessary things that I will need. I am a girl:) so I have to pack in accordance with that! I have never been camping before, so I have NO clue what to bring for that. I wear basketball shorts and sweatpants in MN where I live, but I don't know if that will work in NC where it is substantially warmer? I am a runner, so I would like my Nikes to be included on the list! I am bringing the bag as a carry on, so everything in it needs to follow the standards for security! Thank you so much, I honestly have no clue what to bring:) I appreciate your time and effort=) oh, and I would rather not wear the same cloths a lot, but I can't bring too much...sorry thats a little confusing=) more

Resolved Question: Is Billy Graham Loved by many in the u.s.a. and the world over?

. Former President George W. Bush shares a hug with Billy Graham while signing copies of his new book "Decision Points" at the Billy Graham Library in Charlotte, N.C. President Barack Obama made a pilgrimage Sunday to Billy Graham's mountainside home, concluding his North Carolina vacation with his first meeting with the ailing evangelist who has counseled commanders in chief since Dwight Eisenhower. If you were of the world, the world would love its own. Yet because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you. (John 15:19) Billy Graham is not hated by the world, but rather, by the admission of his own book, he is "beloved and respected" by the world, and "Hailed as the world's preacher." . more

Resolved Question: Graduation speech help pleeasee. .?

Ok so I have to give a two minute speech beucase of my homeschool group (I really am not to thrilled about this haha) So yes I'm homeschooled & obviously it can't be the same kind of speech as public schooled ones. So give me your thoughts please! I know the ending is really weak right now. . . I would like to start off by saying thank you to everyone who has been a part of my life and has contributed and invested in my life. So mom and dad, thank you. You have been here for me and always have wanted what’s best for me. And to my siblings, you guys are the best. I know sometimes we clash, but I’m really glad you are my siblings. We have had so much fun together. I’m really glad that I had a chance to participate in GCA for three years. I’ve had a lot of fun making new friends and I also had a blast being involved in the drama productions. Thank you to all the teachers and helpers who make CGA work. I’m also grateful for this home church, and for all the friends I have made through it and through all the great teaching I’ve heard here. I can’t believe I’m already to this point of my life. I remember talking with my sister when I was 13 about how in 5 long years I would be 18. Well in a month that will be true. Over the years I have so many great memories. From making messes as would rival some politicians, to vacationing on the outer banks of North Carolina with my family to participating in sports, to name a few things. And, of course, I did school. May not have always been my favorite but yeah. As I look to what’s next in life for me, I’m reminded to trust God for what is in store for me. Jeremiah 29:11 says "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." I really like this verse because as of right now I don’t know exactly what I will be doing next fall. But I know that God knows, and that’s what counts. So thank you friends and family for coming.Thanks for the answers! @ch1klet3 - Ok yea I see what your saying its just that my home school group has a reallly small graduating class. Just me and one other dude. Haha. So yea that's kinda hard because it really can't relate to the public school speeches with the HUGE graduating class. Ugh so that's why I'm trying to fill up my speech with other things .... so yea hope that made sence haha. more

Resolved Question: trip with boyfriend and mom?

I'm 14 turning 15 in september. My boyfriend just turned 16 he's a year older than me. We really like each other and he's my best friend. The past week we were at our tribes pow wow (we're both native american) my family and his family met each other and got along. My parents knew his mom. His mom and him want to me go on vacation with them this summer. We will go to Virginia which is a hour away from where we live (North Carolina) stay the night then come home. I haven't asked my parents yet. Im too afraid and I already know they're going to say no. Im not a bad person, Im very shy,I come home on my curfew, Im still a virgin, and I hang around a good crowd. I believe my parents trust me. Im not ready to lose my virginity yet and he's not either. He has told me plenty of times that he will not force me into anything. I believe him. How can I ask my parents to let me go and convince them? more

Resolved Question: How can i leave? I'm 17?

I'm 17 and my birthday is in february. My boyfriend is in afghanistan and comes home in may. It's not too much longer so i'm dealing with it.... He wants me to marry him when he gets home and move to our house he has picked out in north carolina at the new job he'll have after his deployment. But i won't be 18 for 9 months after he comes home.. We're going to the beach for his vacation week then he's off to NC. :( what can i do? I'll be done with high school this semester but since i'm a minor, Idk if i can go to an out of state college without parental permission... Help? And i do know how stupid i am for wanting to marry this young, yes. I've been told. lol I'M GOING TO COLLEGE AND I HAVE FULL SCHOLARSHIPS :) more

Resolved Question: Winter-themed beach wedding..?

I'm planning a wedding in the Outer Banks of North Carolina in NOVEMBER. It'll be mild weather and we are planning on getting married on the beach. We are stuck on two ideas - Caribbean: casual, colorful, fun and romantic (colors: sea foam green, chocolate brown, medium pink and yellow). Winter theme: formal, romantic ... (colors: gold, pinkish-purplish, light blue). If we were to have a ceremony on the beach how stupid would it be to go back to our vacation home (beach front property) to have a tent decorated with a winter theme? more

Resolved Question: I am so bored with life...I don't know what to do...?

My life is so miserably pathetic its making me want to die. I'm an 18 years old, graduated from high school last year with some pretty decent grades. When I was in high school I had a bunch of cool friends, and even had a pretty hot and really sweet girlfriend. But like a dumb*** I decided to take a year off of school. All my friends went off to universities, my girlfriend and I broke up, and now I have absolutely no one. Since school started back up and everyone left, I have lost interest in pretty much everything. I have no friends, I don't know any girls at all, I have nothing. I do nothing. I go to work at pizza hut almost every day and make like a thousand freaking pizzas, then come home, eat, watch TV, get on facebook and have no new notifications, then I go to bed. Then I do it again the next day. I spend all my money on useless things to try and kill boredom, nice computer, xbox, nice TV, itouch...nothing works. I spend most nights laying in bed thinking about what a loser I am, after I finish watching porn, then I lay there till eventually drift off to sleep, which is pretty much the only time I don't feel like complete crap. It seems like the only people who are still left here are all the kids from my high school who were completely retarded and aren't doing anything with their lives. They sit at the mall all day and I feel sorry for them. I'm so bored and lonely I even tried to hang out with them a couple of times, but they make me feel so pathetic I'd rather sit alone all day. The mall is full of 14 year olds and retards from my high school, and there is NOTHING ELSE TO DO. I only have one friend but his parents think i'm a 'bad influence' so we barely hang out. Most of my friends came back for vacation and we hung out, but now they are all leaving again and its making me feel so empty and useless. Whats even more stupid is, I live with my parents still because I don't know anyone to room with, I don't have my own car (I drive my dads POS around), and I spend all my money on crap I don't even use. I applied to several colleges for next semester, but its so far away I don't know how I'll make it. I'm so tired of this useless cycle, its making me borderline suicidal and I've never thought about anything like that ever before. I thought maybe a vacation would help, and I know this girl in California that I really liked, so I flew out to visit her. Turned out to be the biggest waste of money and time in the history of...forever, and all it did was make me more depressed. I seriously hate my life. The fact that I'm even posting this shows how pathetic I am, there isn't really any advice you guys can give me that I don't already know...I'm just bored, sad, lonely, and depressed and I felt like venting. On a side note, I live in Cary North Carolina, which is like just outside of Raleigh, which is funny because theres some chick who posted a rant, essentially saying the same thing I am, and she lives in High Point NC, which is not too far away from me...North Carolina just sucks I guess...well, actually...the whole south can pretty much kiss my ***. more

Voting Question: Sry when i posted my comment earlier i didn't elaborate so here is the elaboration?

This girl i never met before this semester. It went from us saying hi and bye on facebook to talkinga bout our chem class online to saying hi in class to talking in class and talking outside to talking long hours on facebook about our chem hw. I'd always do the help and she'd always say thank you. I'd say no thank you and she'd say awww your sweet and thanks. One month ago i spent 7 hours in three days doing homework with this girl and helping her and she thanked me. We have each other numbers but i normally start the conversations via text and in person. Then last weekend i spent 24 hours teaching her how to do chem for final. It was 24 hours in 2-3 days spending all day doing chem. I think this is flirting which we did. I'd get close to her. I'd put my arm around her chair and she'd do nothing. We'd stare at each other eyes when i was explaining her things and when i looked in the book she looked at me i could see. Next, i would comfort her about taking finals and she'd always say thank you. Now were on vacation i told her that i'd be in her town for internship stuff and that we should grab lunch. She said that o i'll be in the city one day but to let her know when im around. About a week later i told her on my way back home from north carolina i told her that i'd be there a couple days next week. Now i told her this a week and a couple days in advance so she said that she'll let me know she has to check her schedule!!!. Now im just playing the waiting game. Now its been three days since i last talked to her. Each day i would send one message just to keep things rolling as this never happened to show her that im really comfortable. The first day she said something then signed off. The second day i sent a text she didn't respond and today i sent a message on fb she didn't respond. Is this a bad sign or what? IDK what to do i really like this girl? My plan was after the date was to ask her out on a date? Please help me? more

Resolved Question: can anyone help me gloss a story?

i am an asl student and i have to gloss a story about a family vacation i went on. i already typed the english version now i need the gloss version. please help ill put they story below. A family vacation I went on was to North Carolina with my parents, sister, two cousins, and my aunt & uncle. We went horseback riding, tubing, fishing, and hiking. While horseback riding we went through the mountains. It was so much fun! The horses ran really fast. My horses name was Oreo. The lady told me he was on of the fastest horses their. When ever Oreo would run I felt like I was going to fall. Especially when we were going up the mountain. By the time we got back to the ranch my legs hurt so bad, but it was worth it. When we went tubing it was really hard to stay away from the trees. As the water got faster it got harder to stay out of all the trees. When we went under one of the trees I felt something on my head so I felt to see what it was. When I did that a spider started to crawl down my face. I started to scream and almost jumped out of my tube. The next day while fishing my dad. My uncle Bud, and I all caught huge bass. One was bigger then my dad’s foot. After we all got done fishing and were ready to go the boat wouldn't turn on. My dad and uncle both had to figure out how to fix it. My uncle got the idea to tie a stick to some string and put it around the motor to turn it on as if it was a lawn mower. When they finally got it to work it was almost dark outside. By the time we got home it was about an hour after we planed we would. When we all went hiking we saw so many animals. After walking up the mountain for about 3miles their was a beautiful waterfall. The water falling down was freezing. Everyone climbed up the waterfall to take pictures. While taking pictures my mom slipped and started to slide. Luckily my uncle caught her by the leg. After that we decided it was time to leave. As we hiked back down the mountain I heard screams coming from behind me. When I looked it was my mom, sister, and aunt. I asked what happened and my mom said “ there was a snake crawling on me and Elizabeth ”. that day was the craziest of the vacation. If I could I would defiantly go again. I will never forget my trip to North Carolina. thanks to anyone that helps :) more

Resolved Question: What do you do if you`re studying abroad, and depressed or lonely?

You can leave if you have anything mean or judgemental to say. I`m teaching EFL actually, and I love it but I`m just feeling down lately. I had a great vacation for Christmas day, but I`m back now (not back in the states but back from holiday). I love it here in Mexico but right now I`m feeling depressed and lonely. I`ve made some friends here but no one seems to have time for me or be interested in talking to me. I have some friends who are guys and would like to call them but I worry that they don`t care, or they would have called me. I absolutely hate North Carolina, which is where I lived before I came here and the thought of going back makes me sick but I long to be with my mom and cuddle my dog right now. They seem so distant that I almost feel like I just dreamed them and they never existed in reality. Lately, I`ve just wanted to cry because I feel bored and adrift. I want to talk to someone, but I don`t know who. I also met someone when I was on holiday but to make a long story short, I need to get over him. It`s tough because it`s the latest in a series of disappointments with guys. I`ve always been really interested in Mexican guys, and thought it would be amazing if I could date one but I`ve never met one that returned my feelings. I feel like I`m destined to wind up with some redneck who works at UPS, farts, and watches football. Just another reason I don`t want to return to the states. I don`t want to go home to North Carolina. I never thought of North Carolina as home but just a place to escape. It`s easy to judge me and say something mean like, you don`t deserve to be teaching abroad, but if you do, it shows you haven`t been there. I feel so grateful to have this opportunity but emotionally all I can see is, I`m feeling sad right now. I don`t want to call my mother and tell her I`m depressed and lonely. I feel like I should handle this without being dependent. Furthermore, she`s not here to comfort me. I don`t regret coming here, but I just wish that I had a friend to talk to. I`m feeling lost because I need to talk to someone, and don`t know WHO.Thank you if you have anything helpful to say, by the way.I just feel bored and restless. Should I call one of my friends, or would they have already called me? Perhaps they`re thinking the same thing? I`m just going through one of those rough spots, I guess. more

Voting Question: Should I uproot my family?

I moved to a suburb of Atlanta, GA in 2005. I moved here from Fort Lauderdale Florida so that I could purchase a home for my son (at the time, I had only 1) and give him a real neighborhood feel. Now I lived in a nice place in Florida, it just wasn't "Pleasantville" or so I thought. 5 years later, I have 2 more children and I have a husband (I married my best friend from Florida). I am pregnant with my fourth child and I have a very good job and profession. I still live in my home, however; things have changed. I have found "Georgia" to be biased, racist, full of crime and close-minded. I have lived in New York (where I am from originally), Connecticut, California, Philadelphia, Florida, Delaware and North Carolina. I am very happy that I had those experiences, because now I can tell the difference; Georgia is by far the most close-minded state I have ever resided in. This is to all people, Mexico, African American, Asian...I fell like dang who do you like. The only thing I can see that is unifying in Georgia in Football. And let's not forget about the crime; and I live in an "upper middle class" area! The point is that my father moved to Georgia in 2006 to be closer to me. He is a retired business man and he is currently building a vacation home in Jamaica and he plans to eventually live there 70% of the time and Georgia 30%. But we are very close and he is laying this guilt trip on me for wanting to go back to South Florida. I do not plan on moving again, I used to feel, having grown up in South Florida, that people down there live a bit disconnected from the rest of the world; this experience makes me feel like....that may not be a bad thing. I guess my overall question is; should I go and should I feel guilty moving away from my father and step-mother?...I forgot to mention that my husband was never really a fan and he only tolerated it here because of me, he is also ready to go. ..But is it worth the uproot? more

Voting Question: Estate Planning/Wills/Inheritance/Trust?

George and Martha Jones need help. They provide the following information: 1.George is 45 yrs old, Martha is 39. They live in Salisbury, Md. George was married before(his first wife died when he was 30 yrs old) and he has two children from the prior marriage- Jeffrey who is 21 yrs old and in his last year of college, and Jean, who is 17 years old and in her last year of high school. Jeffrey wants to go to grad school at Univ of Maryland to earn his MBA, and Jean wants to go to Salisbury University, and may also want to continue on to graduate school. 2.George and Martha have been married for 10 years. This is Martha’s first marriage. They have two children together- Linda who is 7 years old, and Louie who is 5 years old. 3.Martha is a stay-at-home Mom, but has recently started a home-based business selling used clothing on eBay. Her net income is about $300 per month, but she is excited about the business and thinks it will grow bigger over the years. 4.George is a partner in an engineering consulting firm, which he has started with 2 other colleagues three years ago. It is doing extremely well. Last year the business has a gross income of $600,000 and their year it should be gross close to $900,000. Each partner’s individual income comes to about 1/3 their share of half of the business gross income. George and his other partners are very talented engineers, but unfortunately they are not great businessmen and have not taken the time to have any legal documents drawn up, other than a very basic general partnership agreement, which provides that all 3 partners share equally in the profits and expenses. 5.George and Martha own their own home. They purchased it when they got married for $300,000 and it is now worth $600,000. They have a mortgage balance of $100,000. The other assets are: a.A checking account- $5000 b.2 savings accounts- $100,000 each c.An investment account made up of stocks and bonds and mutual funds- $300,000 d.George’s IRA- $250,000 e.A vacation condo in North Carolina worth $175,000 f.2 vehicles- one worth $15,000 and one worth $25,000 g.Miscellaneous furniture and furnishings, which include valuable antiques appraised at $75,000 h.A house in Virginia that George and his brother Jim, inherited from their parents, worthy $250,000 with no mortgage i.The condo in Salisbury that George owned prior to his marriage with Martha, which is now being rented out. The condo is worth $175,000 6.George has a whole life insurance policy with a face value of $1,000,000. Martha is the primary beneficiary, and his four children are the successor beneficiaries. 7.Martha has a whole life insurance policy with a value face of $50,000. George is a primary beneficiary, and Linda and Louie are the successor beneficiaries. Both George and Martha trust each other to take care of the other’s health and financial affairs while they are alive. After George dies, if Martha is still alive, he wants to make sure she is provided for. However, he also wants to make sure that his children from the prior marriage are provided for as equally as Linda and Louie. In the short-term, he especially wants to assist Jeff and Jean with their medical expenses. After Martha dies, if George is still alive, she wants to make sure that he is provided for, and wants Louie and Linda provided for on an equal basis if George is not alive. Martha also has a sister, Rose, who is autistic. Rose lives in a group home and is receiving government assistance, and Martha is her legal Guardian. Martha wants to make certain that Rose will eb cared for and provided for if Martha predeceases Rose, but does not want to do anything to interfere with Rose’s government assistance. George is in agreement with this. Using the above facts, devise an estate plan for George and Martha. Include the following: 1.List specifically the information you need to elicit in addition to the above facts, and the information received. You must not change the above facts, but you can add additional facts based on the questions you need to ask. 2.Specifically describe the types of documents you think George and Martha would need, and might want, in order to make sure their interests are protected while they are alive, and after each passes away. Include the people George and Martha will need to designate to carry this out. Make sure to cover all personal healthcare, family, business, tax, probate, and other inheritance matters. Include in your description the particulars of what you would propose to assure that George and Martha’s stated goals will be carried out. 3.In developing your plan, specify all relevant tax aspects and consequences of which George and Martha will need to be aware of, and your proposals for tax-savings. more

Voting Question: How should I help my dear classmate?

This summer my classmate, Amanda, flew to North Carolina to vacation. Then her parents roadtripped from there to Niagara Falls and it was her dream to go there forever. Why her parents did it? Her parents had to go to Iraq in July so they wanted to do a vacation of a life-time this summer. Then they came home, and she enjoyed the last 2 weeks with them before they departed. Her grandmother moved in to watch her while they would be gone for a rough 4-6 months. They left and it was a few weeks. Her grandmother got mad and abused my dear classmate. And her parent's died. So that was that. Amanda has no other family, so now she lives in a foster home. Her grandmother is in a rehabilitation center for the mentally ill in her home state. Amanda was a little over-weight last school year by a solid 4 pounds. Now she is under-weight this year by a WHOLE lot. She is very depressed and she has changed. She still tends to talk to me since I am trustful and honest and understanding to her. She is very sick right now and depressed and I would like to help her. I would like her to get back to her social status. She had a lot of friends last year, but now she only has 4 she talks too. So I would like her to earn all of them back, be happy again and forget about her summer tragedy. I would like to also let her get back to a healthy weight. I am friends with her friends from last year, so I was thinking about a surprise sleepover? Comments and ideas and please help! I would like to be a true friend and role model and inspiration to her and she does admire me in some ways~ Thanks! -Sarah. more

Resolved Question: Help planning vacation in southeast US for December!!?

Planning my four year anniversary vacation. I live in Charleston, SC. I want to travel as close to home as possible because we are on a budget. I am considering Tennessee, Georgia, maybe North Carolina, or anywhere within that radius. Originally, I had planned on booking our trip for Gatlinburg/Pigeon Forge, TN, but even though it is beautiful there in December, it seemed a little more boring than I remembered. I am considering Savannah, GA, but am not sure what to do/where to stay. Also, I am not really interested in going to Florida, and beaches are not really of interest, but will be considered. I want to try and keep the accomodations under $100/night if possible. It will be a Thursday-Saturday trip, so I want it to be a romantic weekend but nothing too cheesy. I like the idea of a king size bed and a hot tob. Something quiet where we can relax and have privacy. We want to avoid anything too crowded or family oriented. We love trying out new restaurants and night life would be a plus. We will probably spend a lot of time in our hotel/lodging just relaxing so this is the most important thing. I would like something more luxurious, but I've been overwhelmed with choices. Any help would be greatly appreciated!!! If you've stayed in any of these locations and have tips, please share! Thanks for all the help!! EricaI did look at several cabins most of the cheaper ones for couples honestly didn't appeal to me. The furniture looked old and that whole rustic decor kinda turned me off. The nicer, more updated cabins were a little more expemsive, and I was ok with that, but by the time you add cleaning fees and tax that's another $100. At this point I think I would prefer a nice luxury hotel, preferably with room service and a jacuzzi in the room. more

Resolved Question: Can anyone recommend any good restaurants in OBX, North Carolina?

My fiance and I are going to Corolla, NC for our honeymoon, and I was hoping to find some recommendations for good restaurants in the area. While I've been vacationing there with my parents for the past sixteen years, we rarely went out to eat (having rented beach houses with fully-stocked kitchens), so I'm not familiar with most of what's around, or what's really good. We'd like to go to one really, really nice restaurant (not super fancy, but not jeans & t-shirt either), and probably one really fun, casual place. (We'll also be in a rental home, so we'll be staying in more often than not.) Anywhere from Corolla down to Nags Head would be great, but any further than that might be a little far to go! Thanks for any help and suggestions! more

Resolved Question: Do you like this name?

So I don't get reported I am going to ask... Do you like the name Bentely Gabriel Nelson (BNG)? Okay.... 1) You are 22 years old and you recently graduated from college. What college? 2) At your new job, _____________ in the city of ______________. What is your new job? What city is it? 3) You meet a wonderful man. You fall in love and __________ years later you get married. How many years do you date? 4) After 5 years of being married you decide your ready for a family. And boom! You get pregnant with twin boys. What do you name them? (any names you want but noth names must start w/ the same letter) 5) When your boys and 3 you decide it is time for another one. Although this time it isn't as easy. You go see and doctor and get tests done. It takes a full year when you realize you can't get pregnant. So you decide to adopt. You adopt a little baby girl. She is 6 months old when you adopt her & you change her name. Her name was Hannah. But you change it and keep Hannah as her middle name. What do you name her? (you must change her name) 6) When the boys are 7 and the little girl is 4 you and your husband go on a vacation for your wedding anniversary. Where do you go? 7) On the vacation, you come home and start feeling sick are shocked when you find out your pregant. This time you have twins again. 1 Boy and 1 Girl. What do you name them? (both names can be anything you like but must start with different letters and middle names must be unisex names) 8) When your twin boys and 10, your little girl is 7 and your other set of twins are 2. You decide to move to a new home where the school systems are good. Where do you move? What does your home look like? (provide a picture). 9) On your first night in the new home. You are your husband...well to your suprise make another baby. This time it is a girl again. What do you name her? (It must be a name that starts with a letter you haven't used yet). 10) Now you have a wonderful family. Lots of kids. A good job. A wonderful husband. Wonderful friends. Good home and community. So you decide it is time for one big family vacation. Where do you go? Question: I don't really like the name I chose. 1) College: University of North Carolina Chapel Hill 2) City: Boston, MA........Assistant Editor @ the Boston Globe 3) Date/Engaged: 3 years. Get Married: Greenwich, Connecticut at his parents home. 4) Alden Thomas & Adam Daniel 5) Meghan Hannah 6) Vacation: Key West, Florida 7) Liam Matthew & Emma Rose 8) Milton, MA Home: http://www.bostondesignguide.com/files/images/2008/Behrend_ExtBD09new_0.jpg 9) Chloe 10) Walt Disney World I have: Alden, Adam, Meghan, Ava, Emma & Chloe more

Resolved Question: Where should we visit?

Hi, We are a family from new York city which went on a week vacation to north carolina, nags head to be precise. As you can see, due to the coming horricane, we need to evacuate, however, we don't want to go back home, but spend the extra days to travel to places we didn't plan to from the beginning. We were wonder if the community could recommend us on places we should stop by, even spend the night on the way back from nc to ny. It no necessarily need to be on the direct path, but please don't send us to San diago, etc. Please list the city and what are the main attractions to make our life easier....we already feel pretty bad from losing our vacation for the bad weather. Thx more

Resolved Question: Michelle Obama has 26 assistants, and takes a massive # of vacations at OUR expense. Is she "Marie Antoinette"?

Since becoming First Lady nineteen months ago, Michelle Obama has vacationed overseas in Paris, London, Copenhagen and Marbella. She still has a family vacation booked to Indonesia and Australia that has been twice postponed this year because of her husband's incompetence and rudeness. She also vacationed in Los Angeles this year, sans her husband, sitting in a luxury box for an NBA championship game and visiting a private beach owned by a billionaire. Barack and Michelle Obama have also vacationed across America from Hawaii to Maine, with stays at a $4,000 rental home in Hawaii, Martha's Vineyard (with a second trip there later this month) taken over 300 rooms at a Montana resort, traveled through Western National Parks, two Chicago vacation weekends, one weekend vacation each in North Carolina and Maine (with a Florida weekend planned next week) and the infamous date night in New York City. When the Obamas don't feel like traveling the world, they bring the world to them at taxpayer expense, including a pizza chef from St. Louis and all kinds of performers for their White House parties. more

Resolved Question: Aching neck, bad headache, loss of appetite and fatigue.?

OK I know I need to go see a doctor but my current doctor is really no help. trust me..... Anyway about a week ago July 1 I came home from a beach house vacation in North Carolina with no appetite, chills ,hot rushes, throwing up, and a bad headache which lasted about two days. Then I started to feel better when suddenly I found myself with a stuffy nose and no desire for food. No matter how hard I try I cannot get down a bowl of pretzels and a cup of tea! If I do I get a slight stomach ache and now I have both a headache and a neck ache! Please help! Let me have your opinions on what illness you think this is! more

Resolved Question: What are your plans for the July 4th weekend?

If your in America that is. If not, what's poppin for Canada Day? And if your in UK... what are you gonna do this weekend? For me, I've been staying at my aunts all weekend as a mini vacation away from my house lol. But I'm going home tonight to finnish packing because I'm going to North Carolina to the beach until Monday. :) more

Resolved Question: should i go to a concert or the beach?

I really want to go to this concert at Myrtle Beach SC on July the 29th. It's at the House of Blues!!! The dilema: My family is going on vacation in Seabrook Island, SC (3 hours away from myrtle beach) during the concert date. My parents have already told me either I can go to the beach, or stay home and go to the concert on its date. One of my friends wants to go . They said they would be willing to drive down to Seabrook and then drive back up to the concert with me. My parents think its too much for one person to do though. I'm just upset, because the last time this artist ( who is Ke$ha by the way ) came around here it was in Nashville, and I missed it. Now she is in SC at the beach!!!! But i'm not sure I want to give up vacation days for it. Do you ever think she will come around North Carolina ever again by herself? What do you think I should do? more

Resolved Question: What are some good sites to find cheap beach vacation houses on?

I have used vacationrentals.com but i cannot find any more and i still want to keep looking. I am looking for a house in either Maryland, Virginia, or north Carolina. We are looking for beach homes and as cheap as possible, we want them to be actual houses or cottages not condos. Any site suggestions would be greatly appreciated. more

Resolved Question: Where do I find last minute vacation homes ?

Looking for a good legit website to find last minute vacation deals. Especially deals on homes near beaches in Maryland, Virginia or North Carolina, somewhere around there. I have heard that there deals out there but don't know anyone who has done this. more

Resolved Question: can my mom get custody of my child in another state?

my family went to a family vacation before my daughter surgery and i let my mom get my daughter for a week so she could spend time with her before the surgery and mom said she was coming down for the surgery and she would bring her back well two days before the surgery mom called down in north carolina and fussed out my daughter doctor and told them she had full custody of her and that she wasnt bring her home for the surgery and she was taking her from me can she do dat more